She won't stop bothering me and she is so crazy?

[Anonymous]

this is probably the dumbest thing most of you will read today but idc. so during gym about a week ago me and this girl who is so freaking hot were talking about pretty much anything and everything. somewhere along the line we got onto the topic of sex (like most high school convos). long story short we end up hanging out later after school at her house. we had sex and since then she has been going off the deep end. she got p*ssed when I didn't respond immediately to a text, she gets p*ssed at school when I don't like wave back or don't say hi (and I mean legitimately mad). she told pretty much everyone at school that we had sex which I kinda think is way wrong. and she is threatening to tell my parents that we had sex if I don't date her. WTF! she is insane and won't leave me alone. to be honest, at the time it was just sex to me, but if she wasn't so crazy who knows, maybe I would have dated her. I just wanna know how I can get her to leave me alone

[omgwhatdoIdo]

Well the reason she went crazy when you didn't text her back right away was because you two had sex and she was expecting you to like her more since you had done it. I'm guessing she was sort of afraid of losing you after doing that. She could've gotten more attached to you and she ruined things with you when she started to expect you should text her back faster or wave at her, she's scared she will lose you. She doesn't even realize that she's screwing things up and it sucks.

Think about it. right now she's thinking "We had sex, I really like him I think he likes me but now he doesn't wave at me, doesn't say hi, doesn't even text me back as fast as he once did! He must not be that into me...I don't think he likes me anymore...and I gave it to him!" That's what she's thinking.

This is sorta what you get. A crazy insane girl that wants to date you and is chasing you all because you wanted sex. See, to girls it's not like you just have sex, they want a relationship too because they think since you like them back you should want to be in a relationship with them. But it was just sex to you which sort of makes it blah. You're under 18, you shouldn't be having sex with girls that mean nothing to you and you only see them for their body or how hot they are. Girls are very emotional, they really want someone to love and it was her fault for letting you have it.

I'd say for now all you can do is promise yourself to not do this again. Don't have sex with someone because their hot and you're attracted to their body. You should actually like the person and get to know them and be dating BEFORE anything intimate happens. This is a great lesson for you and it will hopefully make you a better person :) I think the problem is that it wasn't just sex for her, she really liked you. I know she's bugging you, but it's because she likes you and she is going about it all wrong. Just tell her you need some space. Don't be mean and say she's crazy or insane just say you need some space and time to think about things. If you like her, you should tell her that you do, but you need time to think things through.

Her greatest fear came true that you would leave her and I know below that you said you wanted to see if there was something there and she totally drove you away. I'm guessing she drove you away by being clingy. I'm the type of person that thinks things can always be worked out.

1. So tell her you need some time to think. If you like her, tell her and make sure you mean it.

2. take a week off to think things through.

3. If she successfully leaves you completely alone, the next time you see her just smile at her.

4. Maybe you could send her a text telling her you want to get to know her.

She is a clingy person, you might want to tell her that she tends to seem clingy and it's sort of a turn off. Tell her you really wanted to see if something was there but things just got really complicated and you need time to think.

[Asker]

I tried apologizing to her, but she wouldn't even talk to me. and I didn't plan on just having sex and taking off. she was pretty cool at first and I did like her, but she went off the deep end. I did text her and told her we should just hang out and talk bout this whole but she never even responded

[omgwhatdoIdo]

Hmm. You should send her the message loud and clear that you'd actually like to get to know her. DONT text her, it shows you put forth little effort and it's harder to get your message across. If you see her at school you need to sum up the courage, give her the meaningful apology, tell her the truth and if she can't accept that then leave her alone. She's just a weird girl if she can't see that you're trying to be true to her. Once again, you need to do this face to face, not text.

[Anonymous]

It's a good lesson to learn early on - girls will use sex to try to get guys to like them, because they're stupid enough to think that guys actually attach meaning to every sexual encounter they have. It was her decision, doesn't sound like you pressured her into it, anyone who has sex before even having a fricking date with someone is an idiot to expect them to actually be a couple after that. She's immature, she's a girl, it sucks that she's painting you as the bad guy when it's not like you did anything. Just tell her you don't care if she tells your parents - if she tells them, what's the worst that could happen?

She's trying to blackmail you - just tell her you don't give a sh*t, that she can go ahead and tell them, that it won't do her any good, it won't get you to date her.

[YobootyStank]

you should just tell her straight up that you think she is crazy and that maybe youd like to stay friends with her. but you had sex with her and she may feel like you were using her since you guys aren't dating and she obviously wants to

[Asker]

I did tell her she is crazy, and it wasn't like I just f***ed her and then just took off. I wanted to see if there was something there, but she totally drove me away

[YobootyStank]

Awww lmaooo XP just keep your distance if you see her at the halls, walk the other direction I don't know I wouldve done something like that unless you wanna be really mean and have her hate you and just scream at her telling her she is a psycho

[morganforever]

Just say OK your cazy and we had sex so whaat I don't like so leave me alone just tell her like it is

[cutekid]

She z obsessed with u,though guyr just have fun with girls as in FWB,u both had each other,it really meant something 2 her,..u cn just tell her or confront her about it though its really gonna hurt her..

[Anonymous]

thats blackmail...kinda illegal. you could just go along with it and be overly obnoxious and a jerk to her.