Nervous about blowjobs?

I've never given a blowjob before and my boyfriend has been hinting lately. I want to give him one and I'm actually really curious about trying it, but when it comes time to do it, I'm not sure I could go through with it just because I'm so nervous about it. Any tips to get over the fear? Any general tips on giving a blowjob would be helpful too!
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Working your way down is a good idea, that's what I did my first time. Depending on whether you're a pretty vocal person or not, telling him first may help give you more of a nudge to do it. I kept all my thoughts to myself, though, I didn't even tell him what I was going to do lol so it was kinda fun to surprise him. I started off using my hand since I was already comfortable with that, then gradually worked my way down.

    The first time is mostly just getting used to the feel of it; you can try more fancy things later on when you're more comfortable. Trust me, he's not gonna be concerned about anything at all while your mouth is down there lol.

    I tend to use both my mouth and hand at the same time, which is something to try, because you can do a lot of different things at once. One tip I would give you is to change it up; don't stay in one area doing the same thing.. that's good when he's about to finish, but when you're just turning him on, explore everywhere. Explore as much as you're comfortable with, and pay attention to his reactions to see what he likes best.

    It's really just your nerves getting you worked up, it's not that bad at all; afterward, I was like "That was nothing to be so worried about" lol. And it gets easier every time because you get to feel more confident about it. If you're comfortable talking to him about it afterwards, maybe asking for tips or what he liked best, that'll help you even more.

  • Ah, the first bj. I understand your fear. It is very difficult to get yourself down there the first few times. Well, I have a few suggestions. You can start kissing his neck/chest and work your way down, kissing downward until you're where you want to be. You can be kissing him on his mouth like normal, say "be right back!" and go down there. You can start with a hand job and when you've worked up the courage, move your mouth down there too. It's mostly a matter of working up the nerve to actually do it. I think my first time I had to actually tell him what I was about to do because I just wasn't brave/smooth enough to get down there without announcing my plans. As far as actually doing it, just be careful not to scrape your teeth on his penis, don't be afraid to get him wet, and just play around! You'll figure it out, down worry too much. He'll be glad you're trying it for him in the first place :)

  • I know exactly how you feel to be honest. I was so nervous. I actually planned a day and time to do it. It took a lot of courage just to tell him that we were going to do those things. But once I told him, I knew he would be upset if I backed out. Which was what got me to finally do it. I was so nervous that I actually made myself sick, but once I did it, I knew it was one of those things that no matter what age or what day or married or not, you will always be that nervous. Always. You can't not experience the nerves with this one. You just have to tell yourself that after the first time. The second time is hard still but way easier. And the third, I mean, You don't feel like a pro... but... it's way easier. This is coming from a girl who started this literally three weeks ago. Same situation everything. Hope this helps. If you want to talk anymore just message me. I'll be here.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Maybe practicing on an inanimate object would ease your mind. If you have a penis shaped sex toy that would be perfect but you could always use a banana or something with the same general shape. Also if you haven't given him a handjob maybe you should try that first. If anything it will help you gain confidence about pleasuring him. You have to walk before you run.

    Your guy won't be too critical either. Just the fact that his penis is in your mouth will get him very excited.

    The analogy I find works is to treat it as a lollipop. Think of what you do with a lollipop. You lick it, suck on it, you brush it on the insides of your mouth, run your lips slowly over it. Keep in mind that just because it's called a blowjob it doesn't mean you need to have it inside your mouth the whole time. You can alternate between your mouth and your hands which will help when your jaw gets sore.

    If he's an understanding guy he should be understanding about it and give you constructive feedback.

  • What is the fear? Not sure about that part unless you don't trust him and want him to let you do it. Maybe even let you know when he is gonna pop. Hopefully he is completely reliant on you. Otherwise I would be afraid too. Personally I enjoy a light touch. Let the sensual connection between you work its magic. And don't forget one hand on the balls at all times. Move em up move em down caress them all around. Very sensitive they are!

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  • I'm not sure if this is for everyone, but I watched porn. I think it helped because I got to see someone give a blowjob and get used to the idea. It didn't seem so foreign and scary because I'd seen it a dozen times or so.

  • I was the same way! I hadn't given one, but I really wanted to because I wanted to please my boyfriend and I was simply curious. To be honest, the first time I did finally get the courage to go down on him was after I had a few drinks in me...liquid courage hahaha. But once I finally did I couldn't believe how easy it was, there is really nothing to worry about. If you're worried about technique, I suggest watching a little porn, and if he doesn't like something, he'll most likely tell you!

  • Leave it for marriege. He will love to know when he kissed you that not other dude's d*** was in there.