Scared girls turn me on. Am I weird?

There is nothing sexier than a scared female. Is something wrong with me?
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  • It's normal to have paraphilias. I don't know what could have caused that, but it's generally agreed it's something in your childhood. Maybe you saw your younger sister extremely scared while naked, or something, I dunno. One flashing image you don't even remember is enough to cause a lifelong obsession.

    I have some pretty extreme fetishes. I mean, like... Extreme. But I'd never *do* them, the temptation isn't even particularly strong, a lot of people don't really understand that. And besides! Scaring a girl sexually CAN be done. Everyone connects it with rape, RAPE, RAPE. SHE'S SCARED AND YOU'RE HORNY AND IT'S RAPE. But sh*t, man. Couples scare each other all the time, parents scare their kids, friends scare each other. You hide behind a doorway you can scare someone... That doesn't last very long, but you know. That side of the fear spectrum. Not fearing for their lives, just totally terrified in a perfect animal way.

    If you go down that route you should be able to actually live out your kick and no one would criticise you. Although, if your kick is specifically women scared for their lives then, I dunno. There ain't money options that aren't particularly drastic and pretty bad form. But being aroused by something is never bad, no. Never.

  • You're fine.

    I think DS4L explains it very well here. Why else do you think couples watch scary movies? ;)

    • its not normal to want someone, to be afraid of you.

    • what the? when did I say I want someone to be afraid of me?

    • About 15 minutes before that comment, in a comment to toulouse's answer?

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  • It's not weird at all! These people saying its weird or it gives you the 'same attributes as a rapist" or blah blah blah don't know the difference between thinking Vs actually doing, fantasy vs. Reality, or BDSM. This turn on is no weirder than the fact that some girls like to be scared!! (Like me, for example... Makes my lady parts light up. Lol) its actually a very common fantasy/turn on. Just Google 'fear play'. It's the whole idea of the guy being tougher, more masculine, bigger, in comparison to the female who is weaker and scared. (Calm down feminists, this is a fantasy, not saying this is always the case). But this fantasy works both ways- some guys love to see fear in a girls eyes, and some girls like to be the ones playing scared. I mean, if girls didn't like that shit... Why would we make big scenes about bugs or scary movies? You're not weird and you don't have psychotic tendencies... If you're not sure, just educate yourself! Don't rely on opinions, rely on facts. I mean, I always though I was weird for liking to be scared or threatened. Turns out, its normal and more common than you'd think. And makes for a hell of a roleplay ;)

  • I don't know why everyone is just writing this question off as normal, this doesn't seem normal to me, I mean downvote me if you want but if someone is getting stimulated by people being genuinely terrified by them then that is not normal. I mean you are talking about getting sexual satisfaction, or at least some type of satisfaction from seeing someone who is frightened? People keep saying you want this so that you can protect her, but you never said that...you just said its sexually appealing. This makes me think you are a rapist, rapists like to control and take power which leaves their victims scared and helpless.

    this sounds like pycopathic behavior, I'm not trying to make you feel bad ir insult you, it would rally help if uoi could calrify what you mean

    • hmmm I didn't mean to call you a rapist, that was rude, I just meant that a rapist may be gratifued by the same type if thing

    • I think people are afraid to come off as prudish and close minded if they say it's not normal

    • I would agree with you there, people don't want to seem intolerant

  • I like it when my boyfriend is scared,or sad--only if I can comfort him.

    its very endearing& adorable, which is a turn on.

    tho I don't actually want him to be scared. or I guess, I shouldnt, but I kind of like it. I feel guilty about that, tho. but I don't think its abnormal. maybe just slightly sadistic. I dint go out of my way to scare him tho.

    Do you mean scared of you. or just scared? scared of you, as in fearing you--is creepy.

    Scared so you can comfort them, is normal.

    • Both, scared of me or just scared.

    • if you like her being scared of u, that's possibly dangerous. you could want more & more, till you do things to frighten her. then become violent, or mind f*** her. that's like borderline sociopathic. i don't think its normal to want someone to be afraid of you. unless you just mean, she's so attracted to u, you make her nervous, that's very common. but as far as actually fearing for her well being-no. that's pathological.

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  • I don't think it's weird, depending on why you think it turns you on. Could it be because you feel manly when you are able to step up and protect a woman from something/someone? If that's the case, then that's completely normal and just part of your manly instincts.

  • Scared of you or just scared of something else and wanting you to protect her?

  • Good question, no your not weird since that's just in your biological nature, to protect her from harm and assure her that everything will be okay. :)

  • Yes, you are. However, you like what you like. That said, you cannot get your kicks at someone else's expense. Now, if they buy into your fetish, then that would be OK. Do you understand that? You can't just plan (or even spur of the moment) to scare a woman, that violates her rights to be happy & secure. Understood? If she is your partner & agrees to it, but doesn't know about what or when, etc., that's different. But then you know you need a safe word, right? Does that all make sense?

  • by scared what do you mean?

    • What's not to understand? Scared = afraid of something/someone.

  • who knows if anything is wrong with you, unless of course you are scarying her just to get off. but I was told a long time ago that 'a scared woman is an aroused woman.'. maybe that is part of your mystery?

  • I don't know.

    And I expect it depends to what extent its offset by empathy.

  • That's normal. It makes you feel protective and more manly. :P Especially if she's using you to hide (holding your arm or whatever), it's a boost to the ego and - hullo - lotsa touching and comforting. ;D That's why guys like watching scary movies with girls, they get to comfort them. :P

    • its not normal to want someone, to be afraid of _you_

    • what the? when did I say I want someone to be afraid of me?

    • I didn't say you want her to be afraid of you..? I said it's a turn on if she seeks your protection when she is scared..

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  • Not weird. But I don't really understand. You get excited from a girl being traumatized and helpless?

  • You like when a girl is helpless and vulnerable so you can be there for her, there's nothing wrong with that

  • then you will hate me cause I'm fearless ... ^_^

    • Lies.

    • Says miss anonymous :)

    • nope ... I just hate the dark, insects, elevators, things like that ... but as far as being attacked by a guy I can handle that with kung fu and pepper spray :) as far as you cuddle muffin ... no more cuddles for you muhahhaaaaa

  • Do NOT scare girls to make them sexier in your eyes, PLEASE!

    That would be awfully pervy.

    • Don't worry, I won't scare them... only a little ;)

  • It's just a fetish. You're a dom. Check to see if there are any alternate lifestyle clubs in your area. Places like this allow you to meet missives that enjoy being scared but of course you have to build a trust with this person and respect their limits.

  • When blokes get off on scaring, hurting, or just simple bullying towards a girl, he isn't just weird, he is dangerouse, and they need to be careful of who they scare, because most guys don't like guys like this, we prefer to protect women rather than scare them, so is there something wrong, more than likely.

    • I don't really care if guys don't like guys like this.

    • You probably will, you don't become invincible by scaring girls, you become a target, but go for it, its your consequence not mine..

    • lolz, I will? I become a target? if someone dares to mess with me, they become a target. simple as that.

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  • Yes, that's a little weird. and by weird, I mean outside the norm, probably psychologically pathological. a lot of rapists, murderers, and torturers feel the same way that you do.

    Who really cares? as long you don't do anything that you know is illegal and wrong, be as freaky as you want to be. get into bdsm. I'm sure youd get a kick out of that.

    • BDSM = acting/roleplaying. The girls aren't really scared. They're faking it. I'm talking about real life situations.

    • Oh, obviously. I'm giving you options that will keep people safe and you out of jail. if you choose to go another route, I can sincerely say I hope you mess with the wrong girl and she either f***s you up/kills you, or you go to jail. or you could make a hobby of sneaking around to dangerous situations, and instead of helping the girl, just stand there and jerk off in the corner. again, I hope you get what you deserve either way. you have options. I'm was just trying to help you cope, kiddo.

    • kiddo? not a good idea to provoke me. you don't want me to take my anger out on an innocent girl, do you?

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