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Taking it slow, or taking it to the next level?
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So me and my boyfriend have been going out 6 months. We are taking it very slow, and we didn't even makeout untill we were going out for 2. Last night we saw each other and things got really heated. He was kissing on my boobs and my lower tummy, and rubbing his hand between my upper thigh and grinding with me as we were kissing. We kissed for like, an hour and a half. I don't mind being this close with my boyfriend at all, I actually like it alot. He talked to me last night and said I need to keep him in check and keep him from crossing the line because sometimes he can't control himself. I do not know how to do this though, because I am comfortable with going to the next level. I asked him what he thought crossing the line would be, and he said anything below the waist for now. I don't know what to do! I'm really comfortable with that stuff, but I gusse he isn't? But if he isn't, I don't get why he gets so into it. It kind of frustrates me. It's a tease to me. I guess what I'm trying to say is, I feel comfortable and he dosn't. Should I talk to him and make him for comfy with it? Should I wait for him to be comfortable with going to the next level? We have been together for six months, so I'm not shure what to do. Help!
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1 2I would just tell him that you're comfortable with it. He may be hesitant to take it to the next level because he doesn't think you're ready. Just tell him what you're thinking and open up the lines of communication.
Wait. He'll come around soon enough.
If you're comfortable just tell him but assure him you can keep him from going too far and not to worry. It sounds like he was wanting to go lower with his hands and mouth, and if you think he wants to do oral on you then just tell him you'd love it because you're ready for that. Just make sure he understands that having sex will be out of the question until you're completely ready and that won't be anytime soon. Once you get him to the next level and he starts being able to bring you to orgasm orally, that should satisfy him for a long time.
Thank you your question helped alot! Me and him are both unexperianced with anything "below the waist" So maybe that is part of the reason? He told me he'd be lost doing anything like that. How could I procede to go to that level, and is there anything I should / shouldn't do when recieving oral?
I'm really glad it helped! Okay... you said in your question he was kissing your boobs and lower tummy and rubbing you between your upper thighs. That's soo close already. Get him to do that again, but next time he's kissing your lower tummy put your hands on his head and gently push him down slowly. It doesn't have to be all the way yet but close enough for him to know. Also you need to bring his hand up higher. Message me now at jcarpenter_em@yahoo.com .. for more. Not enough room here.
I just read your question good and how he answered. It sounds like he was so close to going to the next level when he was kissing your lower tummy. A gentle push and he'd been kissing your pubes, probably where he's dying to be. The next little push and you'll have his mouth right on his target. My boyfriend and I don't have sex yet and have been going out longer than you have. He's been happy and satisfied with pleasuring me orally for months. Good luck! I'm sure next time he'll do it!
You guys helped me so much. Thank you! I'm seeing him onwednesday at a basketball game and we have a speacial spot we go to to be alone. I'll try that but not be to forcefull. Hopefully he will get the idea! One last question, how do I get him to understand I would be comfortable giving oral to him too?
The main thing is to not try to do both yet. If you really want to have a great relationship you should get him to pleasure you orally like I suggested you get started. Just let him learn and explore you that way until he can bring you to an orgasm everytime. Then repete what he did. Be kissing down his body and end up at his lower stomach and slowly inch downward. If he doesn't stop you keep going until it's in your mouth. Start sucking and licking and don't stop until you swallow his cum.