Thinking of losing my V-card myself...

Before you all lecture me about how I shouldn't lose my virginity with some guy just to get it over with, that's not what I mean here. I'm thinking of buying myself a dildo and using that so I can control EXACTLY how fast/slow and deep it goes and go at my own pace. I'm thinking that maybe it'll hurt less, too, at which point in time I actually go for it with a guy. What do you guys think, good idea or not? And do you have any suggestions for a dildo I could buy?
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  • I think it's a very good idea. Since you are a virgin, you will probably want a vibrator or dildo on the smaller size. You can always get others. If you do it yourself, you can control the amount of pressure you use and you don't need to worry about blood since you are in a controlled environment. The only way I think it would be preferable to do it "live" would be if you have debilitating fear when you break your hymen. Do you prefer to pull band-aids off yourself? or have someone else do it? I'd use similar logic to deflower yourself.

    Make it a ritual and endow the occasion with the ceremony it deserves. Do it in your bedroom with music you like, incense, etc. Don't do it in a bathroom with cold fluorescent lights. Try to do it lovingly to yourself. You will want to sit or lie on a towel because you may bleed a little. If it doesn't hurt, continue to explore with whatever "marital aid" you have. Get to know your body, where pressure feels good and where too much pressure hurts.

    There are a million places to buy all kinds of stuff on line and in many stores. I think it's one of the most thoughtful ideas I've heard of. Good luck, enjoy. If you were really wanting to know a specific place where you could buy online or from store, let me know & I'll email it to you or post it.

  • Dont just f*** some random guy because you feel that you are the last girl not have to had sex yet. I'm sure you arent. Yes dildos can be great fun, I like to use them on my girlfriend and it gives her bigger than normal orgasms. We have a rabbit that we use on her pussy, a medium sized butt plug (for anal play) and a straight pink jelly vibe for both anal and p**** play. If you want a large orgasm try doing double toy penetration in both your ass and your pussy. Have you ever done anal masturbation before? If not it is very rewarding (according to my girlfriend) and opens up a new dimension for masturbation.

    • Uh, if you'd read the question well you'd see that I'm NOT planning on going out and f***ing some random guy.

    • My comments actually reinforced your view, as I spent time describing what dildo to buy. If you want help be nice!

    • Your answer wasn't clear then. Thank you anyway.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I thought about it after I was molested, because I didn't want any guy to have that sort of power over me. I was really shaken up at the time and all these worse case scenarios started playing out in my head. I came to the conclusion that getting rid my hymen was for the best, because if I ever was raped, at least the guy wouldn't be getting my virginity too -- or at least he wouldn't think so. However, before I could take action I visited a gyno and it turns out my hymen was gone ages ago due to contact sports and some old injuries.

    I think many of my own reasons were reactionist, but I still support your decision to take matters into your own hands.

  • what she means is she wants to pop it and figure out exactly what she likes so when she DOES lose her virginity she can tell the guy just how to do it :)

    i feel that its all up to you, in the end.

  • Using a dildo for masturbation does not mean you lose your v-card...

    you can try that,but there's no guarantee.I'd just let it happen naturally unless you want to masturbate

    • Well, not literally, no, but I'm calling it that anyway. Haha.

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  • You should look into getting a cyberskin dildo. They look and feel like the same thing a 'penis'. When it comes to virginity its in the eyes of the beholder.

    If you masturbate in the hopes of organism and succeed or accomplish that goal, then you're not a virgin to me. Another person may accept you have sex with a mule and call you a virgin.

    I think you should do what's makes you happy and live with your choice.

  • It sounds like a good idea to me...

    so did you try it?

  • you want to pop your cherry with a dildo? I don't know it sounds like its a good and bad idea both at the same time. I mean you did say you don't value it. but then I don't know I think it sounds kinda corny if you ever told a guy that.

    • Haha, yeah, I guess it'd be a little corny, but I see it more as insurance against a really crappy first time. If I decide to do this at least I won't have to hope a guy can control himself enough not to hurt me.

    • meh, I can understand where your coming from. but if the guy cares enough bout you he should be trying to not hurt you and go slow and make your first time great.

  • technically, your hymen would be broken, but you'd still be a virgin

    • Yes, I know, I'm just calling it that for ease of communication and lack of a better way to phrase it.

  • Popping your Masturbation cherry Go for it but your not losing your v card

  • no do the real thing! just if you want a smaller one pick sum asian guy\

    haha but in all seriousness itf that's what you wanna do... then do it