Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
There are several myths to do with vaginas, from their tightness to things that could result in them getting ‘looser’ and such, which I’m sure many of us have heard of through the grapevine. From a virgin’s vagina supposedly being incredibly tight to women who are regularly sexually active being loose as the Grand Canyon. As if having regular intercourse wouldn’t suffice, I’m sure ‘once you go black, you never go back’ sounds quite familiar to many! Those from North America, at least.
Heck, many people, even my own boyfriend, still believe that having a child will leave a woman too permanently loosened for her, much less the man, to enjoy sex any more. If not, then I’m sure anyone who’s browsed the sexual behaviour or sexual health topics on GaG has run across the several threads we seem to have posted quite often about how virgin hunters seek a ‘tight virgin pussy’, or will accept nothing else because they don’t want a woman ‘pre-stretched’ by previous partners.
Myths that will be touched on include:
- The virgin vagina is very tight
- Frequent sex loosens the vagina, therefore women shouldn’t be promiscuous
- Childbirth permanently loosens the vagina
Though I once took these myths as the truth, I’ve since come to learn that they’re anything but. That no, simply having a child, engaging in regular sexual activity, or having partners who happen to fall above the average package size will not result in the woman becoming ‘damaged goods’.
Let’s take a bit of an anatomy lesson to dispel the first myth; that a virgin is by default any tighter than a non-virgin.
The vagina is a canal composed of muscular tissue, right?
I don’t know about you, but I’ve never heard of a muscle being any tighter than average solely because it has never/seldom been used. I mean, the only way that logic would work is if muscle was like silly-putty. Where it’s all condensed at fist and once you put a hole in it, it’s forever ‘looser’. Obviously muscle fibers are not in any way like that. Even if they’ve never been used, they’re capable of keeping form. The main thing that use of them will do is actually tighten them, or build some bulk.
There is also a widespread belief that women who are sexually untouched have a tighter vaginal opening because of the intact hymen, which a man can discern through intercourse.
…Yet another mistaken assumption. The tightness of the vagina is not caused by the hymen membrane but as a result of a contracted pelvic floor muscle. The more it is contracted, the narrower the vaginal canal is.
Though in the event of penetration, the hymen might be scarred, it is more often nothing more than stretched and is left undamaged.
Back to the things concerning the vaginal canal...
If a woman experiences pain and/or great difficulty inserting a tampon or accepting an erection, the cause may be vaginismus, unusual clenching of the vaginal muscles. For suspected vaginismus, consult a physician.
If the vagina simply feels "too tight" during lovemaking, the woman is either not interested in sex, or she has not had enough warm-up time to allow her vaginal musculature to relax enough for comfortable insertion, which will result in them becoming much looser than they were initially.
Now moving onwards… have you ever heard of anything that makes muscles permanently ‘loose’ or fall slack? No?
Exactly.
The vagina's tightly folded muscle tissue is very elastic, like an accordion or the mouth. Try this: Pull the corners of your mouth out toward your ears then let go. What happens? The mouth immediately snaps back to its pre-stretched state because the tissue is elastic. Do it 100 times. There's no permanent stretching. The mouth quickly returns to its pre-stretched state and no one would ever know you'd stretched it.
You could look at the vagina of a sexually active woman, promiscuous or not, in the same way.
There’s no such thing as it becoming forever tighter or looser (with the exemption of trauma). Hell, you’ll notice fluctuations in that on a day-by-day basis, depending on how stressed the woman is, where she is in her menstrual cycle, etc..
Let’s look at the idea that having a child will leave a woman significantly looser.
Yes, the vagina stretches a great deal during childbirth, almost like an accordion opened all the way. Does it re-tighten completely Post-partum, though?
Yes. Usually, at least in young women in their late teens or early twenties, at least. Within six months after delivery, the typical young woman's vagina feels pretty much how it was before she gave birth.
Nowadays, however, many woman delay childbearing until after 30, with some having children even after after 40. In instances such as this, combining the rigors of older childbearing in addition to the effects of aging on muscles not exclusive to the vaginal canal, and you’ll have many women complaining of looseness. Which doesn’t necessarily have to be viewed as a bad thing... I mean. You can’t imagine a woman popping out 8+ children and her body coming out of unscathed, especially when you throw in things such as what age she’s at, how many children there have been thus far, etc.
In a nutshell-
A woman being undesirable because she’s promiscuous in nature and therefore ‘loose’, is something you’re perfectly entitled to feel, though is not much more than a belief that was quite commonly held in the past.
Any type of virginity test that relies on the observation of the hymen or of the tightness of the vagina is inconclusive at best, if not completely invalid. The belief that it is easier to discern the virgin state of a woman than a man is more of a fable than a scientific fact. A fable that is still unfortunately widely believed and practiced largely to subjugate women.
No-one, neither a woman nor a man, should ever be compelled to endure such questioning, regardless of the reliability of the exam.
A virgin may be tighter than your average woman due to anxiety and the resulting muscle tension, though do we really want to be putting so much worth on what lays between a woman’s legs in the first place?
What Girls & Guys Said
13 21lol yeah right.
It seems to me that the more promiscuous society becomes, the less it actually understands sex (or even the human body in general). I've actually seen several instances of someone asking if boob sex can result in a pregnancy.
I think it's like this when the society is too reticent toward sex.
@GreatnessRevamped Then explain why I, a Christian, seem to know more about sex than most other people on this site.
LMFHO! SMFH! 😃😄😂😏
@Johnagain I took health class. How about this. Pop Quiz: Without looking it up, how effective a method of contraceptive is the "pulling out" method?
ZERO! As far as I'm concerned because pre-cum can have sperm cells to impregnate even without ejaculation.
@Johnagain correct. also because even if a single drop of semen gets in, that's still billions of sperm cells.
anyway, read this: sin-and-love.deviantart.com/.../Christianity-Sex-Marriage-and-Masturbation-557505303
I had a friend who's dating this gir and complains that she's bad at sex, isn't flexible but loves that she has tight pussy. He's saying she's like a virgin but what I think it is they're just not sexually compatible.
it´s easy for a guy to claim a virginity test, when there´s no such thing for men. if you don´t trust your partner, then don´t get with them. good take.
just wanted to point out that the ”vagina loosens during arousal” part, though mentioned on many seemingly legit websites, does not ring true for all/most women. i have spoken to a few girls on here who are like me, get tighter (swollen) when aroused. it's quite noticible. i don't understand why the opposite is often listed as a fact.
hmm strange? Perhaps you get tighter because the vagina gorges with blood when you get aroused (like a guys penis), but the vagina does loosen during childbirth. Google positive hormonal feedback during birth. I could see this occurring during sex, but I don't know.
@howzit2015 i don't quite get what you mean? i'm not talking about childbirth nor have i experienced it. i'm not asking if anyone can see this happening, i experience this each and every time i become aroused and throughout the entire duration. it has nothing to do with sex. it's how my body reacts during arousal.
there are nerves in vagina that when pressure is placed on them they tell brain to release hormones that relax ligaments and muscles in the uterine canal and vagina. I would assume that these nerves would produce a similar function during sex as they do during birth. They are mechanoreceptors that are unbiased to sources of pressure. So I think thats why people think the vagina gets looser during sex, but I don't know why you have the opposite experience
@howzit2015 i am not just talking about sex. when masturbating i do not insert anything just clitoral stimulation because i cannot orgasm with something is inserted. i do check with a finger and notice that the walls are very swollen and firm on my finger. whether 2 minutes or 2 hours, this is how i've always been. i also cannot orgasm after drinking alcohol.
Vagina science, fascinating.
i want a virgin girl and that is reason i am still a virgin and i don't think it is wrong a person think exactly opposite to my thoughts :-)
Thank you for this :) We don't talk so much about this in my culture :)
Every husband's love decrease for his wife after child birth. Explain that.
Could not be more false.
How are you alive today, being so retarded?
I've slept with a few girls with kids (all under 30) and they were looser, girls like to think the vagina can't become loose and it's just bad luck or neglect if it does. Childbirth usually ruins a woman's body, it's rare that it doesn't. A regular pummeling with something big with stretch the fibers too, ex gymnasts remain flexible as fuck. Oh, and looseness is a terrible thing.
Dude I know a girl who loved to be listed and her vagina prolapsed. Also heard that gays have to wear diapers
I've seen some women support this while others do not. everybody should keep an open mind and be happy with what they get, without judgement
its still a gross, ugly looking place though. women can be pretty in other places.