Pegging

When I'm going down on my man, when I play with his balls and go a bit lower he doesn't flinch when I get around his anus like most men do. Does this mean he'd be open to pegging? I've tried anal myself many times and it's pretty nice as a once in a while thing, but how is it for guys? If he does like anal play, does that mean he's bi, or maybe in the closet? I don't know what to make of it. And how do I ask him about this? Should I grab a vibe and tease him with it next time and see how he reacts? I'd like to try it and see what it's like from that perspective. I have a strap on from when I dated a woman a few years ago, should we try that?
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Thanks everyone! We talked tonight and had a fun sexperiment. We tried the butt plug idea to start & moved up to a 9" vibe, but it didn't work for him as it was too long (and thin). To my surprise we tried something thicker, my 8x6 toy, and he loved it!
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  • I'm not completely sure on the anal play part of this question. However, I do know the region in between his balls and his anus, (his prostate) is very sensitive during penetration of any sort. If you touch this region and play with it etc, it can also maximize his pleasure and lead to an intense orgasm. :) :)

    As for my thoughts on the anal play don't assume he is bi or maybe in the closet, start with maybe considering that he too is just open to maximizing his pleasure and might consider that if that's what it takes.

    Lastly, if he is into it, don't be ashamed to ask or suggest but make sure you go about it in a very non threatening way letting him know you are into pleasing him and open to whatever it takes.

    • His prostate is inside of his anus. The skin between his scrotum and his anus is called the perineum.

    • Yes yes yes thank you for correcting me! I am referring to his perineum :)

  • my boyfriend is def not bi and he loves havin it in the a**

  • you go girl, f*** him as hard as you can girl power

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  • One thing at a time here. Yes I thing that I would like to have a finger rub around there & then the next time or so put in there. I've never had that done so I can't tell you for sure if I like that but I sure am open to trying almost anything. Now I am not gay or bi but I'm almost positive that I wouldn't like the strap on. That does seem a lot gay to me. Who knows once you take a step forward you may like it. Did you ever think that you would like anal?

    How do you ask him ,well when your finger is down there and you can start to push it in a little see how he reacts & say something like I soo F'n hot baby are you o.k. with this?

  • Well it looks like I'm a day late and a $ short w/response. An old, very attractive GF visited me from NYC. She had become bi- but was almost all G on G now. She started geting very flirty just before she need to leave forher flight back and eventuallypulled out a strap on dildo and told me, "I weant to bust that cherry ass of your" I was taken by surprise and since I didn't respond right away, we consummated orally. Since then I've had this fantasy of her- r another woman I found attractive- to do just that. How did you get arround to broaching the topic, I'd love to know because I wouldn't want to miss second chance.

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  • I'm so glad it worked out for you. I wish my girlfriend were into this because I LOVE anal stimulation, fingering, rimming, etc and I really want to try getting pegged. You've got a lucky guy there!

    • Don't just think that she won't like it, Man-up and talk to her, and she will probably do ANYTHING, for you, liking having a 'penis' and 'fucking you'!!!

  • Most guys are afraid that if you do anything with their bottom that it will 'make them gay!' It's just BS and a social stigma, based in the mainstream Religious Beliefs!!
    My GF and I choose, day to day, when we play, who is 'dominant' and I LOVE her with her toy, loving me, anally!
    She laughs that I have such easy orgasms, but she make me WORK, to give her, the ones she loves!!

  • Give the vibe a go while sucking him off. If he likes that do it again and introduce him to the strap on and don't be afraid to be a little dominant. But not too much or u could scare him off. Just remember that once the act is done everything is as normal. He isn't any less of a man. It's great fun and super sexy

  • I had a girl some years back explore with me and wow! What a nut i busted. itd a reg thing with me and my girl. now i had to tell the new girl to do it and she was so fucking happy because she always wanted to do it but wasn't sure what to say.

  • Try a butt plug on him first and let him fuck you with the plug up his ass. The sensations as his moves in and out of you will drive him crazy, and he'll be curious to try more.

  • Good for you two - he's a lucky man as I love that type of play but it's hard to ask because people get judgmental and think [just like you said] that the guy is gay or bi. It's just about pleasure. If a guy wants another guy to fuck him that's a gay fantasy - If he wants a girl to do it with a strapon that is 100% not gay. Enjoying anal pleasure does not make you gay!

  • Try touching him in that area some more, and tell him you would like to get some lube and try your finger inside him, and see what he says.

  • He's got pleasure centers in his ass, and that doesn't mean anything about his sexual preference. Pursue it and see where it leads.

  • Sounds like he is very trusting of you. As for trying the vibe maybe be honest and tell him that you have. Fantasy of giving anal to him and see what he says. You never know if you don’t ask

  • On you tube a sexologist said it does not mean he is gay? So there you go, you got your answer. :)

  • This is a very good question to ask, so i may answer it :) Analy penetrating the male is a very healthy thing to do because it is the main way to stimulate his prostate, also know as the male G-spot. Many straight men enjoy this with their female partners mainly because of the intense pleasure it delivers, and the prospects fro role-reversal, mainly out of kink exploration, This does not make any man gay or gi, it in fact makes him brave to even try taking it up the butt. Stimulating the prostate which is about one inch deep, and angled towards the front, gives amazing, pulsing orgasms and huge cumshots that you and your partner will love experiencing it. Also its a great idea to do some research too on the topic, as with any anal, you must use lube and be VERY careful. I hope you have fun!!

  • would really wanna try pegging with a women but i dont think my gf would be up for it is there any girls out there would wanna try it with me that are near milton keynes if so please send me a reply and i'll get back to u as i've played before and enjoyed it but on my own x

  • Go for it. Dont make a big deal out of it make it seem normal a natural progression. you'll know soon enough if he is willing or not.

  • just ask, or use a finger first and see what he say

  • Did you fuck him? My man loved it and I do too

  • Totally use the strapon it doesn't make him bi

  • I've been trying to get my wife to do this for me (pegging) and I can tell you with absolute certainty that I am 100% hetero. The rule of thumb is simple, if he does it with you, but is imagining a real penis, he's bi. If he does it with you, but only thinks of doing it with women, he's not. Sexual identity isn't about what you do, it's about who you do it with, and the backside isn't what makes someone gay or bi. After all, the other side of that equation is the guy that performed anal sex on you. Technically, for two men to have sex in that way, one man would have to receive and the other would have to give. So just as having anal sex with you doesn't make a man bi simply because he slipped it into your anus, it wouldn't make your man gay or bi because you put something in his. Breathe easy and relax on that front.

  • Have you tried the strapon yet?

    • Wow, I ended up trying a vibe on my husband. Can't believe how much more he cums with it in his ass. I'm defiantly going to try a strapon now.

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    • Well how are you 2 going?

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  • I'm with CJayne44. There's quite a big difference in feeling between licking 'a bit lower' and going straight to anal penetration! It's sort of like the difference between a light massage and a punch to the kidneys, especially if it's unexpected or he's not into it.

    No, deriving pleasure from being touched in a certain area does not make someone gay or bi. Doing that same act with a man might be a valid indicator, but that's not the case here.