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Should I circumcise my son or not?
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He'll be born soon... My husband wants him circumcised just like himself. I think it's awfully wrong to want to cut a baby, because you are cut. I figured, it would be best to let him decide later on in life if he wants to go through the procedure.
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31 63I didn't circumcise my son. He is grown and has no problems. People say it is hard to keep clean which is BS. I think it is unnecessary surgery.
I wish my mom said no to it.
@Thisperson98 sorry...
People who say it's hard to keep clean - I imagine they do not have enough money for showers or baths lol
@zoooot probably so
@zoooot Fun fact, it's mostly circumcised people who claim that who have no idea wtf they're talking about.
@Mesonfielde Difficulty facing facts is all it is. Admitting you have been mutilated, and for no good reason what so ever, is a bitter pill to swallow. It's something that is stereotypical to americans, I find. The same logic explains why they have so much religion still. And guns.
@zoooot can you guys please take this somewhere else. You're blowing up my phone , along with the other girl
@Mesonfielde ^
@Lovrlylinda39 the other girl didn't ask your opinion
Maybe "the other girl" likes being blown up!
@zoooot I'm not getting "blown up"
It is not about you as was just very harshly made clear lol Wow this girl has issues :x
@Lovrlylinda39 I just reported you.
@zoooot hell yeah I have issues after this convo has been going on for over an hour to the point my phone is freezing everytime I get on gag. It won't even let me comment where we were talking before, so I just tagged you here. You guys have been on this discussion for nearly 2 hours now. DONT YOU HAVE A LIFE? For gods sake , nobody @ me again. Get a fucking job , a hobby , or something
Oh okay , I'll just make a new account if I get removed. Have a nice day haha
@zoooot in case you didn't notice this was my opinion.
@Lovrlylinda39 Haha go outside and get some air. You said you were leaving an hour ago. Put your money where your mouth is, for your own sake! :P
@Lovrlylinda39 I don't give a crap what you do.
I had noticed it was your opinion, in fact. The blowing up thing was just me making fun of @Lovrlylinda39 angry grammar mistakes. I'm not the hostile one here!
this part: "You're blowing up my phone , along with the other girl" Clearly she is implying that "the other girl" (whoever she may be!) is being blown up! :D
@zoooot it is just we were discussing something serious here and that psycho girl won't go away.
Indeed. I find it amusing!
@zoooot then she should have stated who she was talking about. Instead of "the other girl"
I am not disagreeing with you! :)
its the same as fgm which we all rush to condemn
There is no benefit to being permanently mutilated.
I think it's ridiculous to repeat a practice "just because it was done to me so it makes sense to reenact this suffering on others as well", like hell no it's not that's sociopath logic
It happened to me and I ain't suffering.
@Jackblue well there are no benefits, you can have it done later but you can't reverse it, and you lose thousands of nerve endings which increase pleasure
@Panay Yes you can reverse circumcision, they have been doing it for thousands of years (although it was very painful back then). Do you want me to send you a link or two.
@Jackblue It takes 2 years of using a foreskin restoration device every single day.
Not if you do surgery.
@Jackblue and use what, pig skin? There's no way that'd function like the original thing.
I agree that it doesn't serve a huge benefit, but it also isn't "mutilation". I mean lets calm down now with the mutilation.
@Melcart23 you're permanently disfiguring someone's sexual organ. I'm pretty sure that qualifies.
Lol how is it disfigured? It's not like you're chopping it off
@Melcart23 you're chopping off the covering skin?
I know, and that prevents a male baby from living a life and having a normal sex life, right?
@Melcart23 sometimes yes.
Lol come on man
@Melcart23 it's true, look it up.
m.reddit.com/.../ckdok4o
It's not mutilation man. Now, if you asked a doctor to circumcise your son and they botched it, you may consider THAT mutilation. But a successful circumcision isn't mutilation.
@Melcart23 Technically it is, it's just socially acceptable among some people.
Alrighty. If that makes you feel better, then fine.
I see the asker selected only opinions a D only replied to opinions that supported circumcision. At times like these, I somewhat hope I'll be right and their children will resent them for what they have done to them. That is the best punishment for such major oversight.
You're ranting for no reason man. You're completely unjustified here. It's not a big deal. I hope you get over yourself soon.
@Melcart23 it's really funny. I stopped listening to him, because he harassed this feed. I chose mho based on how the individual had to deal with mesonfielde 😂, because the guy has just been a total dick, and obsessed for no reason. This is a personal matter that will be left up to my husband and I. I'm silencing the feed so I no longer get alerts for this question. Take care 😀
@Melcart23 I resent my parents for having me baptised. Do I hate them? Of course not. But it is in the back of my mind. I would have prefered having had the choice. I would have refused. When I was born, I had a little problem with my penis where they recommended circumcision. It was not necessary but not recommended. My mother decided against it and I am thankful for it. My penis is fine today.
@JuicyBrain oh my god, you resent your parents for the smallest thing. So what, you got a free bath. I've had three and am still atheist. Lol no resentment here.
I know women who refuse to give a bj to an uncircumcised guy, and one who won't have sex with a guy who isn't.
So, if you don't do it, realize you are reducing his mating pool.
I've literally never heard of anything like this. Maybe it's different in America where a lot more people are circumcised... But bear in mind it's irreversible but can always be done later in life
@Panay Yes, all of these women are Americans.
You make a valid point. It's actually something I have thought about quite a bit. We are moving to france in three years, so I think he will be okay. Good thinking. No one else brought up this point
@WalterRadio: I am one of these women. I'm sure a lot of women think the same too.
@desidoll and where are you from?
Those women are stupid. They're already going to suck dick anyway, why act all high and mighty about a little foreskin? I've never looked at a penis and said "oh no foreskin". No that's ridiculous
@Asker: Malaysia.
@desidoll Is it common to see more cut men there? :0 religious or cultural?
@desidoll I LOVE Malaysian women. They seem to always have a great sense of humor.
@Idontknowhyy93 I think you read that backwards. They refuse if there is foreskin.
No I read it fine
@Asker: Religious and cultural for both Muslims and Non Muslims. I'm not a Muslims and I've two cousins who are circumcised for hygiene reason. I've never heard a girl saying she refuses to have sex with circumcised guys. I tend to hear the other way around more but that also depends where you live. You mentioned that you guys are going to live in France? Then it wouldn't be a problem to him unless in long term he's going out living somewhere where the ladies prefer circumcised guys :O
I'm amazed how some people feel about this. Like you're torturing the kid and disfiguring him? lol I'm circumcised and kind of glad I am. It much more sanitary and I wouldn't know, but guessing it feels better this way in many ways. The one guy said you loose sensitivity in the head of the penis, not in my case! Very sensitive. I don't know, it never bothered me any but a lot of guys it does I guess? What does your doctor think? That's who I'd be asking. Lots of people say let him decide later... well, that's great that he has the choice but I wouldn't choose to have it done (later in life, the surgery) but I'm glad it's done. Meaning, I like that the choice was made for me at birth and I don't have to go through the surgery (remember it). Don't know if this helps any lol, but my thoughts.
It helps to hear your thoughts on it, thank you.
I'm circumcised and I wish I weren't. I wish my penis were intact. If you agree to have part of your baby's penis amputated that will be an irreversible decision. They will strap him down to what is called a "circ board" like Jesus on the Cross. They generally don't use anesthetic. Although rare, there are risks of complications and excessive bleeding. His penis will be forever altered and. . . HE WILL HAVE HAD NO SAY IN WHAT WAS DONE TO HIM.
There are clinics that do that thing under sterile conditions and with an option of anesthetics, but some physicians do tend to not use anesthetics, which you need to let them know. Also, it is not an amputation, as imputation means removal of a meaningless part of the body. What is meaningless about foreskin? His penis will not be altered, just the look, and the sensation during sex. I won't say most medics, but a good deal of them are proponents suggesting it brings better hygiene, less prone to have penile problems and infections, and decreased risk of contracting STDs. I have not seen an uncircumcised penis, and I don't care, but the use of words in your comment and the info seem less true/correct to me to comment this.
@lyannamormont >> His penis will not be altered, just the look, and the sensation during sex. I must be stupid but I don't see how that's not alteration.
@lyannamormont last time I checked cutting something alters it.
@Mesonfielde Yes, I said the look. But does it change how the penis works? No. That's what I meant by alteration.
@Thisperson98 Well you cut your nails, and it changes the look. Does it change how your nails grow?
@lyannamormont The foreskin doesn't grow back so your point is completely invalid.
@Mesonfielde In your perspective, yes. I am giving you an analogy of things whose purpose is not changing with nails, and you're taking it from the side that makes you happier... I am fine with that. No penis, no discussion.
@lyannamormont You should have compared it to ripping out your hair follicles and preventing your hair from ever growing back and being bald forever. Does that change your hairstyle? YES IT DOES BECAUSE YOU DON'T HAVE HAIR ANYMORE It's quite obvious if you ask me.
@Mesonfielde Circumcision is not done to prevent you from ever having sex and reproducing, like in your example of hair. That's called something else, specifically "castration". The difference is obvious. IF YOU ASK ME.
@lyannamormont circumcision is used to prevent masturbating
@Thisperson98 Circumcision never prevented me from masturbating. But it does change the nature and range of sensations you experience from that and from sex. The foreskin is not "meaningless" tissue. It is highly innervated with nerve endings. It's part of the natural anatomy and is there for a reason.
It has not prevent me either, but it is one reason the did it. It makes it harder to masturbate.
@Thisperson98 Yes, that habit or prevention arose in good ol' "so-called developed" Europe, mainly England. There are religious reasons to circumcize like in Islam or Judaism, as in Islam it appears in a hadith, and does not give a reason of masturbation. Your point is not valid when it comes to religious or hygiene reasons.
@lyannamormont You asked if cutting off a part of the penis alters it. The answer is that it does.
I agree it is there for a reason. I am not a strong supporter or opponent of circumcision, as I basically said I have not seen an circumsized penis and did not have a boyfriend with circumsized penis. I just wanted to expand on your comment, specifically on the medical part, where actually anesthesy and clinics etc. provide safer experience. I dont get why these two guys got offended. There are reasons that parents do that, mainly religious reasons, but not just they want to prevent you from doing certain things...
@Mesonfielde Just shut up without trying to think what I am telling you and without seeing the difference between what I told vs. what you understood, and still giving me the same example. In the beginning, I did not even respond to you, my point of contact in this discussion is TadCurious, not you. So please stop responding.
I don't know... let him decide.. sounds painful for dat little baby tho :(
Circumcision is painless. I've done it and they numb it completely.
I got circumcised as an adult.
If you have any q about mine or what I did with kids feel free to message, i'd rather not go into it here because people seem to feel very strongly about it.
The thing is no man who is uncircumcised will later choose to get circumcised without a powerful reason. Like it bothering the love of his life or a freak accident that requires it like severe paraphimosis. So the parents making this decision will be the only time it's a point of conversation. Guys are emotionally attached to their dicks as well as physical lol. If this subject is of great importance to you, then it comes down to what you decide now.
If it's that hard of a decision for you, then you probably shouldn't do it because of how it affects you. Your son will not remember what happened and local aesthetic is used, so he won't be in pain. And any temporary soreness that may come from it won't be agonizing and will be forgotten. There is no psychological pain/damage from this procedure as many anti circumcision people would have you believe. That isn't too say you should do it. But to say you are not hurting your baby if you decide to go through with it. In the end it is up to you and I wish you the best either way.
I agree with you.
Circumcision is child sex abuse.
If you feel it is cruel then go with your gut feeling. I am sure whatever you choose he is not going to come back and say... hey mom how come you did not have me circumcised!
That used to be a common practice in some places even if you're not jewish.
But studies show that performing a circumcision has a number of drawbacks. I wouldn't do it.
www.dailymail.co.uk/.../...ow-son-circumcised.html
Thank you for the article. I think this will definitely sway both my mother and husband.
You're welcome. Glad to be helpful. :)
thats a tough one, im not sure. I would leave it up to the dad. this is one of the many reasons im happy i have girls.
Let him make the decision when he is older, that way he HAS a decision. If you cut him now there will be no going back on it, ever.
Male genital mutilation can lead to many problems later in life. Do your research and show your husband. If he want's it done later so be it. But to cut off a part of a child just for aesthetics...
I've never met a guy with a problem... Neither has he. I don't think it's that common.
Or maybe they just don't talk about it because it's not your business?
@Mesonfielde I literally haven't replied to anything you've said all post long, because you're really fucking annoying and spamming the shit out of this question. Just stop.
For your information
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3253617/
You should definitely circumcise him. It was the best decision my mother could've made. Those that claim that there are problems later on in life are completely wrong.
Tell that to this guy
www.reddit.com/.../ckdkq54
@Mesonfielde I have never heard anyone having issues with that, I come from a large family, I have over 20 cousins all circumcised. Women love it too, it's easier to keep clean. Also In the army we go for 7 - 10 days in ocasión without having a chance to shower, imagine someone with that extra skin and no shower for days...
Actually there's been those medical shows that say if the boy gets that. The head of the penis loses the sensitivity, hence forth they have to go way longer on sex to cum. As to not being g curcumcised, the male will have more sensitivity there
It disturbs me that you should feel the need to ask whether or not it is a good idea to subject your infant son to male genital mutilation.
It is an outrageous form of child abuse, to subject your child to genital mutilation. That is the sort of medical procedure that should be performed only after he has become an adult and can give informed consent.
Be disturbed all you want. Others make the choice without questioning it.
Would you do that same to a daughter? If the answer is no, that is the answer to your question.
If it was widely practiced with females where I live, and I were having a daughter. I would be asking a question about my daughter, not a son. Your point is invalid because I'm a new parent to a boy and this is a cultural norm.
The female double standard, which treats men as expendable utility units.
The harm caused by circumcision:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v_ht2CRTdbo
Sure man, whatever.
My son isn't circumcised.
(Neither am I or my brothers)
I don't think it's awfully wrong , I just think it's not needed if you learn him to wash his peepee properly. (and if his foreskin isn't too tight!). But a few generations ago moms weren't morally ready to teach their sons about handling their wiener. I suspect that was the reason it was done so often in the US (that and making masturbation less easy)
Um, I think it's best for the doctor to perform the procedure, not you.