Struggling with my virginity, after how many dates?

[Anonymous]

1. do guys (experienced) expect sex? 2, should I tell him I'm a virgin and don't yet know if I'm ready? 3. is 22 too old to be a virgin?

[christian2724]

1. Depends on the guy. I do eventually. Within 5 dates something sexual has to happen or I'm convinced it's platonic. Something is wrong, etc. I'm wasting my time.

2. Yes. Always be honest and communicate. If you're a virgin, it's different. Most decent guys will want you to have a good first experience. I can be patient for a virgin. As long as you're not asexual. You should have some interest.

3. 22 is not too old. I would be a little surprised though since it seems unusual. 30 and over is when I'd really be worried by it. Enough not to date the girl.

[Asker]

thanks :) and def not asexual, just waiting for a good guy

[moloz]

Just 5 dates? I guess you can call yourself practical, hah. I wouldn't expect something sexual, but at least some sort of reciprocation wouldn't hurt.

[Anonymous]

im 22 and I lost my vriginity about a month ago. Please don't do it unless the person you know it understands your situation. Tell him as soon as possible. I didn't tell the girl I lost my virginity to I was I virgin until the last moment. Now she won't talk to me. and its the worst thing in my life right. I feel like I lost the only good thing about me and I lost it in the worst possible way and now I feel like I have nothing left to offer the world. I feel like the scum of the earth. I'm depressed too if you haven't noticed

[Asker]

thanks for your honesty. I'm sure you have a ton of other amazing qualities, so don't let that keep you down! just find a better girl who will understand!

[Opinion Owner]

Another thing once you lose your virginity that's it. there's no going back. I think it affects you more the older you get. I wish I waited till marriage

[Anonymous]

They do eventually but a guy who really respects you won't expect it too fast. Also, don't give it up too fast if you want the relationship to go anywhere.

You should tell him but not on the first date. Once you have been dating for a while and feel comfortable you should tell him the truth though. If he blows you off after, he's an a**hole and not worth your time/was only trying to get laid.

There's no "too old" in my book.

[SuperCurious]

All men are different with how long they will wait. I think you should let them know your a virgin within the first three dates, depending on how comfortable you guys are together...If a guy is not willing to wait he is not worth it. 22 is no to old to be a virgin and I strongly recommend loosing it to a guy when you are ready, don't give in to a guy trying to pressure you.

[bsb0085]

1. every guy is different on this, but generally most men will expect sex in an adult relationship.

2. yes, be honest about your virginity. he will find out anyways if you have sex with him. absolutely YES tell him you don't know that you're ready! don't do anything you don't want to!

3. no, 22 is not too old to be a virgin.

[Mr_Solo_Dolo]

1.It depends on the guy and if he expects you to put out.

2.If you're not ready then don't. Tell him when it's time.

3.I don't really think so but we all have different opinions.

[AshBrown]

1. Guys as ass holes. Honestly. And I am one.

2. As a women, you have every right to refuse any physical contact; let alone sexual one.

3. You are never too old to be a virgin.

PLEASE don't listen to people who are a victim of society.

[Asker]

i don't understand 1

[AshBrown]

Guys imagine having sex with every girl they are attracted to. So if they are given the very slight advance, they will expect something.

[Asker]

ahh OK, lol thanks!

[dudeman]

it doesn't matter what he wasnts its your body and no its not to old and no I wouldn't tell him because it could keep him around longer to get it

[Mgreen1]

1. I don't expect sex on the first date. I would say it best to hold out for a month at least. If I get it too fast I won't value it as much. I would feel like anyone you have dated for that amount of time, you must had had sex with.

2. Tell him you are virgin, he will respect you more and be willing to wait longer.

3. 22 is not too old to be a virgin, it's rare though. I wish my girl was a virgin when we got together, she has been with 2 other people and I hate the thought of that.

[Anonymous]

1- yes guys expect sex that's why they date, so they can get it.

2- no it's not too old. I lost mine at 20 & wish I was still a virgin.

[Opinion Owner]

And yeah you should tell him

[Asker]

do you think he'd think there was something wrong with me for it?

[moloz]

Excuse me if I'm wrong, but I believe it's okay for me to expect sex when I pay for dates (not just one), when I hang out with you and generally be there for you.

[Opinion Owner]

Why would he think somethings wring with you? The guy I lost my virginity to thought it was a bit strange that I was a 20 year old virgin but it didn't bother him he was just surprised because I'm not ugly or anything like that.

[Opinion Owner]

Moloz- who says you have to pay for the dates? I have always payed for myself & the guy payed for himself. so your saying your entitled to sex just because you spend time with her & may spend a little money on her? Isn't her company good enough? You should only want sex if she does too.

[moloz]

I'll ALMOST ALWAYS want sex, not asking for it all the time doesn't disprove it. It is what I want and not considering what I want is lack of respect.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok I get that you want it but you should consider the girls feelings too it is HER body that you want to use. Just because you take her out on dates does not mean you are intitled to sex with her.

[moloz]

Yes I am. Otherwise, she is using me for my wallet and my stability. I do not want to use her in sex, it is something that should be enjoyed by both people involved. One girl stated the penis fits in the vagina, they're meant for each other.

[Opinion Owner]

Didnt I just tell you no guy has EVER payed for me, maybe a coffee but that's it, and I don't expect him to pay. I go on dates for company not for the use of his wallet! Sex should only come in to the picture when you BOTH want it. Some girls won't want it for a long time until she loves & trusts him. He is NOT intited to sex just because he might have brought her something and spent time with her. She's not a sex toy you buy in a shop.

[moloz]

I do not care who pays in your dates. You sound like a selfish prude, wanting him just for the company he offers is worse than guys wanting girls just for sex, at least they're honest in what they want. If I'm dating a girl, I can wait some time to earn her trust but not forever and certainly not more than an year.

[Opinion Owner]

I did not say I want him just for his company. But at the beginning of a relationship that's all he'll get, nothing too sexual. I've learnt from my mistake & I never want to be used again! I will only have a sexual relationship if we trust & love each other. That may take 3 months, 6 months, a year or until I'm engaged! But a guy is not untitled to sex just because he took her on a few dates!

[moloz]

I'm not speaking of couple of dates, I'm speaking of couple of months. And no guy wants to suffer for your mistakes, it's your own damn fault you got in the company of the wrong guy(s). I've had sex on the first date (not my idea) and I'm still with her almost 10 months later. It has nothing to do with sex, it has a lot to do with the person whom you're having sex with.

[Opinion Owner]

It is not my fault some guys are really good at being players. They treat you so well until they get what they want. That's why I will never have sex again unless I can 100% trust him so I will be waiting next time. Relationships aren't just about sex anyway. I want to get to know him really well before I even think about anything sexual.

[moloz]

It doesn't have to be JUST sexual, I don't like having just sex with a girl. What you don't get is that a good relationship MUST HAVE SEX, TOO. It's an essential ingredient. "Players", pff. How come we guys avoid bitches and you can't?

[Opinion Owner]

They are called players because they play a sick little game where they pretend to like you and pretend to care about you and show intersect in your life until they get what they want ( sex) this guy was good at that and I was inexperienced with men so I knew no better. Bitches are totally different that's not a game its just their personality & negative attitude towards people.

[Asker]

"wanting him just for the company he offers is worse than guys wanting girls just for sex, " sooooooo the point of a relataionship is pure sex? wowza