"The Pull Out Trick" A Method of Birth Control?

[princess25sarah]

Ok, so I know that when you have sex, that relying solely on the guy pulling out before he busts is not an adequate form of birth control. However, I do know that some people think it works. I would like to know why. I'm on birth control pills. I take them religiously because I'm not ready for an "oops" yet. My buddy knows this, but still insists on pulling out before he cums. GUYS: Why is this? Also, I mean.if the guy is really good at being able to tell and pulls out on time and all that.does that really work alone? I don't think so because of what they tell you about the "pre-cum" and all that. But does anyone know statistically what the odds are? Just curious. Especially about why a guy would still pull out if he knew it was safe. Just seems like it makes an unnecessary mess caught in his basketball shorts that he'll just have to wash later. And if he were all that worried about it, why wouldn't he use a condom (I know it doesn't feel good, it's not particularly plesant for me either, but if you're that concerned.?) Any and all answers are appreciated. Thanks.

[lilnurse2010]

Pulling out is better than nothing at all, but its not that great a form or birth control in itself. Working in pediatric nursing right now, I speak with teen girls all the time about this. You are right, the "pre-cum" that comes out ahead of time can contain hundreds of thousands of sperm, and as you know it only takes one. The odds are something like 60-80% of people who rely on pulling out alone will become pregnant within a year. Of course you will always see the one girl who has done it that way all her life and hasn't got pregnant, but the odds are against you. And face it, all guys aren't good at knowing when to get out. Pulling out when already on birth control just means he really wants to be safe. Birth control is only 97% effective, and anything you can do to try to make up for that 3% is cool with me. My boyfriend pulls out with a condom on ( I can't take hormonal BC) because you just never know if that thing was broke in there. If you aren't ready for that "oops", just keep on taking that BC and let him pull it out!

[princess25sarah]

Wow, thanks so much for your insight. I had no idea that the odds were that high. Up to 80%! Jeez luiz! That should be enough for a guy to keep it in his pants. Haha. I've never had a problem with it. It's his choice and doesn't bother me. I was just wondering how a guy thinks on the topic. Thank you so much for your answer. I really appreciate the facts that you offered. :-)

[lilnurse2010]

No problem. Yeah it annoyed me that my boyfriend did it at first, like I felt like he didn't trust me or something, but when I asked he said he didn't want to chance ruining my education with a baby.

[princess25sarah]

Awe! Good answer on his part.

[melissarose8585]

Everybody's pretty much answered your question, but I'd like to say that I'm a pull-out baby! I was the "oops" for my parents. They were already married and such, but kids were one of those things they halfway tried to prevent but were also looking forward to.

I think so many young couples resort to it because they are too immature. I mean, many teen guys and girls won't walk into a store to buy a condom (what if someone saw, oh no!) and they don't get on birth control because they won't tell their parents or don't realize Planned Parenthood will give it to them cheap. And then there are the "it will never happen to me" or "we were in the moment and didn't have anything else" and the lovely "if he doesn't come inside I can't ever get pregnant" arguments. It's a basic lack of good information and ignoring what good information is out there.

[princess25sarah]

Haha, I love the "i'm a pull-out baby" part. That's cute. And kinda funny that your parents told you that. Thanks so much for your responses. And I agree. People are immature and shouldn't be having sex. My sister was 13 her first time (WOW, young, I know, I don't like it either but I'm glad she came to talk to me) but she's always been responsible. SHE buys the condoms so there's no "oh I don't have one." I wish more kids would be like that.

[beachtexasgirl89]

Basically I think it's a good method but only if used in conjunction with another method. For example, a guy wearing a condom and pulling out is less likely to get a girl pregnant than a guy just wearing a condom.

[dakadan]

There is no such thing as "safe sex" only safer sex. The pill is not the most effective method of preventing pregnancy. The addition of the pulling out method could help, but I agree that it isn't always fun and should never be used solely. A condom in addition is always a good idea too especially if neither of you is on the same page concerning abortion or giving birth.

[princess25sarah]

What is the most effective method of pregnancy prevention? See, I had thought that the pill (if taken as directed) was pretty much the best way to go. But I guess not. Is there any ONE method that is the best? Or is it just a combination of all the most effective ones? Well thanks for your insight. I guess even I have to go back and buff up my research :-)

[DixieGirl2406]

The safest sex is no sex. With every kind of contraception there is, there is always a slight chance of pregnancy. But a mixture of a few of them (birth control, pulling out and condoms or whatever combination) helps lower the risk of getting pregnant but doesn't eliminate your chance completely.

[dakadan]

It depends on what you are trying to protect from: pregnancy or disease. For pregnancy my understanding (after of course no sex and sterilization) is (and it depends on whose stats you read): Implanon Jadella Combined injection IUD Depo Provera The Pill Contraceptive patch NuvaRing mini-Pill condom Diaphram

[AJtogo]

The withdrawl method is the only method of birth control sanctioned by the church. It's not a great method but it's better than not attempting any birth control.

The biggest risk nowadays with this method is that it offers no protection for either person against STDs.

[princess25sarah]

Oh wow I didn't know that about the church. I knew the Catholic church was against birth control. I didn't know that withdrawling was ok by them though. Well the only sure fire way to protect against STDs is to use a condom, stay abstinent, or be tested (which I am.) If you have a steady "buddy" and you both are STD free then it's not a worry. Especially if neither of you are sleepin with anyone else. Thank you for your answer. :-) Learned somethin new!

[ggazelles]

Stay on birth control and use condoms. Problem solved.

[ggazelles]

Worst. Idea. Ever.

[l-hedoniste]

Of available birth control methods, withdrawal, while better than nothing, is the least effective option available.Poor planning is the only reason to resort to it.

PLEASE do some homework, and talk with a doctor you trust (Planned Parenthood and Scarleteen both have comprehensive discussions of birth control choices). You have many more options than this, and you can combine birth control options for added effectivmess.

Accidental pregnancy is ALWAYS unnecessary.

[wally]

safe better than sorry because maybe he don't wanna take this chance that you became pregnant .

[princess25sarah]

So it's like he's doing his part to keep us both safe from an "oops"?? Since I'm taking birth control, he's pulling out. Like we're working together? Gotcha. Cus I would definitely prefer to think that than to believe that my best BEST friend doesn't trust me. Haha. :-) Thanks for the answer.

[Alexz0]

I've always relied on it.