The No Sex Sleep Over?

[OutOfMyElement43]

Another question made me think of this. Why in the hell would a girl think a guy would want to have a no sex sleep over? If your a guy, does it p*ss you off when you get suckered into the no sex sleep over?

[scotschik]

"If she stays at my place, there is no expectation of sex" hmmm then why do you expect it when you stay at her place?...does she "expect" to get the invites to stay at yours?how much notice do you give the girl?i don't think either girl or guy should "expect" anything other than spending "quality" time together,whether in a serious r'ship or not...like one person said,its def bull if the only reason you want a girl to stay over (at your place) is if your expect something out of it,moreso if there's no expectations when she stays at yours...same rule applys :)

[OutOfMyElement43]

If I go out with someone, she's always welcome to sleep over, no expectations. I'm leaving to pick up my fiance from the airport. I ust hope she's in an amorous mood after a long day of travel.

[LydAF]

My boyfriend and I usually stay over with each other a few times a week. We end up having sex about half of the time, and the other half we just kiss and give each other massages and cuddle.

I really do not think it upsets him when we just cuddle and sleep, and I do not think that any guy has a right to get upset if his girlfriend is not up to having sex every single time. Women are not sex machines.

[nenemomo]

or the reverse. from my experience, some guys just wanna spoon. it's SOOOOO frustrating

[cjwright79]

My good man, there are other things to women than just putting your parts inside hers. If you were sensually-sensitive you would know this well. Since you are not, I will let you rant and rave.

[OutOfMyElement43]

Fellow gentleman, I sincerely apologize. It seems my insensitive comments may have offended you. I?m sure that each and every dame praises you for defending her nobility. My crass words sound shameful to those who honor the ?no sex sleep over.? I am grateful that you will allow me to continue this rant; though vulgar and insensitive my words may be, the ?no sex sleep over? pains me. In expressing my gratitude, let me wish you many nights of spooning in which no intercourse ever take place.

[cjwright79]

Sir, until you learn the value of sincerity, I will have little else to speak to you about.

[OutOfMyElement43]

+1 for not speaking to me.

[cjwright79]

Hey, we might actually get along! :)

[OutOfMyElement43]

I?m in favor of sarcastic discourse. Let?s keep it civil. :)

[cjwright79]

I see this discussion has reached the end of its sensible life.

[Killfest400]

My good fellow sirs, I feel that it should be restated that such an altercation would be more suited to a location other than a public internet forum. Such trivialities would most properly be handled in a more private fashion.

[cjwright79]

I concur with your thesis good chap!

[cjwright79]

You ought not to have sex in private residences anyway. It's kinda lame and tame.

[OutOfMyElement43]

Preaching to the choir my friend; preaching to the choir. I'll save that one for another day.

[cjwright79]

:)

[kaylanicole]

This might be crazy... but maybe some guys want more from their girls than just sex. Lol. Maybe?

[OutOfMyElement43]

You're right that's just crazy talk. There are other ways to show you care for a woman; that she not in your life is just a sex object. On the flip side, asking a guy to sleep over only to deny him sex shows just how little you care for him. Just a little FYI.

[kaylanicole]

What better way to show you care about someone than spend time with them? And I kinda think you have it wrong, because I wouldn't want to spend a night with anyone I don't care about. Especially if I'm not getting anything but their time from it either. If the girl isn't down to have sex she shouldn't be teasing the guy a lot, but it's definitely bullsh*t if the only reason you want to spend a night with the girl is because you are expecting something out of it.

[John-Bee]

In general yes.

If there is a simple reason, just not feeling well, not in the mood now, something or someone besides me upset you.

But again in general yes if it's implied that I'm spending the night then I would think sex.

If we see each other several times a week no then I wouldn't think sex every time.

Just some together time.

[MrWizard]

I guess if the expectations are set up front, it isn't a problem. I've done that before and knowing going in we weren't going to have sex meant it wasn't any kind of let down for me.

[OutOfMyElement43]

It would be different if she said: "you can stay over, but I don't want to have sex." I could politely decline. I talking about being asked: "do you want to sleep over?" After accepting the invitation, I get: "I don't feel like sex; let's just cuddle." I feel like saying: "Rather than cuddle, just punch me in the balls and let me go home so I can sleep in my own bed!"

[Killfest400]

Going to her house expecting to get laid would be fine if she said she was going to have sex with you. Just because she did not specifically state that there would be no sex does not mean that you are entitled to it.

[MrWizard]

I think the asker's point here is that (at least in western society) there is some implied implication of a physical relationship when the girl invites him to stay. In the movies when the girls invites in the guy in, how often does it transition to anything other than the two of them getting it on? No, he isn't "entitled" to anything, but this guy is just upset because their expectations weren't the same. I've been at that same frustration point a time or two before, but never felt "entitled".

[OutOfMyElement43]

Let me clarify. I'm not talking about going to her house expecting to get laid. I'm talking about being at her house and getting the unexpected "do you want to sleep over?" I'm not talking about the commited relationship expected sleep over. I'm talking about a pre-relationship, a sex precedent in place, sleep-over. I'm sorry I didn't make that clear.

[Anonymous]

In the past I have invited guys to spend the night and we made out and fooled around a bit but I always stopped them before we had sex. So we end up spooning instead.