Sexual common sense that apparently isn't so common...

I have seen way to many questions by sexually active people (young and older) that seem to show that there is a large majority of people who are completely ignorant to many sexual topics.

Topic 1: Squirting/Female Ejaculation

YES it IS real. NO it's not PEE!
YES ALL women CAN. NO not all women do/know how.

Female ejaculation occurs when the skene's gland fills with fluid and is excreted during intense orgasm usually via g-spot stimulation but can also occur with clitoral, since the clitoris travels down in a candy cane shape across the pelvic bone over the same area as the g-spot, therefore causing the same reaction in the skene's gland.

Some women can do it without much effort, all others need practice and time. But the physical equipment needed to proform the act is indeed part of ever female body.

Topic 2: Pain when losing virginity

NO it doesn't have to hurt, yes when done wrong it does happen.

The commonly accepted idea that it will hurt the first time for girls still seems to be previlent in our society. This becomes a self fullfilling prophecy because we are told it just will and to simply accept that it will, therefore we are timid, afraid and nervous the first time which prevents the body from relaxing and adjusting properly to allow penetration. This guarentees there will be pain.

A sexually mature vagina will expand upto 200% to allow for any human male penis to penetrate comfortably, when the female is properly aroused and relaxed.

The common lack of knowledge about proper female arousal in early sexual encounters aids in the creation of pain, many males are over eager and do not take the proper time to get his partner comfortable and properly aroused but instead simply try to force the penis into an unprepared vagina under the false idea that it is just "tight" because she is a virgin.

The other common idea that "the hymen" is intact before sex and is part of why it's painful and tight, is also false in most cases. Back when females were not as active physically as they are today, yes the hymen was usually intact and got ruptured during first sexual activity. But in todays world, young girls are extremely active. They play many sports and do as much rough housing as boys do. This change in how young girls act today guarentees that a hymen will not be intact by the time a girl reaches puberty. Yes it can happen but it is rare.

So when a virgin female asks if it will hurt the first time... The answer shouldn't be "yes, expect the worst". It should be "It can, but it doesn't have to."

Change the expectations. Give females the knowledge to expect more time and care is used. Give them the strength to know better than to simply lay back and clentch waiting for it to be overwith. This is a two person act and should be equally pleasurable to both parties or should NOT happen at all.

Topic 3: All the can you get pregnant questions... If you have to ask "if you can" then it is almost guarenteed you can.

If he pulls out... YES, there can be sperm in penile lubrication (precum).
If you dry hump through clothes... YES, if precum or cum soaks through the material and gets near the vagina opening, you can indeed get pregnant.
If you touch precum or cum with anything and then touch your vagina with that same thing... YES, If the vagina comes in contact with precum or cum even briefly or by any means, you are risking the chance of pregnancy.
Can you get pregnant your first time... YES! This is simply ridiculous.
If he just puts it in once or only rubs it against me... YES, once again, a single sperm is all it takes, and if he is aroused enough to be hard... then there is going to be precum in the pipes. Touching you even for a second can transfer sperm to your vagina.

Now obviously it isn't like acid where you are guarenteed to be burned even with a second of contact... but you need to be aware that it can and does happen.

Topic 4: Blue Balls and questions like "I teased by boyfriend and he said I gave him blue balls."

Blue balls doesn't happen instantainously, so no you actually didn't.

Blue balls is a slang term for the condition of temporary fluid congestion (vasocongestion) in the testicles accompanied by testicular pain, caused by prolonged sexual arousal in the human male without ejaculation.

It requires a male to be brought close to climax and then left without climax multiple times over a longer period of time.

Since it is unlikely a young male will go any length of time without masturbating, it is almost never seen in young males.

When a male states "you are givng him blue balls", it is simply not true.

It is more likely that he is just sexually frustrated and wants you to feel guilty in hopes you may do something because you feel bad.

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