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So while I was having a shower I had a thought (it is where all the good thoughts come from) and now they're doing a feature about it on my news so I guess it's a sign that I have to write this take.
All over the internet I see people complaining that kids these days don't have the proper sex education and are therefore having sex younger and getting pregnant. I'm telling you this is not the case...
From my own experience it didn't change a thing for me. I learnt about sexual education from the age of 9 through to the age of 14, we watched videos, learnt about all the different kinds of stds/STIs and saw pictures, we learnt about all the different kinds of contraception, how the reproductive system works etc etc...
I had had my first sexual experience when I was 13. My boyfriend at the time and I decided we wanted to try a bit of "fondling" after 3-4 months of just that we decided we wanted to have sex (I was 14 at this stage) we had a condom, safety first, and I laughed out of nerves and he went flaccid, I decided I wasn't ready and we broke up a few months later. But around the same time 2 of my friends were having sex. Along with plenty others of my class mates (one even going back door at 13).
Fast ts forward a couple years and I lose my virginity at 16 to my boyfriend who I was with at that time 6 months. We did not use a Condom, I have never used a condom to this day, we went unprotected because of the inconvenience. I eventually got onto birth control (Jadelle| implant in my arm)
We have since broken up and I've noticed that a couple people that were in my class at my primary school (sisters) both have baby's now.
My my cousins at the age of 8 have already started sex education. Their teacher asked them to go home and ask their parents what the "white sticky stuff that comes out of a penis called".
My sister is 10 in a month, has already developed breasts (refuses to wear a bra) and my mum is putting off giving her the talk. Her school hasn't had sex education yet.
I believe it is important, but I believe you can't blame education for the amount of teen mums and sexually active teenagers.
But we certainly shouldn't scare them into thinking that sex is scary and you shouldn't do It.
What are your ideas for a better sexual education system?
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24 26Well pregnancy among teens has been going down for a long time, and the amount of sexual education has been going up... dunno what to tell you.
And yeah, only one girl at my high school got pregnant, the whole time I was there. And she wasn't in my class, she was in the class below me.
We all knew about sex by 5th grade anyway, when we had the puberty talk, and we didn't even see the "Miracle of Life" video until 8th grade. And then in 9th grade biology we had more sex ed.
I know a shitload about sex and all that, and my parents never talked to me about it because it's fucking easy to learn on your own. I doubt remember actually learning anything new from any of those sex ed classes either.
The number of abortions and of unreported pregnancies has gone up. Also, STDs are skyrocketing. Especially with more and more kids being encouraged at younger and younger ages to engage in homosexual behavior. Also, with porn everywhere and increasingly mainstream, excessive masturbation becomes easier than trying to put up with someone else. And that over time can lead to infertility. With iPhones and Instagram and World of Warcraft and what-not, who has time for sex anyway?
All of those things sound untrue. If pregnancy is going down, by population rather than proportion, then how could any of what you said is going up be true? You might be talking about proportion, but then it doesn't even matter.
Hm don't think homosexual behaviour has anything specific to do with the heightened stds
@DarkHunorRUs You're wrong. We still teach an Abstinence Only education (nothing has changed) and it proves sexual education has nothing to do with teen pregnancy rates at all. STD's? Maybe.
Just stay ugly. Best protection ever. Has worked so far for me and a few friends
Instead of teaching abstinence, schools and parents should be providing a more open atmosphere and recourses. I refused to take my school's abstinence only sex education, and was able to get out of it. As a senior in highschool, I know how STDs are caused and to use protection, as well as a multitude of other things. I learned none of that from a school run program or even my parents, however. I learned it from my doctor, who provided an open atmosphere where it isn't shamed to talk about sex. Sex ed in schools is a joke.
I never had sex ed or "the talk."
I lost my virginity at 18.
No clue if my mom had sex ed, but she was pregnant with me at 16 and had me at 17.
I was put on birth control by age 16 because she didn't want me to get pregnant. But I'm not a whore like she was, but she thinks I am. haha
You think there's some sort of pride in calling your own mom a whore?
i agree with the person who said that sex education focuses too much on the physical aspect, because in reality, sex is so much more than the physical and more often than not stems from something more than physical so i think they need to address the moral aspects/issues of very young people experimenting with sex and i also believe that everyone has their own story and their own rationale as to why they do certain things and i believe that no one class can ever be fit to address all individuals and if a difference is going to be made in regards to teen sex/pregnancy and what not, they need to target smaller pockets of teenagers and address specific backgrounds and the true root cause of why their mindset is the way that it is
Sex is a physical act.
yes, it is however the reasoning as to why young people experiment with sex a lot of the time is about more than just the physical act
I didn't have any sex Ed in school, my parents taught me in levals that I could understand at my current age. I was a virgin on my wedding night, so was my husband.
I'm not sure what you're saying.
You can look at the numbers of teenage pregnancies and there are far more in the US, where a lot of states just teach abstinence, than in all countries of Western Europe, where kids were taught about it from early on. So it does indicate that sexual education does work.
Are there no unwanted teenage pregnancies in Europe at all? No, it still happens, but it happens in far lower numbers. You can teach someone how to properly grill and they can still choose to burn the food by neglecting to watch the fire.
Sex education might not work for the stupid, but it really helps those who aren't stupid.
But the United States teen pregnancy rate is at an all time low, yet, our sexual education hasn't changed at all. If you compare to Europe, you're right, it makes no sense. However, Asian and African countries have a strong correlation between abstinence and low-teen pregnancy rates. You can't assume that sexual education is the CAUSE of why European countries have a low teen pregnancy rate. Correlation is NOT causation.
@CincinnatiRedsfan Which specific Asian and African countries do you mean? A quick google search will tell you that Africa has the highest teenage pregnancy rate in the world.
I know African countries have the highest teen pregnancy rate in the world, because of the undeveloped countries. I was saying the African countries (more developed) which DO have abstinence only, for whatever reason, a low teen pregnancy rate. Pretty much every Asian country treats sex as if it's taboo, which is why they wait so long to have sex in the first place. Europe is an exception. Here in the United States, it wouldn't matter either way, because our teens seem to rebel against what is taught in the first place.
@CincinnatiRedsfan So which African countries are the more developed?
I've never understoof the need for it anyway, a teacher telling me in year 9 (I was about 14) what puberty is and masturbation, like I hadn't allready discovered what my penis could do and where all the extra hair was. Our bodies are designed to go through puberty when they do for a reason. We dont have any other lessons telling us how our functions work or what they do "urination and bowel movement education". "how to cut nails and comb hair education".
There are two problems with sex education:
1. It is not thought through at how to do it.
2. It only focuses on the practical way without ever explaining kids what sex actually means for a relationship, intimacy, etc. Those topics which kids don't really have a clue about and also might find scary to begin with.
I think for a big part it's just the mentallity about sex, I feel like the US is very sexphobic (is that a word :p idk) and that results in people not wanting to talk to teens about sex. You can see it on this site alone, whenever someone of 15-16 asks something about sex people go like :"you are not 18 yet, you can't ask that question". Whereas in my country sex is not really a taboo and teen pregnancy is not high at all (I don't know the numbers, this is based of my personal experience), so maybe the problem is a lack of communication. Ofcourse this is just a theory :p I'm not sure if it IS related, but I wouldn't be surprised if it is.
It always gets me when people say "youre not 18 yet so dont have sex." Im 17 and in my country you can have sex at 16.
Your individual experience is irrelevant. Statistics show that comprehensive sex education directly correlates with reduced teen and unwanted pregnancy rates, while abstinence-only education correlates with higher pregnancy rates.
Sexual education is very important. Is better to learn something helpful than to learn nothing and is even better to applye it in your life, however everyone decide what they choose and lives with the result of their decisions.
Sex isn't scary. Sexual education is best but there are too many dumb people:
All drivers learned to drive, had to get a license.
Nevertheless, we get this: en.wikipedia.org/.../...cle_deaths_in_U.S._by_year
Would you say we don't need driving tuition and permits?
I don't know about the US but in Canada I didn't have much of a sex ed class until grade 9 (age 14). All that was explained was the anatomy of the male and the female and that when sperm reached the egg a woman became pregnant. I didn't know what sex was until grade 9 when we were taught about condoms and STIs (I still remember asking the teacher if it was STDs or STIs and he said STIs). I had a general idea of what sex was but I only fully understood it when I watched porn.
My parents never talked to me about it since the thought the school would teach me what I needed to know. That is why I believe sex ed should be in schools with an opt out option for the religious or those whose parents prefer to explain it.
just letting you know that prager university (makers of this video) is a biased one sided organization lead by an ultraconservative republican Dennis prager. he is a radio talk show host that believes college diversity is a scam. He is a lunatic.
oops. Some how i posted this on the wrong take
Here's the sex education my kids will be getting
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Well, you'll be a terrible father.
Best watch your language, unless you want to miss desert tonight, son.
See my response. If you don't find a way around that dilemma, the belt will only influence your children for so long. Once they outgrow arbitrary shows of force, if you leave them with nothing else, they will only turn their back on what can no longer hurt them.
Or, just a thought, you could educate your children on their bodies and sex because they're both natural things? Like, are you just going to hit your toddler son with a belt when he asks why he has an erection because it's not something you want to talk about?
@madispute yes
You're disgusting, and I hope you're sterile.
This is like shooting fish in a barrel.
don't give a fuck about this "problem". usually it's a problem between girls and hot guys any-ways (top 5% male population). Don't have a daughter, problem solved.
in my opinion , sex education is only needed to avoid pregnency in early teens and stds by having sex with uknown people...
Just teach kids how it works. Otherwise they learn from other sources. What are STDs, how can you get them, what causes pregnancy, what doesn't etc. Absistence-based sex ed is BS
Well, of course it doesn't work for stupid people.