Stuck his tongue down my throat, didn't even bother to call...

[Anonymous]

I'm so angry. I went on a date with a man I had met on the train... we just had simple conversation, and he told me it was his last night in town before he went home and would love to take me out for drinks... so I agreed, and went out with him that night. I dressed super conservatively... because I didn't want to give him the wrong impression by any means. (Knowing that he was on vacation and would be leaving) so we had drinks, it was fine.. we talked, I honestly didn't feel that deep of a connection... but he complimented me a lot... and came on very strong to me, and went in for a kiss. He was kind of intense with his kisses, and I gave in after a while and just kissed him back. He then asked me back to his hotel room, and I declined... I mean, really?! After spending one hour together?! I felt so insulted. I did my best to be polite, and than made my exit. He didn't even walk me out of the door of the bar we were at... He stayed and finished his drink! He did not even text, or call me... the following day. I feel so used... if he was looking for someone to take home, why didn't he just get a prostitute? he would have had better luck. Anyway, I know my common sense says this guy is a total douche. But honestly, why would a man just drop you like this?! After seeming ***SOOOO *** interested in you... it hurts :( I know he's going out of town, etc. (doesn't live here) but still... that's all he wanted? And being that he didn't get it from me, I am of no value to even recieve a TEXT MESSAGE? Its been 2 days.

[madhatters4]

i'm a little confused at what you expected. you knew he was leaving the next day. it seems clear to me that he wanted a last hookup before he left.

why didn't he get a prostitute? maybe he doesn't pay for sex

did you think perhaps he was looking to start some long distance relationship?

i don't think it's that you have no value to be contacted by him but it seems clear to me that on his last night in town he was looking for a fling.

[Asker]

I didn't need to be in a long distance relationship. I think your taking it a bit far. I find value in getting to know people... I just feel insulted that he placed no value on me as a human being, to even send a text that said nice to meet you... ? I know he isn't from here, but I've made many friends that I'e stayed connected to in situations like this... Just never felt so worthless to a person. Aside from what's between my legs.

[Asker]

After telling me I was sooooooo beautiful... And such an awesome girl, I get totally wiped out of existance because I wouldn't put out? Yuck.

[Asker]

After telling me I was sooooooo beautiful... And such an awesome girl, I get totally wiped out of existance because I wouldn't put out? That is hurtful unfortunately.

[madhatters4]

i wasn't suggesting you "need" a long distance relationship. I was asking was that your expectation... If this is your first experience directly or indirectly you've come across the sad reality of some people's interactions. I don't think the guy was looking for anything but a one night fling. typically these people aren't going to text or call later because to them that legitimizes the relationship to some extent which is not what they're after... sorry you had to go through this

[madhatters4]

don't take it personal. the issue is with him not you. be grateful that you were smart enough not to fall for his lure and sleep with him & try not to be hard on yourself

[Asker]

Thanks your right. I appreciate it

[Jamesthehuman]

You did everything right. Good job girlie. You didn't fall for that tool! Some guys only care about sex. He was one of those guys. Once he realized he wasn't getting any he wanted nothing to do with you. Its nothing wrong with you, but there's wrong with him.

[talloak]

After finding out what this guy was like, why would you want to hear from him again? He tried to use you but basically failed. Why do you feel hurt? You really would have been hurt if you had given in even a little. I would think you would feel relieved at what you averted.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

He was interested in someone who would give him sex. You wouldn't. He moved on.

[Anonymous]

Players gonna play. Deal with it.

[Opinion Owner]

You could try to play him back, though...

[Anonymous]

The guy wanted sex and didn't get it, so he moved on. No more wasting time on a lost cause. What's so hard to understand about that?