Let's start by making one thing VERY clear: in the VAST MAJORITY of cases, if you have sex with a guy before you have an "official" committed relationship, you'll NEVER have an official relationship with him. Are there exceptions to this rule? Of course, but it's a low percentage, and not the kind of odds you want to face.
Want to prove that to yourself? Simply pick ANY week's worth of posts from the Relationship category and read them. See how often just in ONE WEEK there are girls talking about how they slept with a guy they wanted a relationship with, and how he "wants to keep things as they are." There are lots and lots and LOTS of those posts here, a dozen a week or more.
Most (not all, but most) guys will not trust a girl who will sleep with a guy (even HIM!) outside of a relationship, because they will believe that you will (and have) slept with other guys outside of a relationship too, and that prevents you from being "relationship material" to most guys. I'm not saying they are right, I'm just saying that's how they'll think, and right or wrong, it's going to affect how they think about you. Even if they were really into you and were thinking about making you their girlfriend, if you give into sex before a commitment, most guys won't want that commitment anymore.
The rule is: only have sex within a committed relationship. That rule was created BY women to PROTECT women, and if you choose not to follow it, the only one who is going to lose is YOU. So be smart about it.
I talk about this a bit more in this article:
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This is missing holes. OF COURSE you will see more questions of a woman having sex with a male and him losing interest or not wanting to be committed because WHY would anyone ask a question on here if the guy decided to BE committed or take I further. There is no problem so no question is needed. There is a reason why people come on here, it's because they're unhappy and looking for answers. If things are going well, there will not be questions asked.
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Are you kidding us? Well, it really depends on the individual man. The religious fanatical won't even go that far while the moral police will condemn you for even going that far to begin with. Immature, selfish men will more likely think less of you, but only AFTER they get some booty out of you. If they really respected you, they should have stopped you beforehand.
Other men will actually think better of her as most of the men here have posted. If you know each other well and decided to skip the troublesome dating stuff, all the better.
So tell me, what makes a relationship "official?"
For me personally, sex locks me into a specific woman. It means no more looking, no more fantasizing other chicks openly and it's green light with her and no one else. She choose to go this far with me and not with someone else. This is supposed to mean something special between her and I when she could have chosen another younger, better looking guy.
Am I not correct?
I ask the women of the world, please have sex with me now. It's OK, really. I will be good with you and for you. Disbelieving? Oh DO try me :)
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some do, some don't. for me the ones that would judge you on it are immature game players and a waste of time anyway. Dating shouldn't be like some game where you are at war with one another to get what you want. Also it's kind of manipulative in a way to hold out when you want it.
I slept with my currently boyfriend before we were "official". We had sex on our 4th date. We've now been together for the better part of a year.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!i don't even care if she had sex in the past with other guys, as long she isn't overly promiscuos, I think as long as a person have sex selectively (no drunk-sex-shame at morning sex) its ok
why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free. my last relationship started out with sex and ended with infidelity so unless its just hookup, I think it is doomed to fail.
a single personal experience doesn't prove that every timeits happens she will cheat. the results could vary, mabye she cheats, maybe she doesn't, maybe you cheat, maybe no one cheats. Never conclude anything based in one experience.
err meant to vote A... boo. Poll question not really matching the poll answers. That is
Question: Is it Okay?
Answers:
A: Yes (would seem yes it's okay, but really it says not ok)
B: No (would seem it's not OK, but really say it is ok)
:P I should read more carefully. But damn tired mind is a lazy mind. My bad, but also try and keep questions and the answers aligned a bit.
I did when I was younger but as I got older, the whole issue of sex on a first date and sex before being in a relationship became a little irrelevant.
If I click with someone I generally won't care when the sex comes (no pun intended)
Ryuk says,"Sore de ii(that's good)". Now I have to watch that anime again! Thanks dude
You can't really blame her if she did, because you allowed it yourself, as sex is a mutual thing. If you didn't approve of it and it happened, I think you'd feel more less about yourself. So I think the question is kind of flawed there.
It would never happen to me, as I would not do it. I myself do not believe in sex without an emotional attachment or connection. And any girl I date will know this.
It's okay with me...would NOT think less of her...(:(:(:
No I wouldn't. In fact I really don't like it when girls who read into things like that so much. I'm OK with waiting for a girl to be ready/comfortable, but I don't want her to wait because of how she thinks she might be perceived. At the same time, I don't want her to give in when she's not ready.
Nah.
Nope
not at all. I had sex with my girlfriend multiple times before we were "official"
been almost 3 years now
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