Third Wheel in a Threesome Woes. WTF do I do?

So, I'm currently in a poly-amorous relationship with this lovely couple, and it's my first ever couple and girl experience all in one go. Things seemed to start out fine, but I made mistake of making a sexual request that upset someone, then jealousy started springing up between them, a mini-fight sprang, and it got a little bit complicated. we talked it out, kissed and made up. but now I'm suddenly really unsure of how to carry on without upsetting one by giving the other too much attention or not enough attention. It's making me anxious (in and out of the bedroom) and I just need some advice on how to keep us all happy somehow. Has anyone been the third wheel and know any 'third wheel rules' on what to do?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • it sounds like the other people, or just a person, is not cut out for a poly relationship. for it to work everyone really needs to put their insecurities aside, you are each going to have a different kind of relation with each other individualy that's part of the fun, it shouldn't be seen as threatning. I guess all you can do is have another talk with them and explain your feeling on the issue, hopefully you guys can come up with some kind of understanding between you.

    relationships are allot of work, when you add more people you add more fun, but also more work.

  • your not going to be able to have a subtle relationship when three are involved. it's too hard and where is the real love then between them when your in the picture? I would be very careful about her especially as she already feels threatened.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Yes it can be difficult. I do some. Best to sit down and talk first about what each person expects.

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  • if you're not happy, break up. that's all I can think of.