You have to be ready...you just don't jump into it. And you will need lots and lots of lube.
If it hurts...stop! You need to warm yourself up- first of all, you need to be aroused already. Have your boyfriend just start by touching you there. You need to get comfortable with his fingers there. have him rub the outside. Next, maybe the same day, maybe not, have him stick a finger up there. Next, progress to a small dildo. Only when you are used to have something in there already should you try anal. Take some time working your way up to this point. It WILL feel strange.
When I first tried it, my boyfriend keep saying "relax, relax" but that threw me off. I realized that you kind of need to tense your anal muscles, like you are pushing out. When you do this, your sphinters expand.
You should also start on top- that way you can control the depth. Also, for some reason, pulling out is the most difficult part, so once he's inside, keep him there- at least until you are used to it,
But seriously...if it starts to hurt, you need to stop..that is when you risk tearing something. Just go slower or go back to the dildo.
I thought I would never be able to do it...my first boyfriend tried and it was the most awful, painful time. But, my current boyfriend eased me into it and understood that anal wasn't just something that happens overnight.
(sorry to people who had to read this twice...)
Are you just doing doggie or are you doing anal? Because doggie shouldn't hurt like that. If you are doing anal then yes putting lots of lube on with make it go a lot smoother. He also needs to take his time and go slow. The more relaxed that you are the less it will hurt.
Yes anal and when I lost my virginty to him he was slow the first time but then the second time he pretty much went super fast saying it will hurt the next time if I didn't open (I tensed up a little bit but then I relaxed when he was about to insert his penis I pretty much tighten my legs making it real tight) I'm affaird he will do the same from behind making me fear it even more.
If you don't trust him to go slow then I wouldn't do it with him. If you do decide to do it and that you trust him just relax. If you feel yourself tensing up have him stop for a second so you can relax. If he is already in and it hurts just have him stop moving for a second so you can relax.
Great advice! Thanks so much! I really appreciate it thanks again
well, my aunt told me have him lick ur and finger ur ass, use lots of lube, and push like ur having a vowl movment while he's penatrating.. I tried it and it still fn hurts
I also have another question after me and my boyfriend have sex I'll say a week or two weeks later I will get cramps also when I masterbate I will get cramps too but the area I get cramps on is right above my vagina its stopped for now but is this normal?
A lot of lube is definitely necessary, especially the first time but also it's usually a little nerve-wracking for the girl and being nervous, I've noticed that they tend to tense up a bit, which can make it really painful. So I would suggest a lot of lube and also, try to relax as much as possible.
I dunno, just a thought, but if you can't self-lubricate maybe sex would be better suited for when you can.
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