Sex with um, a chunky man?

I've been seeing this man for a while and he's good looking and tall and I like that, but he's kind of large.I mean fat. I've never been with a large person before and I almost feel weird touching his body because its so big. He makes me laugh and has those wonderful qualities but I'm a very petite woman. Am I being totally self centered? I am kind of afraid of being squished while having sex with him! Help!
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Well, worrying about looks is a little shallow, but it's completely normal. After all, we have to be attracted to someone's mind AND their body to have a fully healthy relationship because you want to be both emotionally and sexually attracted to that person. And you've already seen past the exterior to see the great guy within, so props to you, as you've gotten further than many women ever will.

    I've never been with anyone who was very large, so I'm not sure about if the mechanics are different. As for the weight difference between the two of you, well, if you're in missionary, he could always support himself on his arms as well. And there's always doggy style, girl-on-top, etc. Plenty of positions can keep from having his large frame overpowering your smaller one.

    For example, I once dated a guy almost a foot taller than me, and pretty muscular. I'm not petite by any means, but it could be awkward during sex as certain positions meant my face was at his chest, not near his face, and he obviously outweighed me quite a bit, which could be killer. So we fell back on other positions that removed the weight and made the height difference less of a problem. So I think it would work for you as well.

  • You won't be squished, I promise. My husband is substantially larger than I am (he's 6'1" 250 lbs and I'm 5' 127 lbs) and we've never had a problem bumping kitties. You shouldn't do anything that you are uncomfortable with, but I hope you give the guy a chance - big men can love too!

  • ahaha, I know what you mean, my boyfrieends got some extra meat but I don't mind, I mean I care for him alot, and like, I always go on top while were makign out, so if I were you I woudlnt mind, I mean like I'm not a big girl, it all depends on how you feel for this person.

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  • Lol. The being squished thing is a legitimate concern. In missionary, most guys will support their weight on their elbows, but I envision that, even if he does this, the gut will still be resting on you.

    Honestly, I don't know how fat people have sex. I guess the answer would be, the same as slim people, but I don't believe that's true. I have an acquantance who is fat and he always jokes that he hasn't seen his penis in years. It leaves me wondering how the hell does he have sex?

    I would be interested in reading some answers from larger people on this topic.

    • It's actually the same, really. It depends on how large her boyfriend, is, though. From my end (I'm a larger girl, but not obese) nothing honestly changes. I've had larger guys on missionary, and if he really thinks he might hurt you by putting his weight on you, he'll usually support himself. Also, I have a boyfriend that's a good hundred pounds less than me, and I'm on top all of the time and it doesn't hurt him, so it's honestly not that different. Any other things you're curious about?

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  • if you guys want to have sexual intercourse you just be on top!