The girl of your dreams finally gave you a blowjob? now what?

[Anonymous]

will it make you like her more or less? some guys will say why less? because some guys just do and get bored after they get what they want. please explain. thanks! HAVE A NICE DAY EVERYONE!

[Anonymous]

The "finally" is important. If you lead with oral sex early in dating, you will be viewed as shallow and insecure...using this to gain against lacking in personality. LESS

If you deliver it as an unexpected reward for a guy who respects you and stays beyond a few dates where you haven't jumped right into sport sex and have developed a satisfying friendship, the opposite is true. MORE, MUCH MORE.

I ask only one thing. If you are going to do it, finish it. Don't stop or ask him to tell you when the moment is arriving so you can. Very frustrating to the guy.

[Asker]

Its not about the girl. its about the guy who asked her for a blowjob. the girl is nice and all but its the guy who said he likes her and that but he says he's gonna stay if there is sex and he's not gonna be bored of her. from what it looks like after the blowjob, he's pulling away slowly which is hurting the girl because she stupidly gave in to a wolf dressed in sheep. :(

[l-hedoniste]

Of course I'll like her more. But I might move on anyway, if a blowjob is all I wanted.

[Asker]

Wow that hurts. so the guy lied then. how should the girl move on for future calls from this d***.

[l-hedoniste]

Do what he did: forget.

[sinful1620]

The girl of my dreams would not "finally" give me a blowjob. I have no problem committing to a girl and after a few weeks if she's holding sex and physical intimacy over my head, I'm going to rapidly lose any feelings I had for her. If she's making me wait, or making me pester her for some minor sexual favor, she will never be the girl of my dreams.

Assuming the "finally" was just a poor choice of words, when the girl of my dreams gives me a blowjob (I'm presuming a pretty strong level of commitment already) I GAIN respect for her, because it's her showing that she really enjoys doing something purely because it makes me feel good.

[Asker]

Well this girl is all you wanted from a woman. almost perfect but the sad thing is she's not yours. that's what y she's called girl of your dreams. and the guy in question here asked for it. but she didn't wanna give it to him because she thinks he will lose interest afterward. that's the situation

[sinful1620]

So you're refusing certain sexual connections because you're trying to control the situation. Thus not the girl of my dreams. QED.

[Asker]

Well said.

[Petertheniceguy]

Totally agree. If the woman of my dreams "finally" did anything.. she's not the girl of my dreams.

[Longshot]

I suppose it's it's possible that some guys would see it as the "thrill of the chase" and once it happens the thrill is gone. But I should think on the whole, most guys would like you more.

[Asker]

Id have to say the guy in question has like the girl less. and the rush is gone. :(

[yengesi]

The girl of my dreams wouldn't hesitate to give me a blowjob, so I don't really understand the question.

[Asker]

Well she doesn't belong to u. and she won't just give it to you btw.

[yengesi]

Then she's not the girl of my dreams.

[Asker]

She still is because she doesn't belong to u. that's why she's called girl of your dreams, not in real life

[buzzard]

We don't get bored. It's chemistry. There is something in our brain that once we had our orgasm, we aren't in the mood anymore. (not speaking out of experience since I never had anything)

but I can't imagine a guy liking his girlfriend less because of it. On the contrary, I've known guys who broke up because she didn't want to do it. They're pigs of course but it's the best proof I can think off. Try to get yours before he gets his, that's what I would do if I ever get so lucky, guy goes down first.

[Asker]

His not his girlfriend. he is the girl of his dreams, that almost too good to be true girl for him. yea she should have just hold on to it not give in

[JohnnyH73]

I honestly don't think a blowjob is all I'm looking for.

[Asker]

Thats a really good answer. you're one of those good guys.

[KarKingJack]

If your inclined to say less, then she probably wasn't the full on girl of your dreams. Quite often the idea of someone being out of reach makes them far more attractive in your mind than you would really find them otherwise. When they're steadily within reach then the excitement fades.

Personally? It would depend on the girl, I suppose.

[Asker]

How?

[KarKingJack]

Well, like I was saying there, the excitement of hope for physical contact is what motivates a lot of the 'dream girl' idiom. Amidst all your fantasies, you fill in the blanks - your dream girl is suddenly without fault, you know? So when the physical aspect is reached, that pipe-dream quality to my attraction is eliminated, and I'd start to look for more things, 'cos I've compensating for them in my head.

[KarKingJack]

If she ends up actually being a mad bitch, then I'd probably like her less. Whereas if she's actually a really good person, or whatever qualities I like in a girl, then I'd start digging her even more. Although, I'm taking for granted I barely know the girl prior to the blowjob? Like a first year (middle school?) crush on the girl in the year above.

[Asker]

Well because the guy in question here is treating her just a blowjob, obviously she is getting turned off and less interested because she didn't just wanna b a booty call or a 7/11 for him. she's not acting like a mad bitch. she just wanna stop being his one call away ho. by the way, she just started ignoring and stop talking altogether to tell him it's over.

[KarKingJack]

Ohh, so this is a specific thing? I thought this was a hypothetical question. I wasn't making any insinuations about your friend, I was just speaking generally. Also, in my interpretation I and the proverbial dream girl had gotton into a light sexual relationship, juxtaposed to a 'one call away ho' situation.

[noclueman]

I would be more in love with her then before...wanting more and hoping that she will open up to letting me inside her

[Asker]

Good for u. lol

[Anonymous]

If we weren't in a committed relationship and she gave me a blow job, I would be looking for a new dream girl. I probably wouldn't accept in the first place. A dream girl is much more than looks. If she wanted to do sexual things before a relationship, she wasn't really my dream girl anyway.

[Asker]

The guy begged for it