Sex club for first time?

[james7788]

My girlfriend took me to a fetish club for my birthday and we ended up in a fun room with other couples. She ended up with two other guys but didn't want me to go near any of the girls, do you think this is ok

[Cammy137]

I guess it depends on the dynamic of your relationship but if my girlfriend had done that to me, id either have gone and fucked other girls or have broken up with her. It would have been wise to discuss boundaries before hand. Thats what my girlfriend and I do

[normalice]

if you're okay with it, yes. But if it made you even a little bit uncomfortable, then no.

Seems unfair, in any event..

[aaynna]

you're such a good guy.

You dont let other guys touch your girl. Its like sharing you know, thats not good to hear.

[james7788]

Well we had talked about it before and we both liked the idea

[aaynna]

Then if it is okay with the two of you then i guess its fine. The thing that is not okay is what the others going to think, specially to you.

[james7788]

How do yiu think other people will think?

[aaynna]

In the comment section you'll see who's not cool and cool bout it 😀

[Shaorie]

Complete double standard. If it is okay for her, it's okay for you.

[james7788]

Well I said that to her but she said I enjoy watching her but she would be jealous with me soo it's kinda difficult

[Shaorie]

Set new boundaries. Express your discomfort on the double standard so you know for the future. Unless boundaries and standards were set before it is hard to say. That is just my PoV.

[james7788]

Thanks thats a good idea, we actually had boundaries set before which was for us two just to have fun in the room but we were quite drunk and had sex for a bit and a guy asked to join in and I said he should

[Shaorie]

Yea stuff happens sometimes and unless standards or thoughts were expressed before you can't really... "back yourself" up if that makes sense? But if you do wish it was you could do x and she does x you say that. While you might have enjoyed the view it is important you express your thoughts and feelings.

[james7788]

Thanks, yeah will defijtirky make sure to arrange more plans next time it all happened really fast and unexpectedly so we didn't plan for it. If we go back I'll be sure to arrange rules before

[Shaorie]

Yea I believe just a sit down (boring as it sounds) for how you feel on x y and z once in a while is good and healthy. Good luck.

[james7788]

Haha well it doesn't sound too boring if we are talking about thst. I think I'll do that so for next time time we both know what to expect

[Shaorie]

Hope it works out. It can be confusing and hurtful but as corny as it sounds communication is key!

[ObliviousJester]

"she said you enjoy watching"? So she thinks for you now? Get rid of that double standard piece of shit.

[Fedrin]

Yes this is completely ok. You have got the license to find the next girl

[JustFelixio]

If this wasn't discussed prior, then no, not okay. controlling af.

[Askhole]

Not. At. All.

[abond008]

What?

[DiegoO]

There is no future in a relationship like that, and her reaction was really selfish. She basically wanted to fuck other guys during your BIRTH DAY.

[SomeGuy965]

No. It's fair game if she's with other guys, you get other girls!

[SomeGermanDude]

Not cool.

[glasgow4chat]

Aye right.. she has two guys and tells you your can't touch a lass.. bolt shed be told and I'd be up as many as possible.. it's your birthday not hers

[busybeingwhite]

That's horse shit and completely selfish on her part. So while your girlfriend was getting railed, you just sat there because she said you can't participate?

[greNader]

If my girlfriend did that Id execute her and then commit suicide

[helloimh]

It is not okk.. your birthday she should have celebrate with you not other guys.. not good

[Cannuk22]

What do you think.

[Neutelos]

Not good for sure , she made what she prevented you from

[s1882433]

You are good boyfriend. And... fuck man! What the hell?

[BonkersBug]

So she fucked other guys for your birthday? Unless you both decided this beforehand it's wrong. And tbh even if you did it's hardly fair.

[james7788]

We had discussed it before and I did tell her I enjoyed the thought of it but when one of the guys partners who was fucking her came over to me she made it clear she didn't want me to do anything. I mean I still found it hot to watch but just a bit in two minds

[BonkersBug]

Well, it's obvious your not happy with it. Have you told her?

[james7788]

I haven't because I'm in two minds I did find it really hot to watch and she has said she'd be too jealous if I did so in a difficult situation

[BonkersBug]

Mmm, well it's not fair on paper but if you are happy for that to continue then it's ok. I feel like if you're posting on here you're not really happy with it. No judgement either way, I think you should decide yourself what your comfortable with before it happens again.

[james7788]

Thanks for not judging I can appreciate it's not a normal thing at all to do. I guess I did think it's a bit unfair if she wouldn't let me but at the same point if she wouldn't enjoy watching then it's not fair for me.. Whereas I really liked watching her having sex

[BonkersBug]

That's true. I think guys enjoy stuff like that more. You just have to decide if it's for you. X

[james7788]

Haha yeah that's true, and I think it definitely is for me it may have been the horniest I've ever been

[zerosk8er93]

Sounds like she wanted to do what she wanted...

[Anonymous]

How to find these sex clubs in the first place

[Anonymous]

Ya my girlfriend is like that she likes getting other dick. But won't let me get near another girl

[james7788]

Did you say anything? I still had lots of fun seeing her with them but found it weird she wasn't happy the other way round

[Opinion Owner]

No not really. I still enjoy watching her

[james7788]

Me too, she wants to go back so I'm considering it.. Would you ever let her have sex without yiu watching?

[Opinion Owner]

Ya I let her

[james7788]

And do you not get jealous?

[Opinion Owner]

Ya I sometimes do