1) "Dressing sexy" should only be a benefit, it shouldn't be required. Consider it a gift that your girlfriend even puts on revealing clothing to please you
2) The way to approach the situation is to make her feel comfortable and like she is beautiful. The more you make your girlfriend feel "at home", the more likely she is to do things for you.
3) Be yourself- don't worry about work or school etc while you are being intimate with your partner. Let your mind be free and your emotions be wild.
As we grow with more wisdom - we constantly are losing some of that passionate romance. Restructure this by showing your girlfriend intimacy and sincere actions - and she will reward you... In many ways.
Again, don't believe in it as an "Expectation" but instead, consider it a gift. She isn't required to wear these clothes; however, I'm glad she enjoyed doing that for you ^_^
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ArtistBBoy
It is a benefit. One I greatly appreciate. I don't 'expect it' per 'se... but it's something which was constant and stopped abruptly. I just don't know if it's something I'm not doing which she needs, or something going on with her... or something maybe I could help her feel happy to do again.
With worrying and overanalyzing a situation to which you don't have any information, you will only stress yourself out and come up with a majority of false accusations (like what you are doing now, believing it is you that has made this outcome). In all actuality, it would be more reasonable to assume one of the following: 1) All long term relationships slowly fade intimacy and passion (scientific evidence) 2) If she was recently pregnant, she is unhappy with scaring 3) She is stressed out
There is a simple solution to this problem. You have to buy the lingerie. If you want her to dress sexy for you don't ask her just when your on the mall walking past Victoria's Secret lead her in and start picking things out with her like it is something the two of you do every day. Pick out things that you think she would look sexy in (not that you think a Victorias Secret model would) and say I bet you would look amazing wearing this. Be involved and when you both choose a set you pay for it. I guarantee if you don't push you will see that lingerie on your girl very soon.
Something a girl once told me when I asked her if she would where lingerie some time was this. "I want to wear lingerie to please you because I want to, not because you asked. When you ask me it takes the surprise out of it and I don't want to anymore."
That's an interesting idea. I think I'll try that this weekend. We have some Christmas shopping to do, so a trip to the mall is already planned. :-)
AGREED! +1,000,000 (if I could) Keypoints: - Don't be pushy and say "i really want to see you in this, wear it!" - Don't be self-consious "Pretty please baby, I like it when you wear this for me" - Act casual; if you normally are self-consious and all of a sudden your being pushy, she'll know - Don't conversate about it, just let it happen naturally like it's already going to happen AND ** Mention sincere compliments while picking things out!! ** <-- Largest one.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Don't be such a jackass. Instead of worrying about her effort worry about yours. Maybe she is depressed why she has not been dressing up and you could help that.
Suggestions? I don't mean to sound like a jackass. It's just something she used to do which stopped suddenly and which I miss. I don't mention it every day. I've mentioned it maybe twice in the past couple months. I put in a lot of effort. I clean the apartment. I send her flowers on occasion. I walk the dog (which is hers), I cook and do the dishes. I buy the groceries most of the time, and support her in every way I can think of. I do everything she's ever asked for in bed. Off guard.
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