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Slept with my friend's dad.

okay I'm 18 and I keep sleeping with my friends dad , I do really like him even no he is a lot older than me he's 43. he wants to be with me I want to be with him. but I'm scared what everyone thinks. My mum has spoke to him a few times but don't really no him I think she will b disgusted . I love the way he makes me feel I love the way he treats me. his son knows he's okay with it but I don't no what to do . I no it sounds wrong but I really do like him. What is right to do ?
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  • Have you heard the saying, "All's fair in love and war."? I think they should add "sexuality" in there.

    Really, there are no rules as long as both of you are over 18, and you are.

    However, not everyone sees the situation like this, and you may get serious reactions when this relationship is disclosed (revealed).

    Do you know about how Jews were not accepted in Europe (during medieval times) and they were treated like pieces of crap in Venice? They weren't doing anything wrong, but still, it was against the popular religion.

    Now, your situation is against the current morals, but I don't think that what you are doing is wrong. You are two human beings.

    ------Now, to the dark side of the pendulum.------

    Due to the age difference, it is safe to say that you two are living in different worlds, with different perspectives, different hopes and dreams. If you are planning to marry him or something in the future, know that these will affect your relationship deeply. I don't see a future for you guys.

    Also, how do we know that he's not just using you to fulfill his fantasies? You know, the most commonly watched porn type is "teen", because almost everyone from all age groups are into teens. He may be making you feel good for now, but this doesn2t mean that he won2t change in the future.

  • Three things:

    1. There's nothing inherently wrong with the relationship. You don't have any reason to be ashamed.

    2. Bear in mind that you're at the age where sex is supposed to be romantic and relationships are associated with dreams of a happy future, while he's at the age where sex is supposed to be good nasty fun and relationships are associated with commitment and lack of freedom. That doesn't mean you can't have a healthy, fulfilling relationship as long as you're honest with each other and willing to compromise, but if you both assume the other is at your end of the spectrum, you'll have some bumps.

    3. If you feel you have to hide the relationship - any relationship - from your friends and family, there's something unhealthy going on that you need to work out. You'll never be able to fully engage in a relationship you feel that way about, and that will poison the relationship.

Most Helpful Girls

  • That's just crazy. I could never sleep with a friends date, that would be like sleeping with my own father. However you are an adult, a young naive one who has yet to experience a lot of things. The question is, do you like him so much that you want to ruin relationships with friends, and family? do you like him enough to marry him, and take care of him in the coming years. Do you like him enough to give up the prime years of your life? I mean you're young and this is taboo, but if you don't mind doing any of the aforementioned then stay with him. Although with someone your age I'm sure you will find someone more compatible for you who isn't old, and prbably in his mid life crisis.

    • I meant dad not date.

  • I think this is truly disgusting. Your friend will definitely be disgusted as well as dissapointed as will your parents. Guys that are twice your age want one thing and that is a piece of hot young ass - just being honest here. I suggest to stop this fling you have. You are young and should find a guy that is your age or something close at least that you love and intend to be with for the rest of your life. I hope this helps.

    Best of Luck. :D

    Kismett

  • As weird as it is that it's your friend's dad, you can't entirely help it sometimes. Though you need to think about how this will affect the people around you. Maybe even wait a few years as hard as it might be.

    And then again, staying with him might take away a lot of experiences, and who knows, you might not be that happy with him in the long run because he's from a completely different generation.

    :1 I hope all goes well though. :P

    • Very well thought and said

  • Right is diffrent in each persons eyes if you feel like this relationship with his father is ok then keep it going but if in your heart it feels wrong then do what you feel is best. His father isint still married is he? If so then yea that probably is wrong but if he's single and he makes you happy age is just a number. Good luck with your choice :) :P :D XD

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  • Thats grosss! Get yourself a life and dump that pedophille!

  • If you feel ok with it, then simply do it.

    Just make sure he is serious!

    Not that he's using you as a little doll.

    And if he really loves u, then you shouldn't care

    about other peoples opinion. Ur mum won't be

    happy for sure, but you have to live ur life and not her.

    Just don't forget everything else and go on with ur

    life! If he wants to be with u, he will help you to get a

    career etc.

  • Sounds like it could lead to a lot of ruined lives if your relationship ever gets out in the open.

    Ask yourself what the worst case scenario would be if you continued, and then ask if it would be worth it. Sorry for giving a rather... vague or unclear answer

  • im sorry but ur two young even thou ur 18 he is 43 its like you sleeping with ur father love and confused cna be taken over easily byt he other think about how yu would feel if the table was switch and yu were the friend how would yu fell hmmmm

  • It is very hard to make a relationship with that kind of age difference work, but not impossible. As far as f**king him you are both over 18, single and if it is your thing f**k your brains out with him.

    • It's been over a year, what has developed between you and him?

  • Stick to people closer to your age... Trust me, you'll be happier in the long run.

  • thats pretty f***ed up... that's your dads friend.

    seriously.

  • its not at all acceptable... stop doing it... I mean STOP IT.

  • nothing last forever and it will get old so have fun unless he is married still then if I was you I would stop.. but you are 18 and legal so whatever floats your boat

  • If I was a friend, I would give you some personal insight.

  • well I'm sure if this would be of any help.

    But I would say it's not good, you are still very young and you have your life to live. I'm sure there are many young guys of your age range in your town who can treat you well and satisfied physically and emotionally. He is old even with children, you should try and build your own life too. Just forget about him and move on find someone of your age and enjoy your life.

    The conclusion of what I'm saying is 'don't do it again', try and STOP if you can and I'm sure he will understands.

    Namz x

  • thats just kinda stupid

  • well, you should really only worry about how you feel, and if you care about your friend, how she feels

  • If this is alright in your mind, why are you seeking the approval of other people, strangers no less? You know in your heart that this is wrong. It is a malignant tumor waiting to burst! If his wife found out there's no telling what punishment she may choose to subject you to. Like a cancerous tumor left untreated, this can only end badly. Cut ties before you do irreparable damage.

  • uhm ew, If I was your friend I would be real mad and I wouldn't be your friend anymore. I would be grossed out

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