Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
So while I was having a shower I had a thought (it is where all the good thoughts come from) and now they're doing a feature about it on my news so I guess it's a sign that I have to write this take.
All over the internet I see people complaining that kids these days don't have the proper sex education and are therefore having sex younger and getting pregnant. I'm telling you this is not the case...
From my own experience it didn't change a thing for me. I learnt about sexual education from the age of 9 through to the age of 14, we watched videos, learnt about all the different kinds of stds/STIs and saw pictures, we learnt about all the different kinds of contraception, how the reproductive system works etc etc...
I had had my first sexual experience when I was 13. My boyfriend at the time and I decided we wanted to try a bit of "fondling" after 3-4 months of just that we decided we wanted to have sex (I was 14 at this stage) we had a condom, safety first, and I laughed out of nerves and he went flaccid, I decided I wasn't ready and we broke up a few months later. But around the same time 2 of my friends were having sex. Along with plenty others of my class mates (one even going back door at 13).
Fast ts forward a couple years and I lose my virginity at 16 to my boyfriend who I was with at that time 6 months. We did not use a Condom, I have never used a condom to this day, we went unprotected because of the inconvenience. I eventually got onto birth control (Jadelle| implant in my arm)
We have since broken up and I've noticed that a couple people that were in my class at my primary school (sisters) both have baby's now.
My my cousins at the age of 8 have already started sex education. Their teacher asked them to go home and ask their parents what the "white sticky stuff that comes out of a penis called".
My sister is 10 in a month, has already developed breasts (refuses to wear a bra) and my mum is putting off giving her the talk. Her school hasn't had sex education yet.
I believe it is important, but I believe you can't blame education for the amount of teen mums and sexually active teenagers.
But we certainly shouldn't scare them into thinking that sex is scary and you shouldn't do It.
What are your ideas for a better sexual education system?
What Girls & Guys Said
24 26It's a cultural thing. In my country, sex education is extremely deemphasized and yet most girls (I believe) do not have sex until after marriage.
Any sex education has always got to be top down, because it's the society and the parents that shape the child.
Kids as young as 9 shouldn't have sex ed. I didn't even learn about periods until I was 11, and I'll admit it, I cried, even at that age it was too overwhelming for me. A year later, I learned about sex. I pictured everything a lot different, such as the woman just sobbed the whole time, and was emotional wreck forever afterwards. At the same time, I thought it sounded satisfying. Pop culture confused me badly, and so did sex ed to be honest.
Until I was 14, I finally understood things, and now that I've matured and understand fully, I masturbate. I will not be sexually active with a partner (okay, actually with my sweetheart) until we're married.
So, the moral of the story is, kids should be taught at the age of puberty (I recommend 12 years), and can't be allow to have any form of birth control until the age of 18, unless alredy married. Also, sex ed should talk about real life vs entertainment (i. e. Tv shows).
Actually I think they should be taught around the age of 9 about puberty because that is the age puberty actually starts. I got my period when I was just 11 so being taught it at 12 is way too late for me
"and can't be allow to have any form of birth control until the age of 18, unless already married" Ok that's dumb ! Kids are going to have sex before 18 but you don't want them to protect themselves? What do you think is going to happen? Also why suddenly permit it if they are married? Seems to me that if they are already old enough to decide on important stuff like getting married, they are old enough to decide if they need birth control no? Also why restrict birth control at all? What are you trying to achieve from that? Prevent them from having sex? Do you think you would stop someone from riding their motorcycle if you took away their helmet? All you will get is brain jam all over our streets.
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Omg. Hah. The thing is that, whether or not a person chooses to use the information, they need to receive it. Imagine if you had never been told that condoms and birth control exist?
Many kids dont have parents that would tell them these things.
False information about STD"s would be spread. Things like "if you rape a virgin, you'll be cured of your HIV" is a real problem in places of the world that dont have a succesful method of sex ed.
The idea is that most children will be sexually active whether they have sex education or not. However, they need to be taught about how to do it safely.
Im 19 and I still ask my partner to use a condom. Its a matter of how responsible you chose to be. Everybody needs to be able to make that decision based on personal preference, no out of a lack of knowledge.
Complete absence of sex education will certainly lead to an increase in unwanted pregnancies and probably STDs as well, but sex education unfortunately isn't going to solve the issue of teen pregnancy.
You don't use condoms because you choose to put pleasure above protection, not because you have no idea what a condom is. No matter what people will make poor choices.
It's not about the pleasure, for me it was inconvenience of getting condoms.
Are you kidding? They are easy to get! Most health centers offer them up for free. At least they do at my college.
Making a trip to a drugstore and forking over a few dollars is more inconvenient than having an unwanted child? Well I'll be damned.
True but condoms break and people get pregnant off of them. Now condoms are nearly perfect for preventing STD's.
They're not actually that easy to get here, you can get them from the local supermarket yes but you're paying about $20 for just the classic durex ones and if a 14/15 year old is having sex I doubt they would want to fork out that amount of money on condoms. We have a free sexual health care clinic for 13-21 yo here but there are only a couple in each region. For where I live now it's only a 20min walk down the road but where i lived before if I wanted it to be more private I would have had to go on a half hour bus ride and another 20 min walk, to get there only in hopes of getting an appointment that day. Otherwise which is what I did was I got it done at the mini clinic at my high school. I had minor surgery in a tiny room to get on birth control then went off to class like nothing happened. Luckily I had a trustworthy teacher and I explained to him and it was all good because it was during and elective class where I knew nobody.
I still think that that's more convenient than pregnancy but hey.
Well yeah of course it is but then young ones think "well abortions are free" and like I did before I was on birth control I timed it around my period (there's a few days before and after that you can't get pregnant on)
We didn't have sex ed in pimary school and i didn't get it untill 4th term year 7.
Abstinence only sex education has been proven not to work. Teens are going to have sex and they're going to do it no matter what we tell them. They always have and always will. That's human nature. We must teach them and they must learn safe sex. Regular sex education does indeed work. Teen pregnancies are currently at their lowest levels ever. Let's keep them that way.
I completely agree, I had plenty of sex ed, but a lot of kids don't listen at that age! I knew the general idea of all the STD's but never enough to help me. I had a partner who had a genital wart, he got it removed and we thought we were good to go. I should have researched into it because now I have HPV. I knew ABOUT birth control but if it wasn't for my fellow sexually active teenage friends I would have had no idea on how to get it. Honestly, It helps that schools try to teach sex ed, but I think parents can help a lot as well. My parents were terrible influences, my mom taught me 'boob' exercises to make my breast bigger while my dad assumed I was a lesbian and told me to avoid having kids until I was 30. I learned all I know about sex from experience and porn, which is something that shouldn't happen. Sure school taught me what a labia is and how babies are made, but they really didn't teach me anything about sex itself. Just anatomy and scare tactics.
"they really didn't teach me anything about sex itself. Just anatomy and scare tactics." Then, you didn't receive proper sex ED. Obviously, it will not work, if you don't get one.