Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
This title is both going to draw people in and push them away. We are all so sick of having to hear about what women have to deal with that men don't and then hearing that men get it oh so easy.
Which they don't. Because unless they have a cold or god forbid a sore toe like my grandfather keeps reminding me (he keeps telling me it's black then showing me. It's as white as the day he was born), they aren't going to complain. Men have a hell of a lot to complain about. Dealing with us women for one.
But, I just wanted to say, that I have finally experienced one of the things most people hate about being (genetically) female. Waking up in a pool of blood and instead of screaming, carrying on and getting worried about where the blood's coming from, I grumbled, rolled out of bed, went to the toilet, changed my tampon and started to scrub my underwear and favourite bed shorts.
All without my Poppy (grandfather) asking why I was up a half hour early (It was 5:55 in the morning) or what took me so long in the bathroom.
Ah, unassuming males. Thankyou for not asking questions.
Now, if someone who was a guy genetically (this applies for trans-women) woke up in a pool of their own blood, there would probably be a hospital visit. Seriously, you need to get that checked. If you don't get a period, or shouldn't be getting it because you no longer have a uterus or you're pregnant, then you don't want to be waking up wet with blood.
Well you don't want to wake up wet with blood when you do get a period either. But that's just because the clean up sucks. Not because it means we're dying. Or at least you hope not. If the blood smells like the blood from anywhere that isn't your vag then get it checked.
Just saying.
Okay so. True purpose of this take. What am I getting at?
Scroll up a little to where I said "Ah, unassuming males. Thankyou for not asking questions."
Thankyou for not asking questions?
What questions? About my period? What's wrong with him asking about my period?
Dear readers, I do believe we have all experienced the thing that is period shaming. Even the guys. That's why so many are squeamish about the fact that women bleed for a week of every month.
(I'm not trying to generalise here, but my brother has always been sqeamish, a friend of mine goes red in the face and asks us girls to stop talking about it a few sentences in to our conversation, and I watched another get angry that the girl beside him pulled a tampom out of her pocket for whatever reason, tore it out of her hand and threw it on the ground before storming off. No I don't know what that was about, but that was a pretty shitty thing to do. She had to go to the office for another. Schools always buy the shitty brands with the lightest flow absorbancy)
One aspect starts in primary school. Does anyone remember the toilets in primary school? The toilets that are a little smaller than any other toilets for our little bums to reach, the toilets where you're young enough that picking a 'favourite' isn't as weird as it tends to be when you get a little older. Because seriously, it's a toilet. Get over it.
Primary school toilets only have a sanitary bin in one stall. Coincidentally, even though I didn't get my period until towards the end of year six, that stall with the sanitary bin had always been my favourite. Just because it was a little different.
In year five we all got our first look at sex ed. We learnt about sex, we learnt about the differences between boys and girls (physical differences that is), we learnt about how the stork doesn't deliver the babies and that babies don't come from cabbage patches or the toilet as one childrens book helpfully made me believe for a little while.
Then, the teachers made the boys leave the room. And the girls were taught about periods. We were shown pads, we were shown tampons, they gave us a demonstration as to what a tampon does by sticking it in a glass of water that just made it even scarier that people actually put those in their 'nudy rudies'. We were shown the Libra site and we all ordered free period starter packs without our parents permission.
We were told what the sanitary bin in that single stall was for, and that if we got our period and people asked why we wanted that stall when there were others open, we were to tell them it was our favourite.
That's the bit that gets me.
Teachers were basically telling young girls that they should hide their period. They should hide it, and in turn, because they're hiding it, be ashamed of their period. That wasn't the intention, teachers just didn't want us to be embarrassed about having to explain that we have our period, but that's the way it turns. You tell a kid to hide something about themselves, they're going to be ashamed of that part of themselves.
And they're going to keep being ashamed. I'm a lot more open about my time of month now than I was. I will talk about what brand of tampon I use (Carefree). I will admit to having bad habits in leaving the tampon in too long. I'm not ashamed to ask people if they have a tampon or pad to spare because my period has hit me before I expected it, and I keep forgetting to carry a few with me. But a lot of girls are.
I took a friend with me down to Chemist Warehouse because I was sick to death of having to deal with the smell of her dirty pads that she keeps forgetting to chuck, every time I went to her place (she lives alone), and the underwear that suffers because her flow is too heavy for pads in the first place. I showed her the tampon isle, I showed her the heavy duty winged tampons that I use, that are excellent for heavy flows. I felt a little like I was a mum showing my daughter the world of being female for the first time, and I get the sinking feeling her mother never did this with her. She was as red in the face as possible, even more than she normally gets when one of our friends starts talking about the orgasms her boyfriend gave her last night. She was stuttering, which she doesn't normally do, and continuously asking me if we can go already.
No. No, we could not go. I told her if the tampons don't work out, she can use the night pads that have a much heavier flow absorbancy than normal pads. They're dearer, have less in the pack, but they work.
If we could buy menstrual cups in store here in Australia I would have reccomended those.
You won't believe the way she charged out of the store when I finished buying the tampons for her after she was too embarrassed to walk up to the counter herself.
But no. This is just one example of how society now, has women so embarrassed of the fact that they have a working, natural bodily function, that they aren't going to get help as to how to deal with that bodily function when it starts affecting their every day life.
(^^ This makes me laugh every time)
Period shaming. It fucking sucks.
I grew up seeing pads all over the place, because that's what my stepmother uses. I would spot them in the car, in the lounge, on the floor of her room that I was never allowed to enter, they were everywhere. I only ever asked her once what they were, and she said they were nothing in that 'don't ask again' voice. So, being scared shitless of my stepmother (if you ever met her you'd understand why) I didn't ask again. I only understood what they were when I got my first period, and she shoved one in my hand and told me to put it on.
You have to commend me for gathering up the courage to walk back into the lounge room and ask her how.
So, I've been getting my period for say, six years now. When I moved out of Dad's house and into Mums, I moved on from pads to tampons. Because I always hated that feeling of wearing a nappy that pads gave me, and Mum was so much more open about periods than my stepmother ever was and probably ever will be. I pray for my younger sister. Mum helped me transition from pads to tampons, made me feel so much less self conscious about washing the blood stains out of my clothes whenever I bled onto them and I became comfortable talking about my period with her, and telling her whenever I was itching to the point of madness (I'd always just dealt with the itch before I moved). I became able to talk to her about how to shave my bikini line because my stepmother had just told me to and refused to tell me how. Mum actually told me how and offered to help. I wasn't quite that comfortable.
Yes, for those frowning, it is normal for Mums to offer to help their daughters with their bikini lines and shit. One of my friends actually got her Mum to wax hers for her.
(Just so you know, there is at least a month between me starting this take, forgetting about it, and then continuing it here)
Okay. For guys.
You men don't have to deal with periods, unless you have sisters, are straight and have a girlfriend, or are female gentically.
Okay, so back up, you do have to deal with periods. (Go gay men, you get away with not having to) Here's a tip for you guys with a girlfriend or sister who is on her period. If she's cranky, don't say, 'oh you must be on your period' that will only make it worse. Actually, it pisses most women off whether they're actually on their period or not.
Go figure.
Men. Women bleed every month, they get pains every month that can vary from mild discomfort, to don't even think about touching her she will kill you. Go me for being gay. I have to deal with both my periods and hers. Yay -_-. (This is why I say I didn't choose to be gay. Why would I choose to deal with not one, but two periods? Seriously. I'm not that stupid.)
So, if you have a girlfriend, and you're aware periods are in fact an actual thing that exist, isn't that like saying you accept that she has a period and you're okay with that? That you aren't going to go crook and demand blowjobs with the reasoning 'just cause she can't get off doesn't mean I can't.' (Which by the way is completely untrue, I'm most horny when I'm on my period)
I literally cannot be stuffed finishing this. Okay, figuratively. Either way.
My point: Periods are a natural bodily function. Not something to be ashamed of.
You all get where I'm going, you've all heard the same speil before. I'm going to shut up and go back to doing some actual work.
And I just found this. I am sharing it.
But hey, change that 'girls' to 'boys' you have pretty much the same list going. Almost.
Things boys are made to feel ashamed of-
- Being okay wih periods
- Wearing anything that isn't 'masculine'
- Not wanting to have sex
- Being in the 'friendzone'
- Standing up against misogyny
- Standing up for the chick who was raped and told the police
- Supporting/not supporting abortion
- Having hair/not having hair on their body
- Understanding why women don't like catcalls/arguing why they should appreciate catcalls
- Being chivalrous/not being chivalrous
- Having control over their own fucking body.
What do you know. It is the same list.
I'm done now. Good night everybody.
(Apologies for the massive wall of text)
What Girls & Guys Said
11 34welp I'm 15 and have no problem with periods. I live with three females, and find pads everywhere, I also have dogs who take them out of the trash and tear thme up around the house, and I clean them up. most guys (that I know of at least) don't care. we only stray away from the subject to cause females embarrassment.
Good on you for not being a prick. Lol
Nice MyTake.
I really liked this, i don't care about lots of text i like to read. But I am a terrible writer lol. Have you heard about the guy who started carrying pads around for girls on their period. Those teachers sounded pretty sucky. In grade six a bunch of my friends (about 3) had their period and being typical girls, we all went to the toilet together. Whether they needed that 'sanitary' toilet or not they used it anyway. It's an awkward subject for me to talk to my mum about so we have only had the briefest talks. Sorry about large comment. 'someone's on their period' is a popular insult amongsnt a few people. I know someone who is gay because he doesn't like girls bad moods on their periods lol. i can write 7000 period wors but i can't write a 500 word narrative in 2 weeks something is wrong with me *sigh*
wait a sec, this goes by characters! Still dumb.
Wow, quite a bunch of trolls here.
Anyway there is always something for someone to be ashamed of, no matter what. If you care about people and they would care about you, you would be friends. Friends don't shame you for anything.
I mean, who are you trying to impress please? A random bummer saying you should be ashamed of *insert any fucking reason here* but YOU feel comfortable the way you do it. Who you going to listen?
My point goes further: You are unique. You don't have to be like others. Just be yourself. I know for fact certain things are NATURALLY and that's okay. Then some low IQ, who claimed to have finished high school but wanks aimlessly around comes by and tells you it's a bad thing and should feel bad about it.
We call them: JERKS!
Do you want jerks?
I do not.
Really.
It's simple to avoid such organically and genetically failed freaks. I can't even call them human.
Anyway... cheers for your take.
Wine works miracles.
my period came yesterday and my lover was kinda distant and he mentioned that blood turns him off because it reminds him of violent times
Seriously, if orange juice came out of your pussy, i wouldn't care. But its blood, mucous and all kinds of filthy things and it smells HORRIBLE.. even from a meter away. So let's just admit it , periods are GROSS. And it's only natural to be grossed out by gross things.
On the other hand, if you girls feel embarassed about it, because of when men talk/react about it, then it's your fault.
You can only feel ashamed if you are ashamed of it. If you aren't ashamed of it, no matter what people say, you won't feel a thing.
This bunch of crap you wrote, lady, is another example of how women blame their insecurity on men.
Feminists can make me dinner and suck my dick (pun intended)
When did I say it was the guys fault for women being ashamed of their periods? I was 'blaming' the teachers and parents who tell girls to hide their periods, not the guys who were never informed enough or exposed enough to know it's normal and not, I quote, "GROSS". And also, it's not the period that smells. It's the chemical filled disposable menstruation products that most women use thanks to a lack of other options or lack of knowing about other options. I don't blame my insecurity on men. I blame my insecurity on the standards society as a whole places on both women and men. Thankyou for your opinion.
We know its normal, and normal things can gross you out too. If you see a turd floating in the toilet you don't cheer up and say " oh my god, ^_^ its so normal " You flush it out asap coz you can't stand it. Still I grew up having a sister, so i know what you are talking about. Last para is utter cliche. 'society' consists of men and women. Instead you could had said 'I blame my insecurity on men and women' which still doesn't address the fact that it IS YOUR INSECURITY. The standards of society are not low, your expectations are way too high. Remember the fact that we are all humans.
Having your period is fine, but it's not an excuse to act like a bitch.
This proves that men are biologically the stronger sex.
Not necessarily. Through body mass and muscle mass, typically men are the stronger sex. But in ways of pain tolerance and mental strength, women tend to excel. We have to live with getting pains every month and it's not often you'll see us complain unless it's to someone we trust or are comfortable around, while my grandfather is going around complaining about his cold and his bruised toe to everyone he meets. Childbirth has been rated one of the most painful experiences you can have naturally. Of course it differs from woman to woman but still. In some instances it's even more painful than having your balls kicked in. Both sexes have their advantages and disadvantages. Neither is inherently 'stronger' or 'better' than the other.
Pain tolerance doesn't mean anything a male will still dominate a female physically. Men are also dominant by nature testosterone.
A man isn't going to do much dominating if she has him by the balls. Just saying.
Lolol chances are she won't. Although it sounds hot to submit to a female occasionally.
Trust me. If you met my step mother you'd be saying it's less hot than scary. I reckon she has more testosterone in her body than my dad.
Class A Moron
@Bards if you think women are equal to men let's see you fight me. Oh you're weak and fragile like all women.
@bards if you were educated you would know rhat end age better than women. Women give child birth which causes a lot of stress on the body and ages women faster. Get over yourself.
My mistake when I first experienced my girlfriends period was that i gave her too wide a berth. I think I didn't really know what to do. its important to remember that when a girls on her period she's not some scary monster; she's a human being! As long as i give her extra cuddles and pampering she won't bite me :D
Brilliant take even though my understanding on the subject is obviously limited. I would say one thing though; if you decide to keep your period on the quiet, i wouldn't always say it was out of shame. At the end of the day, it's a private and personal thing for you although i wouldn't be bothered if women were open about it. Great take though!
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But seriously, that had me dying.
Shut the fuk up
get back to work even the little girl in the picture is stuttering
Great take! Honestly my girlfriend tells me when her period is coming up or if it is worse than normal etc. I like it, it keeps me informed/ready. Its less awkward than wondering or implying anyways.
Yeah I let them know unless they’re squeamish. My exes kind of were.
My life would be so much easier if I didn't have a period. I really hate it. Its all I can think about when its that time of the month.
Oh and can we stop shaming pad users? I really hate it.
Thanks for the great take!
you show what you are with the following of the "things girls are made to be ashamed of" list
-abortion
-do what you do with your body.
-appreciate chialry.
just another mundane unfeminine new age bimbo "feminist"... .
Wait, how do I show myself to be a feminist? I believe in equality, not just rights for women. Equality over the whole range I mean, not just gender.
I sense some confusion there with meanings and terminology.
Not all girls go crazy when they're on a period or are a complete asshole. Yes some guys make jokes about girls being on their period if the girl has attitude but girls also say It's how periods are. Because guess what there are plenty of women that aren't emotionally unstable when they're on their period. I think it's like being drunk. The real you is surfacing some are just angry psychotics while others are actually kind people and so they don't just lash out at men when on a period. Also loved the joke about the paycheck really cements the idea that all women are gold diggers which is bullocks.
No, but generally , it's used to kind of make your (totally justifiable) anger not valid and seem like you're overreacting. ..
Seriously, why can't men just ask those questions to women according to the first picture. Is that true or false?
Well the dangerous column is certainly correct. If you were aware of how offensive some of those questions can be you wouldn't have to ask why you shouldn't say them. It's somewhat true.
Well, if those questions are dangerous, it seems that women are very emotionally unstable. Can't i just ask "what are we having for dinner tonight" without her getting pissed off? It DOESN'T mean: "i dont like your cooking, so better tell me what we're eating, so i can prepare for it" For me it means: "im curious what in we're eating" I think women judge things too quickly, without knowing whats really going on in men's mind
Ah you have it wrong. It's not dangerous to ask 'what are we having' it's dangerous to ask, 'what are YOU cooking for dinner' That's where the guide has it off, it didn't specify how the question is indicating that the guy is expecting the woman to cook. That's where it gets offensive.
Hiding your period doesn't mean a girl is ashamed. It's just private
Not saying you're wrong, but I'm pretty sure I know what I'm talking about. And I have about ten female friends who are pretty much proof of what I'm saying. Then about the whole female population of my old school who are just further proof. Trust me, I'm not just bull shitting here. I don't want to play the 'but you're a guy' card, because I hate it when people play it on me (but you're a girl) but you are a guy, how do you know?
The majority or my friends are females and they aren't afraid to say when they're on their period. Yeah that was at your school... pretty limited view
My old school. I said my old school, I'm at a different school now, that does widen my view a lot. (Actually a hell of a lot. There is so much that I was ignorant to until I moved) And that's good for your friends, I wasn't talking about every female in the world, if I was, then I wouldn't have been able to write this take. I know a lot of people who are embarrassed about the fact that they have a working, natural, bodily function. That's my point, that for the people who are ashamed, don't need to be. Besides, scroll down and see how many people agree with me.