Strap-on sex tips, men help please.

So I bought a strap on... havn't used it yet, but when I watch p*rn I find that a lot of chicks don't really seem like they know how to use them... so I was just wondering for any tips on like... how to really f*** with a d***, I know it's probably a hard(haha see what I did there?) thing to explain but I'd really appreciate any help, like positions that make it easier, or anything you think about to keep you from not being so nervous.
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  • The easiest positions for a girl who's not used to having a phallus, will be doggy, and to a much lesser extent, missionary.

    Tips... First, make sure its properly attached. And attached firmly. You don't want loose straps or anything like that. Second.. When your partner is in the doggy position, brace yourself against them with both hands, and lean into it. Third, it's not just all in the hips. You might think that the thrusting motion comes solely from the hips, but it doesn't. If you're kneeling behind your partner, you can clench the thigh muscles, which will draw your body forward into your partner (this does take some practice and is the hardest thing to describe in pure text). If you're standing behind them (and they are bent over something, presenting their rear to you) then it's possible to get the in and out motion by simply moving your centre of gravity forward and backward (using the back muscles and stomach muscles, while keeping your legs sort of rigid).

    By alternating between the hip thrusts, and these other methods, you can rest different muscle groups, and go at it doggy style for quite a bit.

    • Thanks so much that seems like very useful tips :)

  • Belgie's answer is pretty much spot on..I would add as well that it may be useful to have your partner kneeling on the edge of the bed with you standing up as you enter her..This will give you the ability to more easily alternate your trusting the strap-on into her...Another position that you could try is spooning her,You might find it a little awkward but do it slowly ,pressed right up to her and move your hips slowly..using you hip muscles and butt muscles. and you will then find a rythym...lift her leg up so you can go in deep..this position if you wish will lead into the doggie position..Dont worry about feeling nervous..its only natural..guys are often nervous too..Just take your time and you wil find out what your patner likes and then you will know you are good with a strap-on .lol

    take care

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  • Belgie gave a good answer, but I'd just like to add that, in my experience, the most difficult part about using a strap-on is that you can't actually *feel* what you're doing. So, take it slow and gentle at first until you get into a good rhythm and pay close attention to your partner's body language for cues that they're enjoying or not enjoying what you're doing (even better if your partner is willing to give you verbal feedback). Since you can't feel what you're doing, it's very easy to accidentally go at an uncomfortable angle, or too deep, etc.

    It's also a very different motion than you'd be used to if you've had sex with men in the past. But with good communication and practice, you'll figure it out.

  • If you are doing a guy - the totally easiest position for you is cowboy with him riding you. That way he controls the speed, depth and intensity. But - in terms of actually f**king with it - this will not teach you the lovely roll of the hips and ease that most men have with their d***s. That just takes practice.

    Missionary is more intimate but a little tricky for him to keep his legs up. Doggie works pretty well, for beginners.

    To not be nervous...focus on his pleasure...pay attention to what happens if you thrust a certain angle or slow down or speed up. You'll be able to tell what he likes the best and keep doing that. Focus and concentration.

  • I'm a chick, but if you haven't been penetrated ... keep in mind that you have to work up to deep thrusting. I would imagine it would be easier to just plow inside mindlessly when its not a real piece of skin that you can feel the resistance with. If you have been penetrated, well keep in mind what it feels like when someone barrels in without taking the time to work you up for it.

    • Thats true, thanks, :)

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  • You're going to use itinerary a guy whom hasn't received before?

    I think he should be on all fours with you behind him... I wouldn't try him on his back to start. I hope you weren't greedy and bought a relatively small size, at least to start. Use an anal lubricant, which also includes desensitizers. Go slowly. Enter slowly, thrust slowly. The straps can shift on you and he is a virgin, so don't try to be too rough.

    • No, it's generally for woman... not men, and since it's my first strap on I got a "SoReal" one... which was a mistake, it's pretty big, it's about 7 inches long and 5 inches circumfrance... but I mean I'll use lots of lube for either man or woman. but thanks.

    • There's also on that's made especially for two women that is not a strapon -- the Feeldoe

    • Yea I know, but I like the feelin of havin a d***, it makes me feel powerful and all that jazz, not that I'm a dyke or anything or want to be a man, I love my t*ts and ass, but there's just something about givin it to a woman that's so exciting.

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  • Indefinitely no reason to be nervous just be natural about it use a lot of fucking lube and whatever position you wanted to enjoy fucking your partner in and do a lot of kissing sometimes and talk and dirty talk touching be gentle use your fingers or a butt plug first don't just stick it in

  • How did you go? I have only done my hubby in spoon position. Not too bad and I could still thrust, but could control it so it was not too rough for him. He loved it.

    • How big was the strap on that you used to fuck your husband and in the spoon position it feels fucking amazing especially with her hand on your chest pulling you towards her so that you're fully tight together and she's just sliding that cock in and out of your ass hitting your prostate feels so good. I love getting fucked in that position from my girlfriend and she likes to talk dirty into my ear or make out with me while she's fucking me. Another position that feels really good is when she from the spoon position pushes me flat so that she's on my back and I'm flat on the bed and then she has me cross my legs so that she can get really fucking deep inside me and she loves fucking me she said she gets off big time not only listening to me moan but also watching my facial expressions in the mirror on our closet doors watching her hips go up and down in and out she likes watching when she's fucking me. I actually find it really fucking hot too and she's such a dirty talker I fucking love it. I like to hear how other women fuck their husbands or boyfriends how they feel how turned on they get what positions they fuck them in. I bet your husband begs for your fucking cock doesn't he he loves it when you fuck him

  • are you trying to use it on another girl or a guy?

    • Girl.