Starting to feel lame for not having sex?

[Anonymous]

I'm 21and I am not sexually active. I've done "everything but" but not sex. my last relationship (I've had 2) was 3 years ago since then I've only dated, some guys I dated over a few months but it was casual so in that situation I didn't feel right sleeping with them. i don't think I want to start having sex with meaningless guys because it's such a fleeting moment then I just have a high number and I am not the type who will enjoy it if we don't have a connection anyway i am not unattractive, I get hit on, the guys I dated wanted to have sex I turned them down because I realized I need a relationship but it's not so easy to find a relationship and sometimes I feel lame that my friends have sex and I don't. but the ones who sleep around freely aren't even happy about it after and the others have boyfriends. argh...any words?

[CatholicVirginia]

I'm the same way, if you want to chat me about your woes at any point.

I've hit this point too, where I wonder what I'm waiting for. But, like you, I have been lucky enough to have guys just want sex from me, and I remember how awful that was because we had no connection. The memories of that are enough to content me with being a virgin until such a time as I want to give that gift to someone I care about.

Honestly, I just content myself with knowing how great it's going to be when it finally happens. I look forward to that with relish, and realize that I don't want to just sleep around or waste it.

[angel1991]

I am in the same boat. I feel like when I tell them that I would only want sex in a relationship that I scare them away. I'm friends with guys and make out and touch, but they want sex and I just can't bring myself to do it for the same reasons you mentioned.

Let me know what advice you get from your question, it's a good one! :)

[justme20]

sex isn't everything, I was proud I was a virgin and I'm proud I'm not. Its completely up to you with whoever you give it to but remember if its the wrong person than you will regret it

[Anonymous]

I know that feeling, am 22 and am a complete virgin in ALL aspects. I am not ugly or socially awkward...I know hard to believe lol. I've had a good share of opportunities, but it just wasn't there for me. The only girl that everything felt right with and the feelings were mutual, was engaged and lived on the other side of the planet. For a long time it never bothered me, but now it's so embarrassing and awkward.

[Anonymous]

You don't know the meaning of the word lame :P

I'm 21, I've never had sex, or even had a girlfriend. Also I've never even kissed anyone and the last time I've received a hug was probably close to 4 years ago.

Feel better?

[jpinka]

u dnt have to give up your p**** until the right guy comes along. tell a guy you want a relationship b4 hand so you dnt waste your time.

if you need something dnt settle becasue months later what you want/need may come along.

[Asker]

yeah I know I just get horny but I actuallydon't do it..it took a few months of casual dating guys to realize I need a relationship first, I used to think I wouldn't care

[jpinka]

well just make sure the you do when your ready, guys will always b thr to happily penetrate

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