Older guys are more into pleasing the woman?

I'm dating a guy in his early 30s and we haven't had sex yet but we discuss it and he asks me what I like because he wants to give me amazing orgasms and please me. I never had a guy who cared about my own pleasure that much. Also, we aren't moving so fast, it took a few make outs before I let him finger me and before he did he would ask if it's okay. Never had a guy even bother like that before. I also was reading online about dating older men and many say that older men (by older I mean 30+, even though it isn't old) are still horny but aren't in their crazy sexual peak so they are a bit more relaxed and into pleasing the woman, especially because they have learned now more than many younger men. also, is a guy wanting to please you in bed and do exactly what you like a sign of a guy who cares about you and isn't just looking to get his rocks off?
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  • Even though I don't see much of a question here I agree with everything you have just said. I have dated (f*cked) guys much older than me and all were very pleasurable experiences. One guy was 64 and wonderful. Don't think we could make a relationship work, but for sex it was great.

    The very best I have ever had and hopefully will get some more of him was a man from Tortula (Caribbean Island) when I was on vacation and he was at the time 47 and now 53. He travels to Maimi on business every few months and when time permits I see him and it is worth the trip every time.

  • I only date younger guys and trust me when I say they are sooooooo into pleasing me and for some weird reason they feel more pressure to do it. The best sex ever is with younger men, they still have the looks and are so eager to please. You can keep the older guys I don't want them and never will.

    • Lol when your 80 I c no younger guy that would wana bang u

    • That is a long way off and I am pretty I wouldn't want sex any more at the point any way so not even close to an issue.

  • probably because if they please you they know you will more likely stay with them... older guys like young meat but not many young girls like older guys, they find them creepy and we can easily find a hot young man our own age... without the wrinkles, grey hair, kids ect...

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  • Older guys, who have shed more of their egos, who are much less constrained by peer pressure and peer influence and the need to impress other people, are more in tune with their sense of love, etc.

    So of course he wants to get his rocks off, but he certainly wants to get your rocks off too.

  • I don't think its age so much. I was always into pleasing women when I was younger, but I may just have a few more tricks.up.my sleeve now than.in the past. It sounds more like you have had selfish lovers before, and are just now with a guy who isnt. The guy doesn't have to be older...

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  • Nothing to do with his age, While I'll admit its less common for an 18 year old to do that, you just have to find the right guy. There are plenty of guys in your age range that do that same stuff.

  • I read that shy guys tend to be into pleasuring women more than outgoing aggressive guys who are just interested in their self (on average).

    I'm one of the shy guys and I've always been interested in pleasing women and I'm only 27. I love the idea of a girl/woman getting off because of what I'm doing to her it excites me and makes me very horny..

    • I forgot to add that most gentlemen SHOULD ask if it's alright to touch you and please you sexually at least tell you two are having sex for a while.

  • this is not true for all older guys. many many don't give a sh*t about pleasing women.