Sleeping with 9 guys?

[Anonymous]

a girl I know recently told me that she lost her virginity when she was 17 but only started having sex when she was 18..now she is 21 so in like 2.5 year basically she has slept with 9 lads.. is this alot? mind you she is was single and was at university and most of them happened when she was drunk, me being a guy and also when to uni slept with a lot of women throughout that time..but is that double standards..i can't figure out if she's a slut or not i personally I think 9 is a lot for a girl in such a short amount of time? but what do you think girls?

[cun7n1nja]

I don't personally think so. But I'm also 21, have been with 9 guys since I was 17. It's a comfortable number for me. It has nothing to do with my ability to value intimacy and to commit, like someone else has suggested, lol. My mentality toward casual sex and my mentality toward relationships are two very separate things.

[Tentacle_Therapist]

As long as she used protection and didn't cheat on anyone, what does it matter?

[Asker]

just seems a lot of guys in a short amount of time that's all

[Tentacle_Therapist]

If it was 9 failed relationships in such a short time, that might be a concern, but otherwise - it's just casual sex. You don't need to be afraid of girls who actually enjoy doin' it.

[RyanRyanson]

lol@afraid People who don't want to be with sluts aren't 'afraid' of sluts, they just want to be with people who value real intimacy over emotionless sex.

[Tentacle_Therapist]

So just because people enjoy casual sex they can never be intimate with anyone? :S

[RyanRyanson]

If they had the ability to be intimate with one person, they wouldn't spend their time chasing after that perfect piece of ass.

[NonchalantBro]

^yup

[ladsin]

and if the other people left her? yall assume way too much, and you know what happens when you assume, it makes an ASS out of You and ME

[Tentacle_Therapist]

Oh maybe they haven't met the perfect partner yet, but still want sex. Stop making so many assumptions.

[RyanRyanson]

The more people you're with, the less likely you are to find the 'perfect partner', you start thinking you can order people with the options you want as if off a menu.

[Tentacle_Therapist]

How would you know that, unless you'd done it yourself?

[dx021]

women will never understand what it means to a guy for a woman to whore around when they're younger... hate to break it to you robogirl, but for a guy, a girl that has a lot of casual sex is a girl that intimacy becomes less meaningful with

[RyanRyanson]

It's logic RoboGirl, that's how I know that. Because I've seen a LOT RoboGirl, that's how I know that. Men don't want to be with a woman, to do the relationship thing with a woman, to put up with all the relationship drama with a woman... who was happy to f*** all his friends who made her pee pee wet without so much as a steak dinner.

[ladsin]

not tht big of a number... but then again I'm not so superficial as to judge someone who they had sex with in the past =P

[l-hedoniste]

It's her business and hers alone, whether it's 9, 90, one, or none.

[NoOneListens21]

It's her party she can f*** if she wants to.

[AverageJoe4U]

Damn Strait !

[NoOneListens21]

thank you. lol.

[Brando]

Her past is none of your business, but if she chooses to share then feel good about it :)

Also, do you feel it's alright for a man to sleep around but not a woman? If so, why is that? Can a woman not enjoy sex like you do?

[DonMichelle]

Normal. The reason you're worried is because you've shagged less than she has, admit it

[Asker]

well actually no I've slept with a lot more women than that but I'm 24 and I started when I was 15 so the time span is much greater , I don't think it would be so bad if it was from when she was 16-21

[peace-love-couture]

You aren't anyone to judge if you've been with more than 9 women. Get over yourself hypocrite

[Asker]

i don't know if you bothered to read the above comment properly, it says more yes, but over a much longer period of time, the number in itself is not what bothers me its the fact its been just over two years.. its like if a 40 year old women had slept with 14 people for example and she lost her v when she was 17, that's a difference of 23 years, but different if a women who was 21 years old had slept with those 14 people...see what I'm getting at?

[DonMichelle]

You sure you're 24? You sound like an idiot to me, an idiot who's threatened by a girl's sexuality... ohhhhhhhhhhh dear me

[Maddygirl]

Let me ask you this- what's your number? If it higher or equal to hers, you have absolutely zero rift to judge her

[RyanRyanson]

Girls are going to be fine with that number. I think it's slutty.

[RyanRyanson]

Sorry, girls and guys who's game consists of telling girls that whatever they do is awesome.

[DonMichelle]

Are the kids even your's?

[RyanRyanson]

What kids? Don't assume you have more experience than me, or that you can put me in that lame box you tried to put the question asker in. You come off as a save-a-hoe, bro. Save that garbage for your own personal game.

[Anonymous]

9 guys seems a little much regardless if it is over a 2.5 year period or not. Are you interested in her or is she just a friend?