Tried to get my boyfriend inside but it didn't happen?

[Anonymous]

So, I was on him and I'm chubby. He's average sized and his penis is straight up against his stomach and doesn't bend much. I'm a virgin and I was struggling to keep his penis in place to get him inside. It kept moving out because the angle wasn't suiting.. He has tried to get on top of me but my thighs are a bit too chubby and he's a skinny guy, looks super easy in porn. Now what?

[markscott]

It really sounds like a positional thing. His penis being up against his stomach is common. You say it doesn't bend much, but it will bend enough for you to get into different positions. You just have to find the ones that work for you both. Missionary is a good position to start with, as it's simple and easy. He may need to get a little lower on your belly, and you may need to spread your legs wider.

[Asker]

We tried all day today.. It still didn't happen.. I even tried getting on him it won't go in.. It's like the angle is odd right? It's not straight it's like lower then straight.

[markscott]

Niki: If his penis is straight, as in not crooked, then him not getting in is not because of the angle of his penis. Something else is amiss. A penis hard and straight up, against his belly, is common. If he lays on you missionary style, with your legs spread wide, and him just slipping it in from a low angle, starting with his tip at your vaginal opening, then any straight penis should go it.

[Asker]

When he's there and I am spread it's still just like going out over my vagina and like the clit when he pushes.

[markscott]

Niki: I don't know just what you are trying to describe. When he is over you in missionary, is there something that keeps his penis from bending down a little? Even when erect, his penis should be movable to a fair extent. Certainly movable enough to bend it down to go into your vagina. Is he penis real short? Could that be the problem? It's difficult to understand that is happening, as it should just go in so easily. Are you wet? Does your vagina open a little when you spread your legs wide? Normally, when spreading your legs wide, it doesn't actually open your vagina, but rather makes access to the vagina easier, and makes it easier for the penis to push aside the vaginal tissues for entry. Have you tried entry from other positions? Such as doggy style? If so, can he enter that way? You can also have him lay on his back, and facing him, legs to his sides, gently lower yourself on his erection, sliding it into your vagina as you gently lower yourself on him.

[Asker]

He's on me in missionary so even if the tip is at the entrance as soon as he pushers it just moves out over my vagina instead.. It's not short.. It's like 6 ish so average. The problem is that I do get wet I guess but I dry up awfully quickly. I feel like I end up clenching when I spread my legs.. We haven't tried doggy but I did get on him and try to get him inside me.. We had the same issue. It's not bending back enough to push it back and sit on it.. Since it's literally flat against him it' doesn't move inside as soon as I push down a little, it falls flat against his stomach.

[markscott]

Niki" Even though his penis may be flat against him, it still can bend enough to go in your vagina. And your being wet should actually help him get in, not hinder it. The more I read, the more I believe there must be something positionally that is being done incorrectly. You said something about if you spread your legs, you clench. I'm guessing your mean your vaginal muscles are tightening. If your vaginal muscles are tightening too much, that he will not get in. Most likely you need to relax, spread your legs, make sure you are allowing your vaginal muscles to relax so the vaginal opening is not tight. Then he may need to put his penis right at the opening, and push harder than he has been pushing. And use your fingers to make sure he is at the right spot, right at the vaginal opening. And relax.

[Asker]

The problem is I'm in a habit of clenching.. Even if I don't want to clench as soon as I get turned on I start clenching cause it feels good. I clench when I masturbate and I clench when I pee and I clench all the time lol.. So I don't know how to not clench! The opening isn't easy to located because its so tiny that my pee hole keeps getting poked. So it's impossible for me to guide him there too because he's possibly over the entrance and pee hole too. Cause the vaginal entrance is tiny.. And I don't know if this gives a bit more in sight but I've seen people sucking their boyfriends and being able to look at them when doing so but I can't.. Like it doesn't bend that much even though I hold it up if if I suck, my face goes over his stomach so I gotta turn my head to the side to get him entirely in my mouth.. Not sure whats going on.

[markscott]

Niki: If you are clenching down on your vaginal muscles, and making the vaginal opening real tight, then he will have a lot of trouble getting in. The thing to work on is to relax when with your guy in a sexual way. I don't really know how to do this, but it seems logical that is your start by recognizing at what point, in what situations you start clenching. Before that point, work on relaxing, and stay relaxed as long as you can. If you find yourself clenching, and can't relax, then stop at that point, and wait until you do relax. Maybe even take a Benadryl, if that's OK with your physician, to help you relax. Slowly, and it may take multiple attempts, reach that point, and slowly reach beyond, relaxed. If this doesn't work, or you may want to do it anyway, there are sex therapists and perhaps medications that can help.

[LiamSawyer]

I'm not sure if you were on him as in cowgirl? If so try reverse cowgirl and/or doggy one of those positions may work for you both.

[Asker]

Cowgirl.

[liburnia]

Don't worry, sometimes it happens that you don't succeed at first time. Take some time for you to be fully relaxed and psychic ready and it will happend 😊

[natannq]

try other positions and keep trying! try bandoleer or the eagle

[truthbeknown]

Practice practice and practice!

[Doodabeat]

Lay on top of him.

[Vickykick]

Change positions. Lol.

[Dr_Latex_McPeggin]

I would start with using Lube on yourself and maybe start with a toy to relax a bit. Then try again with him and tried riding him on top either with Cowgirl or Reverse Cowgirl...

[andyaa]

He can't put his penis inside your vagina?

[masterkamasutra]

make him sit, and ride on his lap with cowgirl position.

[goyo5150]

I'm guessing he's too small

[Anonymous]

how do you know he's your boyfriend, if you haven't had sex yet

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[Anonymous]

Try reverse cowgirl

[Anonymous]

You can always just give each other oral.