Taking Bachata dance lessons with my brother

So some time ago I started taking Bachata dance lessons with my younger brother. I know it must sound weird, but the thing is, we complement each other perfectly while dancing and we can always practice together at home, so no matter what other people think, I will keep him as my dancing partner. I just have one problem, which is his erections during dancing. The thing is, Bachata is a special form of Salsa, just much closer and more sensual, The basic positions are thighs in between the legs of the partner (very deep in between the legs) and female turned back to male (again, very tightly). According to me bachata teacher (I asked her about it since she has been instructing it for over 20 years now) it's completely normal for the guy to get an erection. She said in her 20 years of dancing bachata, she never once did NOT feel the guy's erection. She said if the guys doesn't get erected from the dance, then either him or the girl is doing the dance wrong. She said even if the guy is gay he'll get erected from it. It's a normal body reaction. But she knows it's a little awkward for me since my partner is my younger brother. So she adviced me to tell him to masturbate before practicing with me, that way he'll less likely get an erection. But telling him that would be WAAAY too awkward for me. But what do you think, should I tell him to masturbate before practicing with me, or should I avoid that embarrassment? Any suggestions?
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Oh and by the way, my brother is very shy with girls, a virgin, and completely inexperienced sexually with girls, so please don't blame him or call him creepy or something. He can't help it and it's not like it's because of me. Thanks.
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  • If your brother is inexperienced sexually and shy with girls, maybe having the only time he get stimulated by a girl being your thighs and ass rubbing against him is not ideal. I mean it would be one thing if he were getting laid somewhere else, but your ass is the best sex he's getting right now.

    • That's not answering my question... lol

  • Well the teacher said it is normal so, it's not strange. Is your teacher said that should not happen then I would be concerned. I have no idea if masturbating first would help and that would be awkward to say to your brother. How are are you and him?

    • What do you mean how we are?

    • How old are you and him? Sorry about that.

    • How old are you and how old is your brother? Have you thought about trying to help him get a girl?

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  • I think you should just do it for him!

    • And tell us about it.

    • Do what for him?

    • She means you should masturbate him.

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  • Just ask afterward if he needs to go take care of that, and it might help to try it before next time.

    But I'm guess he like it, and would still get hard for you anyway.

    • And while it may be only the dance, it wouldn't be surprising if he had a crush on you, too...

  • Give him a lap dance and then a teasing blow job!

  • Which problem exactly are you trying to address? Is the current situation making YOU uncomfortable, and you want to find a solution for your own benefit? Or are you being protective of your younger brother and trying to find a solution so that he doesn't face similar situations out there in society?

  • Why should you feel awkward? It’s him that’s having erections with and on you. You’re 36+, so I assume he’s like 30. He knows he’s hard w you, and knows that you know that. So just ff is uss it w him.

    • *So just talk about it w him

  • Tell him to wear a cup. Don't tell him to jerk off.

    If this story is true (and I really have my doubts) then it wouldn't be your place to tell your partner this, it would be the dancing teachers place, and she'd know it.

    • A cup is no option. Way too umconfortable during dancing. And no, my teacher respects the fact that it would make me feel very uncomfortable if she told him. She said it's my decision. P.S.: Have as many doubts as you want, I don't really care.

  • You could tell him too, but he'd probably just lie and say he did. You'd need to make him do it in front of you to be sure he'd done it.

    • Haw...haw...haw.

  • Wtf. I seriously doubt an erection is a gauge of how well the people are dancing together.

    • Also no, masturbating isn't going to help with the erection. The only thing that helps with is making it so he wouldn't come from it as quickly..and dear god I hope he's not jizzing on you.

    • Well, that's why I think it would help.

    • It doesn't help. *especially* considering he's still going to be grinding against you and that being the extent of his male to female contact. I can jack off a couple times but I'm still able to get a boner just as easily if I hadn't. It desensitizes the penis a bit so that I can last longer before ejaculating, but it has little to no effect on the initial erection. You'll just make things amazingly awkward by telling him to go rub one out before dance class...

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