Not being a virgin changes your personality?

I just realize that My friends that are no longer virgins became more secure and not as shy as before they also feel that they know the world much better than me just because of that... Anybody feel the same way? They make me feel like a disable person, they mock me... I know I feel more insecure than them... I was always been the least shy among us and I still can do things that they can't like talking to strangers traveling alone ...
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  • Mocking you might be a little out of order, but it's a good example of how simply being confident and sure of yourself can change the way others see you.

    They now know what sex is like. They know it didn't kill them, they didn't freak out and die of embarrassment. There's a lot less pressure on them now.

    This sort of thing helps them adopt a more confident attitude when facing the world.

    There's nothing to stop you from having that confidence, AND keeping your virginity.

    It's just a matter of being confident in yourself and getting your own head straight. And the first step in doing that? Is to stop caring what other people think or say about you.

    • You are so right I understand now... I Don't usually care what people think as long as they Don't p*ss me off pushing me... I just wish they mind there own business... I am not pround of being a virgin at My age because I feel like the only one even tough I have older friends that are virgins... I just feel like An outcast around people that have done it... But it wasn't My time nothing to do about it

  • All girls I know who lost the virginity changed completely. exactly how you describe it. sometimes more, sometimes less, but every time a change.

    first I was wondering as well but then I just thought they need "more" and they know how and so on. bit weird hehe :P

    • Interesting so yeah You get me... Its true people change, they feel less awkward about themselves and more powefull... I guess I would feel the same way... But I wouldn't feel better than others because of it...

    • you don't know till you tried. but don't worry about it... I think its a kind of learning process in life

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  • It was either getting my first boyfriend or losing my virginity to him that gave me more self-confidence. But it didn't change my actual personality. I'd say it was more my boyfriend and his compliments, not the sex... So personally, losing my virginity didn't change my personality. If anything it made me more self-confident, but that definitely isn't a bad thing. I hope that made sense X)

    • It makes a lot of sense. I don't mean really change but change the atitude a bit but something that other can see.

    • Oh cool. Yea, I guess I did change attitude a little... But it's more that, now I know that I am NOT ugly, unattractive, and inadequate, as I had previously thought. I put that down to my boyfriend's constant compliments, rather than sexual activities. But I guess sex is also a confirmation of... good looks or whatever... And who the hell downrated me?! Or more importantly, WHY?! Whoever you are, I will hunt you down and feed you to my dragon you feind! >:(

  • I'm actually a special case. I felt MORE insecure after I lost my virginity than before. I guess it just makes you see yourself in a sexual light and I really wasn't ready for that. Don't be self-conscious about being a virgin, I think it's a good thing. just ignore your friends.

    • What a pity you did it when you weren't ready :(

    • well...it's not the end of the world. it was something I learned a lot from. I don't think I need anyone's pity, plenty of people have made that mistake and turned out fine.

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  • Have you considered the possibility that maybe you're still a virgin because you're shy, negative, and insecure? Perhaps you're confusing cause and effect here.

    • I know because I am a virgin because I've never been out there looking I know If I just get a guy and say lets go he will say yes... However I wanna do it with someone that loves me and for that takes time... I am just saying they changed they feel superior

  • Don't listen to Thiezz - I'm the exact same way. My friends always act superior just because they can lay the pipe - SO CAN A F***ING MONKEY!

    Even an outgoing person can still be a virgin; I too am the most outspoken of all my friends yet have seen the least amount of "action"...

    I never thought it would be that way for a girl tho... men have to prove their promiscuity

    • Me neither but I think the ones that don't know that I am a virgin treats me better... And this girls say just get a guy You need to do it, they did it while in a serious relantionship why would I do it just for the sake of it... I really cant... I just wished they didn't think of me as something inferior as I know I am way more secure than them...

    • QA: You say you know you are way more secure than them, yet in your question you say you feel more insecure. Which is it?

    • I know I am more secure in overall aspects of life like I Don't do anything just because everybody is doing it, I am more independable... But they make me feel insecure in the sexual field of course I won't be talking things like they say... I like it hard and fast and big or whatever I just can't say anything about it... Do You understand?

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  • I'd never marry or date a woman that isn't a virgin. Used sluts personally don't appeal to me

  • I didn't change at all.