Not horny enough for boyfriend.

My boyfriend wants to have sex 6 or 7 days a week and I am not up for it, I would be happy with sex 3-4 days a week. He gets hostile when I want a night off and says I have no sex drive and this makes me feel stressed and turned off. I don't know how to explain to him I just don't get horny everyday. is our relationship going to fall apart from this?. I cannot have sex everyday it just lacks pleasure, its too much. I need a day off to get in the mood, its just how I am I can't help it.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Quite frankly, based on my experience and reading, your sex drive is the more normal of the two. Most people, given a realistic choice, would have sex about 4 days a week. Like you said, everyone needs a few nights off. I wouldn't say he's exactly way above the norm, especially for a guy, but neither are you. Both of you are normal. It just comes down to sexual compatibility.

    There has to be compromise. He can't expect you to want to have sex no matter what at the drop of a dime, vise versa, there may be some times when you just have to bite the bullet and do what he wants for the sake of making him happy.

    Honestly, if he's getting sex even 3 times a week, he should feel lucky. Most guys don't even get that for their GF, nor are they able due to busy schedules and parents.

    Sexual compatibility is an important part of any relationship so in a sense this could bring your relationship down if you guys are on completely different pages and don't know how to compromise. It's unrealistic to expect someone to be exactly like you in your sex drive and preferences, but as long as the two people are close, typically things can be worked out and each party can live with a small compromise.

    In this situation, I would probably side with you. 3-4 days a week is really nothing to complain about, even if he doesn't like it, he should respect your wishes, especially since they aren't unreasonable. If I wanted to have sex 6 days a week and my Girlfriend said she wanted 4. I'm pretty sure I could live with that.

  • You are perfectly normal in this aspect a good relationship can't be based on sex, but sometimes it is a good measure of how things are going to go. I personally don't think it is a healthy relationship if he is hostile about this, I am sure that you can do a lot better. do yourself a favor and stop beating yourself up over this and find a guy that will care about you more.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Then he should understand that.

    If he wants you, and loves you, then he shouldn't force that off on you.

    SO I say, yes, your relationship can end from that.

    But it's not your fault, you've TOLD him what's up.

    If it keeps up, do yourself a favor and leave.

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  • Probably, yeah, it'll end over this.

  • Just tell him, he'll understand that you don't want to do it as much...

  • He's wrong for making you feel like crap about this. It's nothing you can control, and there's nothing wrong with your sex drive.

    However, it does seem like your sexual drives are not compatible.

    And sadly for you both, that is a very important factor in the happiness and success of any relationship.