Penis didn't fit in my Vagina? Why?

Hey guys, I am really embarrassed about the entire topic but I don't know anymore. I met that guy over the internet, we wrote and camed and chatted for more than 3 years now and recently I traveled 11 hrs to meet up with him. I stayed for 1 entire week and we hit it off pretty good. (Please don't judge, we already kind of had taken a liking to each other, even though we never met. I know some of you won't understand that.) So as I said, we liked each other and you know... started kissing and stuff, I got REALLY wet, and he pretty hard and yeah, we wanted to have sex. (No, not on the first day, it was like the end of it, I ain't a whore!) - Why am I trying to justify myself? Anyway - sorry. So, for some information: I am 22 years old, I had 3 boyfriends before and had sex with all of them too. THOUGH, the penis of this guy I met up with is bigger than all of the ones I slept with. It wouldn't fit and I'm not kidding you. The tip went in, and that hurt like CRAZY. (As I said I'm not a virgin), but his penis is really fucking huge, it's abnormal. That happened before, when I had sex with one of my exes, that sometimes it really did hurt, even though he went down on me first and I was really wet. I just don't get it, it hurts so much, that I can't pee without feeling really uncomfortable or even just while I do nothing and sit or whatever, it really hurts, even after a few days it still hurt. I gotta admit, I didn't have sex for like 1 year before I met up with this guy, cause I broke up with my boyfriend a year ago. So what should I do? also at that time I had like 1 week until my period should start and I had cramps sometimes and I have Lichen Sclerosus but in a very early stage. My Gynecologists said that it shouldn't be the problem. What am I going to do?
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  • Sorry, nothing you can do, you can't have sex with him. I will relate my own personal problems and then one of a friend. I met a woman with a tipped uterus, and I swear to God it would take ONE HOUR to get my penis "almost" inside, and half the time we could not have sex. She had a former boyfriend that used to call her "X, the unfuckable". I have a client whose wife had a hysterectomy where they just removed the uterus (the least invasive type of hysterectomy). They were worried about making her go through the radical kind where you remove the Fallopian tubes also, due to her diabetes, and as a result, she has this plastic plug inside her to block anything from falling out accidentally, which now makes sex 100% impossible, as penis entry is impossible. My friend is like the most faithful person in the world, and recently he told me his wife gave him permission to have friends with benefits on the side. I feel so bad for them...

  • There isn't really anything amiss with you. Mine is big too and quite often it does hurt the girl when I put it into her.

    If you had not had it for over a year then it is likely to be contributing towards it.

    When I first did it with my girlfriend, she also hadn't had it in over a year, was closer to 2 years and she had had 4 previous boyfriends before me. It hurt her quite a bit since I pushed most of mine into her.

    What you could do is try not to plan on it too much, positions, usually missionary is the better one. Ideally try to get him to make you orgasm 2-3 times first. It will help a lot and finally try not to think too much about it when he is inserting.

    • Why orgasmn first? Doesn't that make me even more tight? Or am I dumb now... wow...

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  • lol if you had sex the first day you wouldn't be a whore. A whore is something i think we should just stop saying on a whole, whenever a woman chooses to have sex within the first 30 seconds or after 30 years is a choice and shouldn't define, sorry for my rant those labels irk me. anyway his penis is really big that is the answer to your question as to why it didn't fit. Also you probably have to cum before you have sex with him probably not just be wet. ;) hope this helps dont be discouraged just take it really slower next time

  • just like guys have different sizes of dicks, woman all have different sizes of vaginas. some are wider, tighter, shallow, deep. you just have one that's on the smaller side. sorry to say but, you gotta find another guy or just bite the bullet and try and get used to it.

  • When was the last time you had sex, if it has been a while it could explain your difficulties.

    • It is like one year ago! But he did it very slow and it still wouldn't fit...

    • That could be it. Try using lube.

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  • return it for a one size fits all. ;)

    • Funny... That won't help me... He's coming to my place soon and what if it doesn't work out again? I'm really scared.

    • try lube? wait until you're properly aroused.

    • Won't he think that he can't get me wet when I use lube? Also I don't have that and never used that before... @Opinion Owner

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  • So how big was it?

    Also are you very petit?

    Likely you will adjust in time, might need to start things slow.

    • a woman's petitness has nothing to do with how tight she is.

    • Well, it was probably 7 or 8 inches long and 2 inches wide? I admit I am very petit, but I mean I had sex before. Also, the skin around the entrance hurt the most, not my inside, only when he tried to push it deeper, but even if he didn't move, the entrance felt like it was going to burst... What is the best position to do that?

    • @thewanderingme So can I change anything about being so tight? I mean as I said, my ex boyfriends were all A LOT smaller and never had problems to go in, even though it still hurt a lot sometimes.

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  • My mom told me guys who are too big down there don't keep their girls cause it hurts ^^. Other than that I think you could try more often or use dildos before you start

  • Don't be embarrassed... you prob have a small vagina.

    • So he won't fit?