Naked pictures before first date?

[Anonymous]

What would you think if someone sent you a picture of their private part before your first date. Do you think its creepy, flattering, fun or indifferent.

[Tamikaze]

It would show me he was not serious about me, but had already categorized me as casual sex material only.

I know some people get confused and consider sexting as flirting, but it isn't. If you two were talking and sexting, you have sent this guy a message not to take you seriously. Further, he may have only been trying to get to FWB with you anyways. If you two had not sexted at all and he did this, I would think he was a big creeper.

Now, if you are the one considering sending a naked pic to someone you have not even been on a date with, don't do it, not if you want any potential for a relationship to exist. Sexting and sending nudies is a huge sign that all you want is sex and guys will quickly lose any thoughts about what else you may have to offer in their rush to jump into bed with you. Never forget, relationships are not about sex, they are about emotional attachment. Sex is a nice bonus you get from a relationship, but it doesn't cause one to happen and it isn't enough to keep one going.

[Asker]

Oh no no no. I don't elieve in sending naked pix out there like that. I believe if I want someone to see my body I would show them in person. But this was the first day we started speaking. We said hi exchanged personality info and then boom a pic of his member. I was so shock I couldn't believe it. I asked him why he did it and he said he felt a bit fun today and if I didn't like it. I told him it was not appropriate and he said I wasn't fun and we would have to change that.

[Tamikaze]

Oh, wow, what a major creeper. I went on one date with a guy and it was an awkward one. He bought me one drink and pretty much acted like he did not like me the whole time. He seemed very insecure. I knew we would not date again, but shortly after he suddenly was trying to send me pics through text. Initially I couldn't get them and told him that and later I realized he was trying to send me pics of his package. It took months of ignoring him to get him to stop trying to contact me.

[Tamikaze]

Reading your updates, this guy sounds so much like the creep who cyber-stalked me. I told him several times to stop trying to send me pics of him but he kept telling me to get over it, that he knew I would like it, etc. He was such a major jerk. That is when I had to stop all contact because he could have cared less what I had to say. You need to just let this guy know he is a jerk and to not contact you and then don't respond. No one who is reasonable and decent would ever do this.

[Asker]

This is why I get a google voice number in my area that rings directly to my phone when a person calls. If I don't like them I can block them online and they hear a message that says the number is disconnected. It is great. You should try it

[Tamikaze]

Thankfully I am engaged so I have no more worries. Good tip.

[Asker]

Congrats. Wishing you many happy years

[xobrowneyedbeauty]

creepy! he probably just wants sex if he's doing that. I wouldn't ever send a naked pic to someone let alone before we've gone on a date!

[Standingpretty]

100% creepy, that's really not something you do before the first date.

[stubbsy]

I have looked at your age group which means this guy isn't much younger than me and I can asure you, blokes at anywhere near the age of 16 don't do things like this so, I am pleased you decided against his advances, because this guy has danger written all over him, its made me sick in my mouth a little reading it again lol, hope something better finds you soon,x

[Asker]

I am 29 and this guy is 42. He wrote me this morning and I told him we were not a match and he procedwd to call me a fat virgin nerd and wished me well. It was bizarre to say the least. Never in my life thought a man his age would behave like a five year old.

[stubbsy]

Well I'm glad you showed your talents to this guy, jsut goes to show that, behind a wire or a screen, you can portrqay anything to anyone, so making sure you get to know someone is essential, to many freeks get into society which makes it a dodgy game this dating lark, I say well played on your part, x

[Phoenix1991]

Uhhh, I would still go on that date with them, but I wouldn't plan on expecting a relationship with that person. Its somewhat bazaar but EH some people have unique views on life.

[Asker]

Well I am not going. It freaked me out.

[Phoenix1991]

don't blame you.

[MrOracle]

Even though I'm a guy, and there IS a double-standard (meaning: as a guy, of COURSE I would enjoy seeing the pictures), it would still be inappropriate, and a red flag, and there wouldn't be a first date.

[stubbsy]

That is just creepy, he is showing his maturity age which is about 5, I would stay clear of this weirdo, something not right in the head with this one.,x

[ComputerTech22]

creepy

[SmokingJoe]

A girl I've been talking to for a week has sent me a few of her nudes. We are planning on having sex right off the bat though. I don't think it's weird. It's made me feel a lot more comfortable asking her what she is into/ me telling her what I'm into. I'm supposed to meet her in a few days, for our first date, and I'm a lot less nervous now.

[SunSeeker]

There would be no first date.

[sunmonster]

Totally inappropriate. That's setting the relationship to be purely sexual.

I would probably cancel the date, haha.

[Asker]

Totally agree

[jimmy217]

id think she wanted to date me for the wrong reasons

[Anonymous]

Dude. Penis is ugly. Why would you ever send a picture of it to a girl before she's seen it in real life?

[Anonymous]

i would no longer be interested. obviously

[Anonymous]

I would call them retard and idiot and leave them in same second, If I was girl* *As man never would do that.