Should I go all the way with my boyfriend or wait until I'm older?

I've been considering going all the way with my boyfriend but do you think I should wait until I'm older?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Take it from someone who "wanted to get it overwith" and thought it would make the guy like me more. . .DONT DO IT.

    I can't even tell you how many girls (including me) do it for those two reasons. I ended up getting pregnant at 17, with a guy who left us for two years. He never cared about me & before that, I had a broken heart from a few others.

    After I had my son, I vowed not to have sex. Sex has always made me feel used, degraded, insecure (about the relationship), guilty and has NEVER been worth it (except that I'm glad my son was conceived). I'm currently celibate-at 20. I would honestly wait until you're older because you'll be wiser and sex often creates awkwardness & complications in a relationship (at least it has for me, but that was back in high school, too).

    From experience, it isn't worth it. Wait for someone you love. . .and have some security in the relationship with. . .like a diamond. lol. That's my requirement for "dropped panties". Ask my boyfriend! But you'll also find that guys will respect you wayyyy more as well.

    Good luck & hope this helped you, doll!

  • Losing your virginity/Having sex with your boyfriend is entirely your personal decision. Don't be influenced by those ridiculous abstinence groups because really it is up to you whether or not to have sex with your boyfriend. Just please make sure that you and your boyfriend are absolutely ready before you do anything and that you are well aware of your options considering contraception that can prevent pregnancy and STDs. Be safe, not sorry.

  • The thing about losing your V is that it can leave you feeling vunerable so just be sure that you trust this guy completely and that you feel really ready. If your having doubts then its unlikely that your ready and don't do it because others have or because you think that's what he wants. At the end of the day only you will know when your ready and it doesn't always come with age.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Alright, dammit! Un-checking the Anonymous box.

    "Love" and s3x are not an Emo garden of heavenly peace, happiness, pleasure and excitement for mid teeners. It is a minefield of dangers and despair. The girls, thinking they will gain love, commitment and feel oh so grown up are unprepared to face the consequences (see my post below re mid-teen crushes) and the boys are incapable of that love and commitment. S3xuality is not a casual thing to be passed around like a Plen-T-Pack of gum. It is one of the essences of adult life. Each time a girl (not a boy) gives herself away, she loses something she can't get back and sooner or later, it will all be gone and she may become an unhappy s3xual prowler as an adult. OK. I have said my piece.

    • WELL SAID!!! *Cheers and throws a cookie to Jack* Best answer!

  • If you are mid-teens, absolutely yes, wait. Mid teen crushes rarely make it to graduation and you expose yourself to STDs, pregnancy/abortion, a broken heart (when he dumps you), a reputation if (it gets around) and a loss of self respect and dignity for all those reasons that will have you sleeping around to try to recover it through winning the love of a boy with s3x. You won't. Teen boys have no love to give. They are childr@n with stiff d*cks.

    You can have intimacy without going all the way if you must, but wait on "all the way".

    Sound like your dad? I'm almost his age. I have been like your boyfriend and I know what I was thinking at the time.

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  • If it is what you want to do let him stick you!

  • ...I think you should wait..If you were sure about this step you wouldn't even ask.So no, I don't think you're ready...

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  • i say have sex with him when you feel the time is right and you feel you are ready to take that step no one should pressure you into something you don't want to do..but if your ready go for it but be safe

  • Wait until you're older.

  • (Age:Under 18)

    There's really no hurry :) when in doubt you can wait.

    If you have to ask it on an internet forum to people who don't know you you're probably too young.

  • It's not up to us. It's up to you. If you can't decide you're not read.

    • Ready*

  • how old are you

    • I'm 16

    • Dear goddess honey, WAIT... please WAIT... at LEAST until you're like.. 18 or something,... 20 just to be sure.. or marriage...

  • I personally think that you should wait until you are old enough to handle the consequences that go along with being sexually active. Your only in high school and I highly doubt you'll still be with the same guy, so if you want your first time to really mean something with someone you love you should wait .

  • Do, what makes you happy and not what he wants and if you are in love with him then I say go for it!

  • wait until you'r older!

  • if you´re uncertain just wait if you´re ready you´ll know it because nothing will hold you then

  • Do what feels right for you, not what anyone else thinks...

  • NO. YOU ARE NOT READY!

    Wait until you are older, more mature, more secure and more responsible

    A 16 year old is not ready no matter what their circumstance

    Never have sex without knowing you could alone, support a baby...IT HAPPENS EVERYDAY!

    Could you speak to your parents about having sex? no? Could you imagine telling them your pregnant?

    Trust me. you are too young. Live you life! HOLD ON TO YOUR CHILDHOOD! your too young

    • Excellent advice from the female perspective.

    • Ok, another best answer!!!

  • Only you can really know if you're ready. Since you're under 18, I'd recommend against it due to the risk of pregnancy. If you do decide to, make sure you use a condom.