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No more blowjobs?

When I started going out with my girlfriend 2 years ago she was a proper slut (in the good way). She gave amazing blowjobs and t*tw*nks, sometimes shed even tell me to come on her t*ts. That all lasted a couple of months then she slowed down and eventually stopped, I just thought id done something or she couldn't be bothered anymore, but when I asked she said nothing was wrong and it was all in my head. Recently the subject came up again and she said that she doesn't know why she stopped but she wasn't going to give me a blowjob again because she can't remember how to do it and its better for me if she doesn't. I go down on her and have sex when ever she wants it but after this I just can't be bothered with sex anymore. my question is, do you think I've done something to upset her, is she just not interested in pleasuring me anymore or was she just doing it at the start so Id stay with her?
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its interesting to see that guys say its her fault and should just dump her and girls think its my fault and the only way to resolve the situation is by talking to her.
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well I took the girls advice and told her that I know I've done something wrong and said I didn't want her to do anything anymore but just wanted to know what I did wrong so I can apologize but still she swears I havnt done anything
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Most Helpful Girls

  • You need to be blunt with her. Ask her why and not the bs she is giving you. Something triggered it. It could be her friends told her she was demeaning herself or maybe you did accidentally do something that made her not want to do it anymore. Maybe she really hates them and it was new before so she wanted to please you. No matter what it is she has a reason. Be sure you do not attack her or make her feel bad just tell her you want to understand it better. Also you need to think about what you are going to do when you do get your answer. If she really hates them do you really want to make her do something she doesn't like. Don't threaten her with not going down on her that really will not get you anywhere good. I think you are taking it very personally when there is a good chance that is not how it was intended. It is not that she does not care for you or want to make you feel good, she may think that the daily sex you are having is enough to express that.

    • Well did she say why? Give you any idea at all? You did the right thing. If you just dump her without even talking to her about it first then you really didn't even care about saving it in the first place. But now you really have kinda doomed yourself to a life of no blowjobs since you told her you did not want her to do anything anymore. If you bring it up again you will need to be careful how you word it. I have a feeling she just never really liked giving them in the first place.

    • She used to say she loved giving me them and loved my reactions so I believe her. I think id be fine with a life of no blowjobs if she was just honest. I wouldn't be happy about it but id get over it. thanks for getting back to me.

  • Have you been together long? Maybe you're going through the 'bored' stage, or maybe she has a lot on her mind. Maybe medication is killing her labido. Maybe she is depressed. There could be millions of reasons as to why she's stopped. I recommend sitting her down and talking this out, and not just taking that she doesn't know as an answer. There could be very deep reasons as to why she doesn't want to do this anymore. Or maybe she just doesn't like to anymore. Just ask!

    • 26 months. she always wants me to go down on her and wants sex everyday, she seems happy everything is going her way at the moment and she's always smiling (which is nice to see).

    • I'm glad that she is happy, but it's unfair for her to ask for you to preform oral on her and not return the favor--not right after you do, but at least the next time you fool around. You really should talk and demand an explaination other than 'I don't know'.

  • This is a bit weird as I would think that after a 2 + year relationship that communicaton would not be a problem, but apparently she is very reluctant to say what it is. You know damn well she hasn't forgotten how to do it.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Good grief. I hate to tell you my friend, but if she isn't willing to give you a BJ anymore than chances are she's really not interested in making you feel good. Even if you have sexual intercourse she's at least getting something out of it.

    Stop going down on her as you are already uninterested in sex now. Which honestly lets you see clear as day that the relationship is pretty much over physically. You'll have to decide if you are willing to stay in this type of relationship. I certainly wouldn't.

    There are PLENTY of women out there that will take great pleasure in making you feel good and giving you exactly what you want. I suggest it's time to fire up the game plan and get out on the field.

    "She forgot how and it's better for you if she didn't?" WTF! BS ALERT BS ALERT!

    • I definitely agree with the BS ALERT. but I'm stuck between the I still have strong feelings for her and love her, and not enjoying it physically.

    • You are holding on to what "used" to be. The strong feels you still have are feelings that you "once" felt. You want badly for those feelings to still be current, but they aren't. You love the person in the relationship you used to have. It's not there anymore dude. Time to let go and move on. YOU WILL find someone else and YOU WILL get what you want out of the relationship. And when that happens and she's taking care of you physically, tip your hate to ArizonaRX!

  • I would not have sex with her anymore or halt the relationship until she tells you and you feel she is not honest with you. she needs to tell you! That is part of the relationship. It is not about the blowjobs, it is the reason why she stopped and she needs to come forth.

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  • How can you be a slut in a good way?

    Maybe your girlfriend has just had a reality check.

    • Slut in a good way = likes pleasuring you and is kinda kinky, but only with you not with her friends and definitely not in public

  • perhaps you have body odor and she doesn't want to tell you that to hurt your feelings.

    • Thanks for ur input you obviosly have nothing better to do

  • find a new one , there are plenty of single hot girls out there

  • you took the female advice because you're a "submissive." Beta males very rarely get what they want. Enjoy that concept.

  • This Quote " she said that she doesn't know why she stopped but she wasn't going to give me a blowjob again because she can't remember how to do it" is your signal to FIND a NEW GF!

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