Should I Confess My True Feelings to My "FWB"?

I have a guy who I have been out with a few times...the one in my previous question. I have known him for a long time but we were both in other relationships until recently. I was very attracted to him (especially physically) and we ended up seeing each other the last couple of months. We have had sex twice. It was incredible sex and since we both just got out of long-term relationships, I figured we could just start sort of a FWB type thing. Well, I have started to develop stronger feelings towards him. I am not sure if he feels the same way. We don't talk much in between "get-togethers". It's almost like he's keeping his distance cause he doesn't want to get too serious. I am not sure, though, as we have never discussed any "feelings". My question is should I break down and confess to him that I am developing emotional feelings for him? I like the "relationship" we have now but don't want to do it long term if he doesn't expect anything more to come of it. Would telling him I have more than sexual feelings toward him scare him away?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Maybe not - he could be different.

    Most guys have a hard time getting their communication & feelings out there on the table so they can be smashed. I don't think he'll put it out bruised ones for awhile BUT can certainly handle walking the walk, so long as no one calls it the same walk.

    Honesty is the best policy with those you love BUT why can't you send your love message with looks of appreciation when he does something that touches your heart, approval when he is thoughtful, etc. Then there's flirting and sexual innuendos - special dinners, thoughtful, tiny gifts. Can't make a last minute date/offer? Be extremely verbose and willing to make it happen somehow next time ... with just a little more notice, how you hate it you are trapped and not free to play. These are your can openers to eventually get him to put his bruised/abused emotions out on the table again ... so you can massage them and give him a big YES.

  • Don't ``break down'' to tell him. Drama often backfires.

    You're taking a risk; he may or may not be emotionally invested. The results of your confession depend on this.

    This is not a ``yes-no'' question, so there is no absolute answer.

Most Helpful Girl

  • For two reasons I don't think you should. 1. You both just got out of longterm relationships, so one of you is bound to be the rebound for the other. 2. Its a friends with benefits situation, which means you agreed to no strings attached, which is what he probably still wants.

    Though, if he is showing signs of liking you then it might be worth telling him, but you might also risk him ending the whole arrangement. Also you have to consider the fact that he might just be a rebound because if he infact does feel the same way, you might discover your feeling aren't exactly real.

    But if you're sure and willing to take a chance then why not. Go for it.

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