She's a virgin and I'm not?

[Anonymous]

This isn't a problem at all. Its just the fact that I haven't had sex in months and basically I'm sexually frustrated right now. Porn doesn't seem to be enough anymore. My girlfriend and I make a month tomorrow. We have an excellent connection and I can definitely see this as being long term. We've come close to having sex about 3 times already. She said she wants to wait though and I said that's fine. I think me being patient is making her want me more. Only problem is I don't know if I can take this sexual tension anymore. I've never cheated and definitely don't want to start giving into that temptation now. Also I've given her oral. I want her to return the favor at least if we aren't going to have sex. How can I get her to return the favor if she says she has never given oral to a guy before? What do you guys recommend about the whole situation?

[haleyb]

Ok, well I think you just have to wait out the sex part. It seems like you get that and are ok with it, so good for you. And she's probably most worried about not giving a good bj if she's never done it, so just slowly guide her there, moan when somethings good, most likely she won't do anything BAD like use her teeth or whatever. Just make it clear you like what she's doing, because honestly that's probably a really important thing for her.

[Anonymous]

Well when your giving her oral, or fingering her... Say well what about me, or something to that extent... When my guy fingered me the first time, he said about that, and I ended up touching his d***, he wanted a hand job, but In had never done that before, so I gave him what I could... Just touching it was a big deal for me... I def. think it should go both ways if your pleasing her she should please you...

[Asker]

You're right. I spoke to her about this and she said that she's a bit nervous about it but tomorrow she said that it will be my turn. So lets see how that turns out.

[Opinion Owner]

Good Luck! And Yeah I totally understand where she is.... If she freaks out and did what I did and was like I cant, take it for what it is... She'll be ready in time.... Don't make her feel bad if she doesn't do everything your expecting er to do......

[Asker]

I definitely won't, I'm far from a jerk lol I'm just really sexually tense haha

[Opinion Owner]

Hahaha lol Well I hope you two have fun! : )

[Anonymous]

Dump her it doesn't make you a jerk,it makes you human because you have sexual needs and she doesn't understand that.you may "like" her but "liking" isn't gonna pleasure you or make you less sexually frustrated.

[Anonymous]

Dump her,why stay with a selfish conceited b-tch like her?

[Asker]

I never said she was conceited. I like this girl a whole lot and I'm not going to dump her for something so small. It's only the beginning of the relationship. I just want to know how to deal with this sexual tension until she is ready.

[Opinion Owner]

Break up with her? Then you can go out and have sex. If she wasn't conceited and full of herself she would be having sex with you by now. There's no point in staying with her,without sex you're just friends

[Asker]

We aren't just friends there is more to the relationship than just sex. If I just wanted sex I would break up with her and f*** some other easy girls. That's not who I am though. I respect this girl and think she could be the one. It's been a long time since I've met someone like her so I'm not willing to throw it all away so easily.

[Opinion Owner]

Sure whatever,enjoy not having sex,isn't my problem

[Asker]

So what you are telling me is that you can't wait more than a month for a guy to have sex with you?

[Opinion Owner]

I'm just being realistic.mosy guys don't wanna wait longer than a week,if I'm not ready to hve sex with a particular guy or any guy at the moment, I won't bother getting into a so called "relationship"

[Asker]

But I'm not most guys like I said I want a long term relationship not an immature lustful night. She wants to have sex with me. Its just that she's afraid because she's a virgin which I think is pretty normal.

[Opinion Owner]

Whatever dude,again,not my problem,gave you my solution,I could care less if you take it or not.