She says she wants to be a "slut"?

My girlfriend and I are at the stage of our relationship where we have become very open about our sexual desires. She recently told me that her fantasy has always been to be a "slut". In other words, she has always wanted to just have raw sex and to be treated like a sex toy. This includes spanking and being dominated. One thing I'm not sure about though is if she means she also wants to have sex with other guys. To me that would be the standard if she wants to live her slut fantasy. So I'm not sure what to think. Have any women had this fantasy and if so what did it mean for you?
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I should add that she has a collection of short erotic stories that involve scenarios of group sex and couples finding strangers to have threesomes with. I think that is what has me confused most.
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Confused in that I know that what people read or look at to get off does not mean they really want to do that in real life. I don't have a problem per se if she does because we are both adults and in many ways are both open sexually.
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  • I would be a little taken back by her request but sure go ahead and take her to a sex party. You can find them all over the internet. Some are very strict about rules and stuff.At least at a party you might get some action and MOST everyone understands role play and RESPECT. You have to think of how it may affect your life. Can you handle sharing or watching her shared? If you get into a fight and she leaves will you be thinking about her doing it with some guy she meets at the gas station for the F of it? Maybe you could rough her up and learn about S&M, buy a strap on and dp her. You know maybe start with stuff at home and hopefully that will be enough of a fantasy. Or maybe let her webcam and get naked let a guy talk crap to her and then you can finish the job.

  • The fact that you mention that she wants to act like a "slut" while also noting that she's very shy tells me that, like many women, what she really wants is to be "dominated" or "forced" in such a way that she can actually do things that might otherwise make her embarrassed (i.e., being tied up, bdsm, etc.). In other words, being dominated relieves her of the responsibility, as it were, for her dirty/naughty thoughts. It's one of the reasons that one of the most common fantasies among women is to be ravaged or forced - by someone that they like or love.

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  • Yes generally the word slut is associated with girls like myself who choose to have sex with different people frequently. It is a word so easly used today that basically it has no real meaning. Any girl who has multable partners is a slut, where our guys are considered studs or bad boys and are admired by there peers.

    • Question, have you fulfilled your "Slut" fantasies, yet? If you have, please tell me what all you did?

  • I don't think wanting to be dominated always denotes wanting to bring others into the bedroom. However, you will never know until you ask. But I am pretty sure she would wonder where that came from.

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  • I'm guessing she wouldn't want to actually fulfill that fantasy. It sounds like she was just opening up to you about her kinkiest sexual fantasy. However, if you want, you can kinda fulfill that fantasy for her by doing some role-playing. You can do it by starting with blindfolding her and then telling her you're going to fulfill that fantasy (tonight). Tell her she HAS to comply with anything and everything. Then, take her into the bedroom, slowly take her clothes off. Then, tie her down, spread eagle and then use multiple toys on her all at once. As you do, make her suck your cock. Make her feel like she's being ravished by multiple men. Also, do things like, like her pussy while you're using a dildo on her. Or lick her ass as you use a dildo on her. As you two have sex, describe to her what all the (imaginary) men in the room are doing right now. Tell her how hot it is to see other men use her for their sexual gratification.

  • She clearly has a fantasy about the things you describe, but most if thee time, fanthasies are not reatlized. Many people have fantasies that are outside what most people think as proper, but they help fuel the imagination and make sex fun and hot.

    If she is part of the population that is intent on fulfilling her fantasy, there's not much you can do about it anyway.

  • For what it's worth I doubt anyone else will know what your girlfriend means except your g/f. If she wants to be a slut, I think that means sleeping with other dudes. I'd ask her to clarify what she means by being a slut.

    • See, that's what I think as well. I don't really have a problem with it. I just don't want to go in that direction if she does not mean that. lol One problem I'm facing is that she is very shy. When she told me that she wants to be a "slut" she actually blushed. So I don't know if she means slut in general or my slut, and even if she meant my slut I'm not sure what that entails. lol I do know that she has a lot of erotic stories that involve women being offered to other men and group sex.

    • Like the Anne Rice Sleeping Beauty novels? If she doesn't have them already, it might be a good gift in the future.

    • Well, various romance novels, but I mean she has collection of stories she printed off from Literotica that almost all involve group sex or a couple finding other me or women for the bedroom. She blushed when she first showed me her collection.

  • Among (MANY) other things, one thing I hate about the word "slut" is that it's an imprecise use of language.

    I'm not sure what the word could possibly mean--it's why I don't use it--but a word that could mean that you're into spanking, domination, rough sex, and/or multiple partners, is a word that means nothing at all. You'll need to ask her to be more specific.

    • See... that is what has me confused. There are just too many things you can stack in the 'slut' group. LOL

  • Maybe you should ask her what exactly she would like to do with you and if any other people should be involved in it?