Scared of Penis!

[Anonymous]

I know, I know- that must mean I'm not ready, right? Wrong! I WANT to make my boyfriend feel good. He practically WORSHIPS me for hours, and he doesn't pressure me at all! I don't want to have actual sex anytime soon. But I just get jittery and freaked out when I see- or feel- him. I gave him a handjob once, because I wanted to make him feel good. I was HORRIBLE. He had to help me the whole time, because I kept getting skivved out like he had cooties or something! I couldn't even LOOK at him! (Except to note that he's nice down there- nice size, clean) And after, I ran to the bathroom and scrubbed myself down! I think it might be something to do with the fact that I'm TERRIFIED of getting pregnant, because I'm not on birth control. My mom's cool- she said she'd go with me to the doctor no questions asked whenever (I am NOT super young, I just would want her there)- but I don't want to ask! Also, I'm a virgin. I do NOT want to have some PERSON with their metal thingies messing around down there, because I heard of a girl who lost her virginity painfully when they tried to open her cervix! And they just said "oops" and kept going! Basically, HELP!

[K1989]

i am exactly the same, however I have had sex, and its good, I am on birth control, recommend the implant, doesn't hurt, I haven't bled at all on it in 3 months. I also asked my mum, no ques asked, people thought I was weird cos I spoke to her bout it. they don't necessarily use metal thingies down there lol :)

but anyways, b4 I was on the implant, we used condoms, and I physically couldn't put it on for him, I just froze and got all jittery and horrible :(

went to wales for a mini break last month, that was the first time in the 8 months we been together that I touched his penis, and that was only cos he helped me

i just have no idea what to do, if I will hurt him etc, every now and again I will when we are at it, and the other day, he made me guide him in, which was awkward to say the least, again got all jittery and horrible.

i want to give him a blow job but froze as soon as I got anywhere near that region, as with you, he is always pleasing me and making sure I am satisfied and its not nice to think I can't seem to do the same for him

so I can't really help you, other than saying ur not alone and I will keep checking ur question for new answers in hope they can answer mine to lol

[l-hedoniste]

Take a deep breath. Your only problem, really, is nerves.

Your boyfriend keeps getting naked with you, so you can't be that awful. Besides, time and habit totally cure for the jitters. Just be patient.

*I* am terrified of making someone pregnant, too. It's why I'm so strict about birth control with myself and my partners. It's a habit you should begin to cultivate.

You are SO VERY LUCKY to have a mom who'll support you. Please don't waste this opportunity. Go up to mom and tell her: "Time for that trip!" Abuse your doctor with questions; they're credible, and they're among the few people who get paid to tell you the truth about sex.

[myths]

Everything sounds normal except for the "went to the bathroom and scrubbed myself down" part, sounds a bit like OCD right there. It's naturally to view the opposite sex's unique characteristics with a bit of anxiety and first but usually curiosity mixed with hormones helps us to overcome our apprehension. But your case may be a bit more extreme. I too think you should talk to a doctor bout this. They can give you some brochures that will help you understand the risks.

[blah52]

Its just a d***, its not going to bite, however it will spit.

[notoriginal]

u might be a lesbian. are you scared pussy?

[Anonymous]

You, my dear, are a victim of APC - the American Prude Culture. You (and you're not alone) have been brainwashed by our fear of all things sensual into being terrified of the most natural, healthy act that human beings can perform.

I'm sorry. I don't know the solution. It might be as simple as working through your fears, or it might be as complicated as professional counseling. Either way, I truly hope you find a way to have the intimacy that every human being deserves.

[vesob]

APC - At first I thought Armored Personnel Carrier. How can you be a victim of that? lol