Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
I think people from the teen years on waste a lot of time figuring out for themselves something that eventually becomes widely known to older people. I'm talking about human sexual attraction. Girls are encouraged since early childhood to be feminine through toys, clothes and cosmetics. A trait that is at the very least related to the sexual attractiveness of females, later on, if not directly connected to it. So, in general, young women of a certain age and build can get sexual attention without any real effort, and they get nurtured by default in ways to maximize this trait.
The same is not true for men. Only a few select men from high school to university age will ever get any net gains from any time and effort spent trying to sexually attract women. Men can't wear any sort of artificial cosmetics that will improve their appearance in the eyes of mainstream aesthetics, and the average male body isn't by default considered particularly sexually attractive.
When people are at their sexual prime in a sexually liberated society, given the chance women could find a sexual partner just by asking, while only a small percentage of men will easily find casual sexual partners, because only a small amount of men are considered attractive enough for casual sex by women. But the younger the man is, the more ignorant he is of this phenomenon. That's why we see men constantly complaining about having no luck on dating sites, or desperate men spamming their sausages on omegle. Nobody ever drilled into their head how utterly pointless their sexual market value is, with them looking like they do, mainly because nobody ever trained them to recognize what women find physically attractive. It's unmanly to even mention these things, much less give them serious consideration. It's MRA, it's whiny, it's [insert epithet here]. It's anything that works to deflect the issue. Of course many of the women are deathly afraid of their own nature and will rarely accept this premise, while we could consistently all but prove it, if not prove it by looking at the typical sexual lives of promiscuous women on college campuses. I would think this basic premise has been outlined repeatedly and in various ways on this site alone, but my point isn't just to repeat it. I'm proposing we do something about it.
No matter how often this premise gets repeated, backed up by all sorts of anecdotal, social study and scientific evidence, it's not something that is common knowledge. It's hidden away in the drawers of knowledge like some old porn magazines, rarely to be ever mentioned, much less discussed. As I stated above, there is even significant resistance to this idea, or to how widespread it is. I don't know if it's because women innately (subconsciously) want to keep the myth alive to protect their social value, or it's that males have too fragile of an ego to take an honest, self-aware look at themselves. Maybe a combination of both, but the results is the same, in either case. Among the results is a lot of guys' best years wasted while believing the tacitly approved myth that if the average guy is meritorious enough, he will mirror the sexual idols he was programmed to look up to. Because failure to achieve this endeavor repeatedly leads them to the idea that more concern and effort is warranted.
In my case, I would have preferred to accept the futility of chasing or crushing after girls since high school and instead get more passionate about my academic career. I would have wished to have started college credits in high school and gotten a master's degree in my early 20s. And through college I would have known that the few girls that came to me are the only ones I ever had to spend time considering. With the proper knowledge, I would have had at least a chance to overcome the propensity to be preoccupied with being judged positively by an entire gender.
What happened instead? I was indeed preoccupied by being accepted by girls. Girls that would never give me the time of day, all the way from high school and into college. In college I had the pleasure of interacting with "intelligent" girls that spoke highly of good human qualities and how attractive they were in a partner, then witnessing "alpha males" having fulfilling casual encounters with these same girls, mostly just for being born a certain way, or for being raised in the right environment and with the right nutrition, etc. Then these same girls demanded the right to happiness in a fulfilling, monogamous relationship with more of a provider type of guy. I only ever had one or two casual encounters, while everything else was about committed relationships. Some with manipulative sexual gamers that I know for a fact were only sexually attracted to "alpha males" (because they had NSA sex with them). Witnessing and then having a stake in this lack of self-awareness was confusing, on top of a waste of energy due to trying to conform to it.
I know the title of this Take is unlikely to ever happen, due to the social mores that we are restricted by, but I still think we should take every opportunity to advise youth about these issues, because nobody else will. The advice should be based on demonstrable principles, not just ideals, as we usually see spouted. Look at the drug war, for example. Support for banning cannabis (and even other substances) is falling apart due to authorities deliberately spreading lies for decades about the hazards and the efficacy of the drug war, and the truth having slowly seeped through on the internet. Respect for the law is lower than it would be if the government had been honest. Likewise, it's a demonstrable fact that very few men are considered fuckable by women, based only (or mostly) on looks, and odds are you're not one of them. That's just the reality of human nature. Understand it and adapt to it and you will be a lot happier than by ignoring it or engaging in wishful thinking. Deny it and potentially build frustration and contempt.
If we are not afraid to tell teens in school that some governments in the past committed genocide for ideological reasons, that people enslaved other people for hundreds of years, that some fought wars to defend their ownership of slaves or that racism was once sponsored by the state, why do we shy away from themes related to the dynamics of human sexual urges and attraction? Why don't we categorically tell teen boys that their sexual urges can control them more than they control their sexual urges? Why don't we train boys to recognize male sexual attractiveness as much as we train girls to recognize female sexual attractiveness? Just because these relatively harmless themes make us uncomfortable? FFS I didn't even know how important height was for male sexual attractiveness until I was in college. How ridiculous is that? Any idiot of either gender since middle school knows that an hourglass figure is considered attractive by males. Young women should also be taught a few things, although in my opinion it's already inherent in western society for women to be socially "wiser". Perhaps at the very least women should be presented with knowledge about things such as the root nature of female promiscuity, the reasons for its judgment by society, both modern and ancient. They could then make life choices with more understanding and self-awareness, and if they choose to be promiscuous, without guilt and without being scared to death of being "outed". And we need to spread the idea to guys that there is no reason to denigrate promiscuous girls because they don't find you attractive enough for casual sex. Nobody is forcing you to woo them, so stop the jealousy and hate.
We should teach and discuss all these issues openly, and by default. Who would deny that human sexuality is a huge part of our existence? I think we would be healthier as a society if we openly recognized our basest nature as part of the basis for knowledge, instead trying to avoid and deflect it, or relegating it to some fringe subject of discussion just because it makes us uncomfortable. We have birth control and paternity testing. The days of cuckolded offspring are (should be) over. Are there any rational reasons as to why we should clutch onto rigid social norms that want to keep discussions about sexual behavior a taboo? Why must sluts be shamed? And why should average young guys lack the self-awareness to accept (or be kept in the dark about) their relative unattractiveness? We should grow up. We don't have to embrace our nature, but we should at least be knowledgeable about it.
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