Is premature ejaculation an absolute deal breaker for a relationship?

I have a big problem with finishing way too easily and nothing I've tried seems to help. I feel that this problem will make it impossible for me to hold a relationship. I would love to hear some people's opinions on what, if anything I could do. Am I just worrying too much?
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When I say premature I'm talking about less than a minute. It's pretty bad. Knowing that might change someone's opinion.
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  • I think you would be surprised how many men can relate to your situation. However, I know that is not what you are looking for. So no, I don't think it would be a dealbreaker for me. I think that if this were my boyfriend having a similar situation, the true test would be how we deal with this. I believe that you and your girlfriend can do this, if you are both willing to make it work. Maybe she needs longer than you to orgasm, which is often the case. It might be that a little foreplay for her before intercourse will help you two have a more similar timeline, or maybe you can get her off in other ways before intercourse. And while "ladies first" is the usual mentality, you do not have to be so determined to do so. The event doesn't have to be over just because you came. If you come before you are ready, don't be discouraged. Just give her a smile and say "your turn, honey", and give her some attention. I have a feeling that she won't mind at all! And possibly you are stressing yourself out, which I'm sure doesn't help. If you think that this is a serious problem, you can purchase special condoms that help with this. Hope this helps!

  • If I have have to be absolutely honest, I don't think it could work if was a day-in, day-out struggle for him. Popping in less than a minute? Every time? Sorry, but I don't think I could handle that. He'd probably have to buy some of those climax control condoms and use some desensitizing sprays/creams so I'd actually get something out of it.

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  • Slow down, stop for a second, switch position, master ate, I've read all these things can sometimes. If ur in a relationship talk to her about it, tell her u want to please her, ask her how u cAn

  • No, of course not. As long as he is willing to work on it and cares about satisfying me (and will do other things to do so), then it's really not an issue at all.

  • It's not for me. :-D