Too shy to have a boyfriend

I will be 23 soon and I'm still too shy to get a boyfriend. I get embarrassed easily, I would hate it if I was ever seen being affectionate (kissing, holding hands) in front of family or friends (not that they would care I'm just really shy and private). I'm also very nervous about the sexual part of a relationship. It just seems so embarrassing I don't think I could bring myself to do it or enjoy it. I will also hate it if anyone ever found out about me having sex, if someone walked in on me, heard me (even just the bed making noise) or if my boyfriend spoke about it to anyone I would feel so embarrassed and not want to face those people. I grew up in a normal non religious family so I don't know why I feel so shy about sex. It just seems dirty will make me loose my innocence and good girl vibe if I did that. I guess I'm scared to grow up or something. Am I really weird?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I don't think you're weird at all. I was this way once...in every way you described, until I got a girlfriend and I slowly let all that stuff go (although now that I'm single I'm getting a few of those traits back.)

    You would be surprised as to how fast stuff like this goes away when you find someone you care about. When you find that special guy, you'll find that you don't care if people see you being affectionate because you would be proud of it.

    As far as the sex thing goes, don't stress over it because its something that should be the furthest on your mind. When you find the right guy that you can trust, I think most of your fears about this would go away, but make sure he's a trustworthy guy. Take your time looking for that guy though.

    Just know that I've been there, and its kinda strange when its like that for a 24 year old guy, so you're absolutely fine. Whenever you find out what its like to have that special someone, it gets better. Trust me.

    I hope you find what you're looking for :)

  • If you want to be different in this way just go slow. Take small steps that are close to your comfort zone. Eventually you may find pleasure outweighs shyness and embarrassment.

    I used to be quite shy. I got over it.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Nope you rae not weird. You are just a good girl. Don't rush into sexual things.

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  • you sound like a virgin... you waiting for your wedding day or something

    • no I'll even be shy to do it on my wedding day. I'm not exited about having sex I'm nervous because it seems so embarrassing in every way.

    • why would it be embarrassing, its an natural thing to do

    • because it looks gross

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  • Just go with the flow...it is not illegal to meet someone, decide you like them...OR...to be happy?...(:(:(:

  • so you have never had a boyfriend before? I'm 24 and never had a girlfriend, I'm not shy to have one, more so just to get one