Question about 2nd base?

[happiestguy]

OK, me and my girlfriend were having date night at her house a couple days ago, and so we went down to the basement to watch a movie. She likes to roll her shirt up a bit so I can touch her bare stomach. Well, I decided to take a chance and make my way up to the "forbidden area" with her shirt and bra still on. She seemed pretty chill about it, like, she didn't stop me or anything, so I rubbed her boobs a bit and on and off would go up again and start rubbing and squeezing a bit (this was the first time I've ever felt a girl's boobs). Well, when we were making out, I started kissing around her boob area, and around her stomach and chest and whatnot. The problem was that I really wanted to kiss her on her actual boobs, like, underneath her shirt and bra, but I didn't know exactly how to go about doing that. I didn't really feel comfortable with taking off her shirt and bra, since she's told me numerous times that she wants to go slow, but there was really no other way I could get underneath her bra that would be comfortable for her. W've been going out for a little mnore than two months. I'm just wondering, the next time we hang out, what should I do if I want to try again?

[cjwright79]

If she wants you to kiss her chest you can rest assured that her bra makes it's way to the arm of the sofa, you know. Still, your affection is to be commended. Just have a little patience. Respect her sovereignty.

[happiestguy]

How should I go about taking her bra off though? Like, should I ask her first? I don't want to get to the point where she has to tell me to stop...

[cjwright79]

Look, if she wanted to take her bra off, she would have taken it off. It's a very sensitive region, the breasts, so she's not so sure that she wants you making predations there.

[happiestguy]

Hmmm... The only thing is that she's told me that she wants me to do what I want to do, so I don't think she would take that initiative. I was thinking about asking her today if it would be OK if I went a bit further next time, do you think that's a good idea? Or should I just wait to see what happens?

[cjwright79]

It would be better to wait and see, but then again communication is good. So just trust your gut and do what makes sense at the time. :)

[Heygirlheylol]

I'm a girl and I said this, take the bra off dude

[Anonymous]

While you are kissing, slowly undo her bra, you don't have to take it off, and then you'll be able to kiss and stuff with the actual boobs without fully taking her bra off and just pushing the bra and top up.

[happiestguy]

Do you think she would be OK with this? Like, I know you don't know her, but she wants to take it slow, and I don't want it to get to the point that she has to tell me to stop...

[Opinion Owner]

How long have you been dating? whilst you're trying to take off her bra she'll be able to tell, if she doesn't want you to then she might slightly move to give you a hint, but I don't think she'll actually tell you. I think she'll be okay with it happening if she let you do what you did the other night.

[happiestguy]

We've been going out a little more that 2 months

[Opinion Owner]

I think she'll be okay with it then, just try it. if he doesn't like it she'll give you a signal.

[happiestguy]

Ok. I just don't like doing something that she might not be comfortable with

[Opinion Owner]

I do honestly think she'll be okay with it, you just undo it and leave it on her and leave her top on, you aren't really doing much more than you did the other night.

[happiestguy]

Except the other night I didn't actually get to see her boobs, and I don't know if she'd be comfortable with that... Idk, I might just be thinking too far into this

[Opinion Owner]

But she was okay with you touching them, this is like taking a next step, adding a new step, so its kinda adding stuff, but taking it slow, because you aren't doing much more. I think she will be fine with it. or whilst touching her boobs, why not whisper in her ear ''can I undo your bra?'' idk. which ever you think will be better for her.

[happiestguy]

Do you think it would ruin the moment if I did that?

[happiestguy]

I mean the whispering in her ear

[Opinion Owner]

Not if you do it softly and kind of put a sexy ring to it. but I do think it would be better to see her reaction to you undoing her bra straight away.