Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Well, pretty much 90 times a day someone between the ages of 13 and 70 asks if his dick size is ok. As a woman, I will go out on a limb here and say, we are getting really bored of this question. So, here's the real honest truth about your penis size.
1. You can't change it. So worrying about it is only going to make you miserable. Please, don't worry.
2. Almost every single dick a woman ever sees is going to be within one inch of absolute average. The average size of the peen is SO common, that really very few men, statistically, are above it or below it by much.
3. Yes, there are some women (and men) who really like large penises. A lot of that has to do with how much we TALK about how big imposing circus weeners are so powerful and taboo and sexy. Eroticizing something like that is going to make it erotic for some people. That's just how it is. Refer to #1.
4. Only about 30% of women can even have an orgasm from stuff you do with your dick, no matter WHAT size it is. You aren't broken. We aren't broken. The female orgasm requires stimulation to the clitoris, and the penis really doesn't stimulate the clitoris much. 70% of women need to be orally or manually stimulated to orgasm before the penis even enters the picture, or manually stimulated in addition to the doodle diddling in the doodle hole. Once we HAVE an orgasm, our vaginas are felling all kinds of good, and THEN your dick is going to feel INCREDIBLE, and we might orgasm again.
In conclusion, your dick is probably just fine if it's clean (like, please take a shower before you ask us to put our mouths on it. Your ball sweat does not taste sexy), disease free, wearing a condom, and there's plenty of lube.
Bonus: Foreskins are cool. Eventually American girls will get used to them, because circumcision rates are going down. Yay for foreskins.
Bonus 2: Your tallywhackers do not stretch our vaginas out, or make our labia get extra flappy(?). Vaginas are made for a whole baby human to come out and then snap back into shape. But you can hurt us if your donger is not lubricated enough, so ALWAYS have condom-safe lube handy. (If you hurt us, you open micro abrasions in the vaginal wall which make us more susceptible to STDs, and STDs are sooooo NOT sexy.)
Bonus 3: Bends or curves in your member are pretty normal if they are not extreme. You should be having an annual physical, so let the doc tell you if your have a severe curve, called a stricture, otherwise, don't worry about it.
I'm being all silly about it, but I really want guys to know their dicks are just fine. Really, just fine. Don't worry so much.
What Girls & Guys Said
9 35Good to know that some women still care more about what a guy has in his heart and mind than in his pants.
Really, most of us do.
I'm glad to hear it.
You are right some
LOL... like guys haven't been asking this question since beginning of time and will continue. Its the same as if a girl asks if she or her outfit looks sexy.. or do u like big boobs or what ever...
I agree with everything you have said on here.
Unfortunately there is a vicious circle to it.
A tiny penis is only ever mentioned as an insult or a joke,
which makes guys who are small self conscious about it,
which knocks their confidence and makes getting naked awkward,
which makes them less attractive,
which makes for bad sex.
So when you have had a couple of really bad experiences, you get to the stage where you almost give up. Because its the hope that hurts you, so its easier to not put yourself out there.
I can relate to that. The thing is, every kind of person hs their own sexual insecurities, and we all have to learn to face them or suffer.
I guess everyone is dealing with their own issues. My problem is that every time I think I am feeling a bit better about it, I hear/read something that just puts me back to feeling like crap about it. I don't know if its just me noticing it more, but it seems like its mentioned everywhere now. I don't suppose you have any tips? Thanks for the post and for trying to help me with this.
Best thing to remember is that most women don't orgasm from anything anyone does with any size penis. It just isn't important to all that many of us.
I don't mean to be rude, but to you think age or experience makes a difference? I am just trying to get an idea if I have just been really unlucky, or maybe more girls my age do care, either because of all the stuff they read or because they don't know any better.
Well, when the only thing you learn about sex is how to do the one thing that makes babies, yeah it may take some experience to develop more creativity than just doing that one thing.
I have done other stuff quite a lot. But it doesn't seem to be able to make up for it once they realise my size. At least with the relationships I have had so far. It's like just knowing my size is off-putting. That's why I am wondering (or maybe hoping) that it might change as I get older and maybe date older women.
thanks babe.. it was good one.. you should try for pussy and boobs look too...
irrelevant of size and shape, I like, and many girls like, my dick lol
Yeah, because size is just not a very important factor for women 99% of the time. Not to say anything about YOUR size, but just size, in general, not very important.
same as boob size and tightness of pussy and what type of pussy. as long as it is boobs and pussy then great.
Plus, pussies don't actually come in different sizes or "tightness". That's all about muscle control, not relative size of the vagina. But in a way, breast are different. A lot of men really fawn over big breats and tell women they aren't as pretty without bigger breasts (Our President even said that), and so much of a woman's perceived value is in how she looks, plus - we can get bigger boobs, if we need to. So, kinda different.
it is based on what I have heard and seen. many women are super concerned with boob size and to majority of guys, my opinion, it does not matter much. anyway, just saying, not much difference with guys being insecure with dick size and girls being insecure with boob size. girls boobs are fine.
@MlleCake besides there are many different types of pussy as well.
https://i.imgur.com/msWT7.jpg
I'm actually discussed by this.
Women get away with so much.
If I done the same thing about vaginas women would be appalled.
I really wish women would know there place when it comes to men's bodies, like we have to when it comes to women's.
*disgusted What are you even talking about? There was nothing negative about this myTake. Absolutely no reason to be butthurt.
@Pamina Women should know there place when it comes to sharing on male genitals just like I have to when it come to women. This is rude and offensive to men to discuss something of this nature.
Ah, so you actually came visiting us from the 1950s, I see. Then I won't bother with you anymore. I don't talk to wackjobs.
@Pamina Why are you being so rude calling me names? Seems odd why you resort to name calling at my opinion on someone else's post.
Right. Being a misogynistic asshole but calling me rude. That's priceless.
Now shut up.
@Pamina By saying that women should be held to the same standards as men are make me a "misogynistic asshole'' ? I just want women and men to be equal in all ways.
@Pamina I read your exchange, pamina, you are 100% in the wrong here. Apologize. He has every right to be disgusted and comment about his disgust, and it's not rude to react that way if that's his natural reaction. You on the other hand are insulting him personally and in general being a bitch. Apologize.
@Bluedream13 That's funny. Thanks for the laugh. Now shut it.
@Pamina interesting response... laughs when confronted with reality... I think I know a place for you :)
@Bluedream13 Only when conronted by an incel's "reality". And it's a laughter of ridicule, not of joy, I promise! Oh, and I actually know place for you as well, but I doubt you'll make it out of your mom's basement... :D I'm gonna mute this now, won't see your next response. Now buzz off, neckbeard.
@Pamina so any man who defends another man is a mom's basement incel... OKAY BITCH
@Pamina I love you? Do you know that?
Is 10.3 inches good?
No that's bad.
in my opinion , all dicks are beautiful, just like all vaginas are...
It’s a lie because I’ve been with plenty of women and they all have something nice to say about my penis after sex just like I have something to say about their ass or boobs or w/e because that IS what we care about... however I agree that most everybody is within an inch or so and I have heard of some preferring thicker to the longer guy or the longer guy that goes deeper than the thicker guys. Fellas it all comes down Finding the right vag for you. If you got a thick short guy then a girl that prefers a more girthy fill will enjoy you. You got a long skinny fella then you want a lady that needs to feel that d*** in her stomach. Relationships need sexual compatibility, chemistry, and a whole bunch of mental stuff that’s on other story. Don’t listen to anyone who doesn’t tell you it’s all about putting the work in bed physically and mentally. If she’s likes to be controlled control her if she likes to get it softly then be Romeo if she likes it hard turn into rampage. The only way to learn these things is to talk and ask question and study her personality before you get in the bedroom. That’s what keeps em coming back bro
Do Girls Like the Sad Wizard?
Not all women are into big cocks, but I love them.
How the hell do some gay men like big dicks, I don't get that. Like it can hurt some women, and well vaginas, even small vaginas, well they are bigger holes than a fucking anus. The fact that many women find anal sex painful or not interested in it. I don't know how people can do it, as if anyone has taken a hard shit, knows how it can hurt. And whats getting shoved up someones ass (dick) is most likely harder than shit. I don't care if there's lube. So gay dudes like their assholes ripped apart? ha It seems like that would be painful for a person taking a dick up the ass with an average size dick let alone a big one. Gay dudes must have really high pain threshhold, tolerance. I'd think more women would like a big dick than gay men for the fact of anatomy, a vagina doesn't have to stretch as much since it's already a bigger orifice, not as tight and self lubricates and is, well made for sex. The other part people can have sex, but it's an alternative route, a back road, a side street.
You have some serious misunderstandings about anal sex.
"Vaginas are made for a whole baby human to come out and then snap back into shape. But you can hurt us if your donger is not lubricated enough, so ALWAYS have condom-safe lube handy. (If you hurt us, you open micro abrasions in the vaginal wall which make us more susceptible to STDs, and STDs are sooooo NOT sexy.)" There can be abrasions on the vagina if not lubricated enough. And can be so even if a woman is wet and lubricated and my understanding since vaginas are made for sex. I belive the walls for the vagina are thicker than the anus, which is quite thin. So you add that a big dick can hurt a woman's vagina and abrasions. So then let's do the match of an orifice, that's smaller, tighter, thinner walls, and fissures and such can come from anal sex. I'm not against anal sex, but I'm just saying that can a lot for women well lubricated and feel pain from anal. And gay dudes like a big dick? Like I said the pleasure from the prostate must override the pain, because there has to be
be pain from a big dick. I was just commenting with a woman who says she does anal and likes it with men. She does it sometimes, but said it hurts everytime, but it also feels good and like a weird feeling. You've seen comments by women on here not intersted in anal sex and the woman saying it feels good but hurts, it's most likely from a guy with an average dick. So it's hard to image that many and probably only a few can enjoy anal sex with a big dick, unlike they like pain with the pleasure and like I said perhaps the pleasure from the prostate masks it for men, I don't know
You have some serious misunderstandings about anal sex, my words not withstanding.
I think not. A lot of people don't like anal sex or interested in trying it because of the pain that can come from it. And that I suspect can just be from average sized men, which most men are either average, a little smaller or a little bigger than average. If that can cause discomfort despite lube, etc, then a big dick will only be tougher to handle anally. It would seem the last thing someone would want is a girthy big dick when being penetrated anally, but gay dudes like it? When there are women who don't like big dicks and that's vaginal. Unless you're saying the vagina is no different than an anus. The anus is a weak body part, I Feel gay dudes maybe feel pleasure from it and handle a big dick, but they must have a high pain tolerance with the fact others don't like anal and it hurts. If it wasn't a weak body part all women or most women and gay men would try anal sex and often.
There's also health issues that can from it too. If it's no different wouldn't most women do it? Some do it, and I know men have a prostate, but I'd think it feels no different as far as discomfort for men or women as far as initial penetration or trying to deal with it. The anus is a weak body part, I don't know how people do it let alone take a big dick from a weak body part like that. The vagina at least is made tougher than the anus, I mean it handles babies coming out whereas simply shit can hurt coming out, that's a weak body part.
I'd also think more women should be able to handle a big dick at least as far as girth compared to man or woman taking a big dick anally. If there's no difference, then the vagina is weak too which sucks
Why do people think that gay sex = anal sex? ↗
that says a lot because like I saw on GAG before and from that gay dude, a lot of gay dudes don't like anal. Which is exactly why I said if many despite steroetyoe don't like it as well as women. Then someone has to have a high pain tolerance despite the prostate to handle a big dick which would more likelyt to have the ability to hurt, when many gay men, straight women don't like anal, or do it just sparingly even if it's from a an average sized man. The bigger the size the more it would have to be.
Your assumption is that it must always be painful and damaging to the body. It isn't always.
No I don't think it has to always be damaging, like I didn't say this for an average sized dick, though women on GAG and such have said anal can be painful. Maybe it's not done right, but maybe just some people handle better than others regardless of how much times they try and relax. It's one thing if I said anal sex in general, my point was the big dick part considering big dicks can hurt women even vaginally and then the fact that anal sex can be painful even if the dude is average or small, no many how many times tried with women or gay men. So that's why I'm wondering with that fact, how the hell gay men can like big dicks when anal can be tough or painful for some or many people just with an average sized dick. It would seem a girthy big dick would increase the odds of pain even if well prep and trying to do it right. Doesn't mean people can't have anal with a big dick or can't enjoy, but man bless their soul
Even a very large sized penis, or even a whole fist and forearm can be introduced anally with no pain or damage to the receiver's body.
Guy's are weird and maybe we're gross, but I've heard straight dudes say that before when talking about taking a rough dump and say how they don't know how gay dudes can take getting fucked in the ass lol. Like I said, it's even more to take the bigger the dick is or would have to be. Like I said, it's great being a straight dude, god bless gay men. Sure women can deal with that too and may enjoy it from guys wanting to do it to them, but straight women don't have to as they can get pleasure and have sex all vaginally. If a gay man wants to fucked or be "fucked, it has to be that way, because well, there's not other alternative as guys don't have vaginas obviously ha. Lesbians if they want to fuck as in penetration, well a lesbian can fuck another anally with a strap on, but since women have vaginas, one can simply fuck the other with a strap on vaginally. So gay guys have no other option if dealing with penetration.
And if it's painful for them, then they can't fuck and no other fucking alternative like I said compared to straight couples or lesbians
Yeah that's crazy. It can, but I don't know how people can do it. I guess if they really want to do it bad enough and take time finding ways to stretch it. Like there are woman who can be fisted vaginally and I'm like how the hell?
It's less about "stretching" than you think. It has a lot more to do with lubrication and going slowly.
I guess, but like I said women's vaginas are made to have babies come out of them. Yet despite that even when I've seen that women or some wome can handle fisting and despite that, I'm still like how the hell does that not hurt her? I don't know how people can handle fisting even if it's vaginally, which there are women who can be fisted.
Yep, and that's why I am saying many of your assumptions are wrong. You don't understand how, yet... it still happens.
I like the overall message, except for when you said “some women who really like large penises”. Massive understatement.
I'm small, admittedly I'm around 4 inches (erected) maybe smaller and I admit I refrain from dating because of it.
You're not alone comrade
@TheUglyMan ayy
Too much knowledge you provide in this article.
It's hard not too when plenty of women do care
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2384388-would-a-4-inch-dick-e-be-accepted-in-your-relationship
"but I really want guys to know their dicks are just fine. Really, just fine. Don't worry so much." Yea as long as you are about average or bigger..
I love these "size doesn't matter, as long as it's around the size I like"
I didn't say that. OTHER women may say it, because they too suffer under some false ideas about the role of penis size in female pleasure. I don't say that, because I don't believe it and it's not true.
So the smallest penis and the biggest penis in the world are both just fine for you? This just cannot be true. And therefore you cannot say that "guys, your dicks are just fine" because you wouldn't be fine with 1 inch or half a meter dick. You just mean that the guys that are in the range of your preference are fine.
The biggest in the world may be too big - that I don't know. But I have had sex with 10-12 inch guys enough to know it can work. And since I also have sex with women, I don't even need there to BE a penis, so I can certainly deal with small/barely there penises. It's all just a matter of being creative with sex and knowing how to make the most out of whatever the guy has - certain particular acts may be off the table (like, cowgirl position can be really difficult with a very large penis.) But there's a million things two people can do in bed, so size is really no impediment to fun.
Ah I see. You are talking about "can you date a person with particular size". Not that what is the desired / ideal size. For me the "size question" is a little different. As a perfectionist and having a smaller than average, I just can't date a woman if she doesn't PREFER the size. I'm never going to be the guy whose woman has to "be okay with, creative and work with it" when she could just go with some bigger dude and have time of her life. I just don't think this helped any guy since everyone knows two female can date too. I've always thought it more about what is the size women PREFER and not what she's okay to deal with. Of course I know I can be "ok", but can I be the ideal... probably not unless she has a smaller than average vagina, whatever that means...
I don't have a desired or ideal size. I have personality traits I desire. I desire that I have similar interests with a person. I desire intelligence. I desire that indefinable "chemistry". But once I have those things, I will desire the person sexually, and I literally do not care what size anything is downstairs - just that it's had a recent shower and has no diseases. Though I have to admit, I don't like genital piercings, because they get in the way.
... and, I will praise, compliment and love all up on what they have so they never feel like there is something different that I want more than I want them. I have a body type that is not considered ideal either, but still I have loved many people who have just loved my bod because I am so confident in it, love to be free and comfortable in my skin. And there are even big groups of people who only like women who look like me (Though, some of them can be kinda creepy). Rock what you have and you will always encounter people who love your swagger, and confidence.
I don't have a vagina and I'm very open minded to learn, but I just cannot believe you could go to a sex shop and order a random sized dildo and no matter what size it is, you would't think "actually I would like bigger or smaller". That just goes against every law of the universe. I understand the personality part. But this goes back to the person, rather than the penis itself. The penis / dildo doesn't have a personality, what do you choose then? There are a lot of women whose favorite size is the big one, for you it seems like everything is fine, but there seems to be no one, whose favorite size is the smaller, that's the problem. It doesn't really satisfy me that some girls prefer a big one and some girls are okay with everything. Do you see my point?
Oh, I don't use dildos myself pretty much ever. I buy dildos to put in my strap-on harness and I have a full range from pretty petite to gorgeous giant, that I use depending on what my lover desires at that moment. I even have dongs that aren't human looking. As to what other women want, I can't totally speak to that, because they may not have a very good idea of ALL the sex things you can do where penis size isn't important. A lot of men and women think sex is just that thing where a man is sliding his penis in and out of a vagina, and they think size matters a lot that way, because it's all about the mighty mighty penis! If you have a sort of expansive, expert level knowledge of sex, and especially female pleasure, you realize it really doesn't all work that way. That's also something I touched on in MyTake.
And you can't really compare other body parts things to penis size. If I'm with two women with different body figures or even vaginas, it has no impact on my body. My penis is not going to shrink or grow regardless of the size of their vaginas, therefore it's not going to affect to the other girl. But if a woman is with two men, a big and a small, the big will stretch the vagina and make the smaller one irrelevant. Yea of course I have a lot of other "imperfect" things too about my body but those things never bothered me because they are not relevant. I never understood people who are insecure about their height, shape or look. They are all just cosmetic.
No, big penises do not stretch out the vagina. That is not how vaginas work. Even a fist and part of the forearm doesn't stretch a vagina out. A human infant strains the vagina, but even then, the vagina goes back to normal. I have several lovers, with different penis sizes from entirely non-functioning to exceptionally large. The one I spend the most time with and love the most has the non-functional penis. I know you REALLY want me to have a preference, but I don't. I'm very sexually satisfied as a person, and it has never made any difference what size a guy has.
"A lot of men and women think sex is just that thing where a man is sliding his penis in and out of a vagina, and they think size matters a lot that way, because it's all about the mighty mighty penis" So in this particular action where the penis goes in and out, the size is important, but not at the parts where this action doesn't occur? I agree, when you are kissing on the couch and watching the evening news, the size of the penis is not important, I agree. My question is: Are there women who actually prefer the smaller than average penis. (Penis in vagina action, not foreplay or other things where penis is not present).
No but of course you have a preference if we just talk about the penis size and not the carrier. You cannot claim to like non-functional penis more than a functional penis :D You mean that you like the carrier more. But what if the carrier had a functional penis too? Of course you would like him more.
"I have a body type that is not considered ideal either". "And there are even big groups of people who only like women who look like me". Excuse me? If there are a big group of people who only like women who look like you, then how that is not ideal? That's exactly what Ideal means. And good for you. Sadly there are not even a small group of women alive on the earth who ONLY likes the guys with small dicks. I see you are a woman and you want to guys to feel better about themselves, but lying is not the way to go about it. You seem to be the only one in the world that can take a non-functional and 10 inch penis and doesn't make a single difference in your pleasure, but that's how normal women work. Most of the women would probably say that 10 inch is too much and a non-functional is irrelevant (not the person). You can like the guy with non-functional more than the guy with a large one, but you can't say that a non-functional penis is better than a functional penis. it's just nonsense
No one is lying about anything. You're just stuck on this idea of very penis-centric sex. And I don't think you get what I was saying about my body type - my point was, I rock what I have. Everyone's gotta get ok with what they have.
I get it. You are not trying to say that every penis size is equally good, but it's not so important if it's not that good. I know there are other aspects in sex too, but I was talking purely about penis in vagina action, not other aspects. And sadly there aren't women who want smaller one. They (and you) can be okay with it and deal with it, but it's not desired like bigger would be. If you had to choose one size to be with the rest of your life, it's so obvious you wouldn't go for the small one, no one would. And sure as hell no one would say "doesn't matter, give me any size". Of course it matters.
I don't even need there to be a penis in the equation at all.
That’s why you are not credible. Why would a woman who can completely live without penis write a take on penis to say that women don’t care about penis size. Is a bisexual guy the best expert on vaginal feel no. Let’s find someone who takes their penises seriously
I do take penises seriously. But I also know how female anatomy works and how many women feel about dick size.
Well now all my concerns have been washed away. Thanks internet lady.
I don't know if it washes away anyone's concerns. In some ways, I think I posed something that really minimizes the importance of the penis all together, and I can see that some may find that insulting. Maybe not. This is just the thing I think about when I see the question.
Good take except #1. The truth is that we CAN change size with exercises.
Oh and the moral of this take applies to women too who beg for boob jobs and enlargement.
That's not true. All the research, all the medical science - and unless you have a major, painful surgery, there is nothing you can do to increase size in a meaningful way. I know you REALLY want to believe all those methods on the internet work. They don't work.
They don't? Alright. Not necessary here though, so I have no personal experience.
Nope, I've given up with women. I'm not even average here. I'm 4 inches. I don't want to face anymore humiliation/embarrassment/shame because of it.
I have nightmares of women pulling down my pants and laughing at me.
Giving up on women feels like a huge relief, not having to worry what a women thinks of you, whether you will be able to pleasure her. I would encourage men in my position to do the same. I used to want to get married and have kids, but I think I can live a good single life.
You're not even 25 yet. There's time yet for you to get ok with what you have and have wonderful, loving, fulfilling relationships. I can't guarantee that you will never meet a cruel woman, but you can do a lot to select partners who not only won't tease you, but like, even love, you enough to love whatever you have. I have a boyfriend with a completely non-functional penis due to a disease he has, and though I was a little bummed that I couldn't give him pleasure the way he gives it to me, I really love him and we have a great relationship.
Amen brother wise choice