No Sex Acts = Disappointed?

Is it normal for guys to ask their girlfriend for a blowjob or sex? and then if they say no to their boyfriend, they act all disappointed? My boyfriend who never pushes me to do anything I don't want to do and respects me, did this for the first time today and I felt bad when I left his place. Its just...i don't always want to do something sexual every time I see him. I told him no and he said its okay, however I could tell he was acting disappointed.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Well I'm not saying to become a his personal whoere but you gotta understand the only way to relieve his sexual urges are with

    1 you

    2 p*rn

    3 another girl

    and out of respect for you he proably doesn't do 2 and 3 so is it to much to ask for a BJ not even a long just one for him to come and keep moving lol

    and good compromise would be maybe you give him a BJ after you have done something you wanted to do like

    go hiking

    go fishing

    go picnicking

    or whatever else nosexual you want to do it will keep both of you happy and you don't have to worry about him being dissapointed or worried about what he might do if he is dissapointed often

    • You`re right...thanks:-) Didn't really think of it that way. Its just he always gets turned on around me which I take as a compliment but I don't even do anything to turn him on, on purpose, so that's why I don't always want to give hima BJ or sex.

    • Well he is truned on 1 your his girlfriend so he must be attracted to you 2 he has pint up sexual energy that kinda seeps out when your around 3 obviously your beautiful to him he would proably get a hard on looking at you from afar even b4 you went out guys are turned on just that easily in general

  • I'd agree with Aarien. In a relationship with pretty much any good guy, he's not going to force you into anything, but he's still going to want it. If you don't feel like doing it, then he'll understand (still be somewhat disappointed, but understanding). If you NEVER want to do anything, he'll probably be disappointed and wonder what he's doing wrong. It's the feeling of being wanted, but not desired. It kind of sucks; I know from experience.

Most Helpful Girls

  • You can't really blame him for being disappointed. When in a relationship, I don't think it's a matter of expecting sex... but there always will be a certain amount of looking forward to it. The bottom line is, he sounds like a good guy -- he didn't push you into doing anything you didn't want to. But on the other hand, it's unrealistic to think that he's not going to be disappointed once in a while when you turn him down.

    • Exactly humans were designed to be sexual so when we don't get what we were designed for we get disappointed very natural

    • Good answer

    • Okay:-) Thanks...feel a little better now :-P

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  • Yeah my boyfriend acted the same way the other day. I wanted to but I was too damn tired when he came over. He pushed a little but he is a good guy he never did anything or said anything mean. But I could tell he was really disappointed since we had been making out. I felt awful when he left, I think he really expected something.

  • well when your craving something no matter it food, drink, something sexual if you don't get it aren't you a little upset by it but still can move on? probly all he did I'm sure he still loves you and its very normal.

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