Pull out method tips?

[Anonymous]

I’m not looking for a lecture here on how dumb this is. I already know how risky it is. I’m looking for serious answers and not judgement. I promised my boyfriend months ago that I’d let him have a one time pass without a condom if we stayed together for a year, which is coming up. Dumb or not, I’m following through with this. I’ve never done it, so does anyone have any tips? When is the safest time of the month? Are there positions that are easier for him to withdraw in time? Any advice is appreciated. I know a lot of people have used this method.

[Boromir]

What about this version, you both get an STD test for the one year together and then you look for anti-conception method that would suit you? Men have no other choices then condoms or vasectomies. Women have many options. This would allow the two of you to go bare and remain bare. I am pretty sure you’ll both love the difference.

Now, if you don’t want to listen, you can lower the risk of pregnancy substantially (but NOT completely) by doing the following:

- track your cycle and understand your fertile days. Avoid those days for your treat. Know that sperm can live a couple of days inside your system, ADD those days to your ‘dangerous window’
- make sure there is no leftover semen from a previous ejaculation shortly before (hours) still left inside his penis, eg his own masturbation, your hand/blow job, sex with a condom, whatever, ideally have him pee before the sex.
- Men ooze out real fertile semen shortly before orgasming, make sure he pulls out way _before_ he’s past the point of no return. Have him come outside and make sure he’s not putting his tool back at it’s favorite place once he feels everything came out. The thing is cum covered and should remain far away from your reproductive entry.

All this will lower significantly your chances to conceive and will be in general relatively low risk re. pregnancies. Your call to think about STD risks and so on. There are women that sometimes ovulate in the middle of a cycle but that’s rare. My girlfriend and myself did this for many years and had no accidents, the risk is yours and your situation might be different.

[Boromir]

Thank you for the MHO 

[AndyOh]

I would do some heavy research on the calendar method so you know when would be the best time of your cycle to do this, for starters.
Second, you might want to clean out your vagina afterwards from any seminal fluid that will leak out as he is humping.
Hopefully he will be disciplined enough to pull out, as planned, before he comes.
Have fun and good luck. Make it a wonderful evening.

[MarianneF]

Assuming that you are not going to go "condom-less" from that point on (and as @npc666 pointed out, he is CLEAN) use a temporary contraceptive, none of them are as safe as the condom (which itself it's "only" 99%)
The most risky aspect of the withdrawal method is his ability to "hold it" for real.
www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/298039.php
Here, some more info on many aspects and side effects.
And some numbers for reliabilty:
www.newser.com/.../...t-birth-control-methods.html
Take care, regardless of the promise. It's your body and your future.

[MarianneF]

Thank you for the MHO ❤️

[frustratedgirl87]

As someone who became a mommy as a teen, I will tell you this: there are no "safe" times to have unprotected sex. I had sex using the pull out method the day after my period stopped and I got pregnant. My bff had unprotected sex during the last day of her period and got pregnant. Get on birth control pill, the shot, or something if you are going to do this. If not, get Plan B because there are no guarantees that you won't get pregnant.

[Gramer]

What is Plan B actually? :D

[frustratedgirl87]

@Gramer Plan B is an emergency contraception pill that when taken within 72 hours of unprotected sex can prevent pregnancy. It's not 100% foolproof though. With everything there's still a chance that it could fail and the woman could still end up pregnant.

[Gramer]

Okay I didn't know this method but yeah seems like nothing can be 100% either but there are solutions, the question is what are the side effects? :/

[frustratedgirl87]

@Gramer it could cause the girl to have bloating, acne breakouts, and to start her period early

[Gramer]

In your opinion is it worth to use it or a condom would be much more convenient? :D

[Jennalynnxoxo]

This isn't that dumb. Its your decision. But you shouldn't do it if you dont want to. And it sounds like you aren't sure. I don't know why he wants to not use a condom... what does he get out of it? Just go on bc... simple. Get on the pill or take the plan b pill the morning after. You can buy it at rite aid or cvs or at family planning if you have insurance you can get it half off.

[Rainie_]

Why don't you just go on the pill?

[InfoBot]

Congratulations on the upcoming pregnancy. Do you want a boy or a girl?

[Confusedmamma]

Pro tip: don’t do it

[kikikat95]

Morning after pill if you’re not on birth control already and don’t do it while you’re ovulating and make sure he pulls out when he feels it coming not during lol position doesn’t matter but go pee right after maybe even take a shower

[npc666]

If you are serious with each other then by now you should know you won't catch anything. Why not move to medical contraception? Then a condom isn't required. Assuming neither of you sleep around and are clean

[jacquesvol]

Tip #1 only trust it if a baby wouldn't upset your life.

[Zebadee88]

Sorry. This is stupid.

[muffinmanwolfe]

Morning after pill

[Dinnye001]

It is simply never safe. I can only suggest that you either start taking the pill or look for temporary solution (i. e. female condom or contraceptive suppository. With that in use you can bet on the pullout method. Without any other protection, you'll have a good chance to be fucked up.

[shauniie90]

You can still get pregnant from precum so take the pill to be safe

[Laulenke1]

A good tip would either say no without condom or take birth control

[Buddhadong]

Doggy style is always best for pull out method. Dm me if you need more detail

[Scorpiio]

Personally I would try to get a barrier method contraception like a cap, or diaphragm and use spermicide too... you should be able to pick them up pretty cheaply... then you also don't have to worry about pulling out either... you can insert them a fee hours before intercourse so it doesn't interrupt the moment, or if you like, you could actually insert it as part of foreplay 😉

[Ria4617]

I dont know im getting paranoid again. Just because i feel ligheaded and im not on my periods and had tingly nipples few days back. On the other hand i see no chance of pregnancy as i had sex on safe days and had periods later. What do i do:(

[Anonymous]

Probably when your closet to or on your period. I just know don’t do cowgirl. He can’t pull out if your weight is on him. Doggy is probably easiest to withdraw because he knows when he is ready and can get out.

[Anonymous]

There are condoms out there, that make it feel like there's nothing there.. also, why wouldn't you just go on the pill, or get an IUD

[Anonymous]

Don't rely on withdrawal on the days you're most likely to get pregnant. You can keep track of which days are safest with an ovulation calendar.

Have your partner pee before sex to clear out any sperm that may have gotten an early start.

When your partner ejaculates outside you, make sure no fluid gets on your upper thighs or groin. Sperm on your skin can work its way inside your vagina.

Do it with someone you trust.