So my boyfriend asked me if I was a virgin?

[GizzleBizzle12]

what does that mean? its kind of a given that I am a virgin because of my "innocence". He knows that I am very naive when it comes to sex and stuff. plus I have only had on previous boyfriend and he was a nerdy shy boy who never even kissed me so yeah. Two weeks ago my boyfriend and I got a little close (he touched me a lot (i.e chest area,behind) ..I let him do it because i do like him a lot and I didn't want to tell him to stop. I didn't mind . idk i have heard he talks a lot about sex and that he wants to do it (because he is a virgin or so I've heard). so what is the meaning behind him asking me this?

[ilovelegs]

Young guys often say or ask things whether they mean them or not, or even totally understand what they're really talking about or not just to make conversation or look cool or whatever other reasons. Maybe he thought that was a good question to ask you because he knew you were a virgin but wanted to hear you say it yourself. Maybe in the back of his head he's already thinking of the possibility of having sex with you someday. Don't concern yourself with that question because it doesn't have much meaning. The main thing is to not start considering having sex with him already. Please try to hold sexual things back as much as you can because there's too many guys out there that will grab at anything as soon as it's tossed in the air when it comes to sex.

[skinbyrdbaby]

alot of guys ask that question

But since you are a virgin and seem very unsure of your sexual readiness

I say be honest but don't let no one pressure you into anything!

being frisky and touchy is one thing but your virginity is the only thing you'll never get back

so be for sure you want too, and do it for yourself not to please a guy who's just dying for it!

[thatssotera]

i don't know what he means. if you have sex, do it with somebody you really love because it is very, very special. He may end up pressuring you into it. He might try to convince you to do it. A lot of guys who say they're virgins are lying.

[GizzleBizzle12]

True. most people I've asked said "be careful" and he is just trying to get in your pants. idk. like I ma looking for what do you think he wants or why he asked? its something kind of random and I asked his ex-gf and she said he never asked her anything like that

[thatssotera]

I would say he asked if you were a virgin because he was thinking about having sex with you, and he wanted to know if you had done it before.

[smith2267]

Yep. Whenever I ask a question, and someone says, "Why do you ask?" I reply, "In order to find out."

[thatssotera]

Why did I get a thumbs down for this? Seriously, people... Can you ask him what he meant? It's really the only way to tell.

[thatssotera]

You should ask him if you want to know. Also, there are a lot of other things you can do besides sex. It's up to you. :):):)

[GizzleBizzle12]

That's true I asked him why and all he said just. but before he asked me he said "hey I have been wanting to ask you something" but no its a stupid question you're going to think I am weird and he didn't want to ask me

[thatssotera]

Awe, that's cute. :)

[Anonymous]

just normal curiosity. Don't read anything into it.