Virgin question about foreskin

[Anonymous]

I am a male virgin, 24 years old. Although generally I regard myself as a learned man, in the ways of the bedroom I am rather naive. There may have been a sex ed failure somewhere along the way as well since it wasn´t until I was 21 that learned that one´s foreskin is supposed to be fully retractable to behind the head of an erect penis. At first I couldn´t do it but after some weeks of stretching I could. It still feels quite tight when the skin is pulled back when the banana is excited. I haven´t really done any more stretching after I hit that first milestone as the possibility of me getting with a girl is worse than snowball´s chance in hell and hence lack of motivation. Anyway, on to my questions: - When having sex and pre putting on a condom, you´re supposed to pull the foreskin behind the head, am I right so far? Assuming the above is true, lets continue: - How tight is the foreskin supposed to feel around one´s penis? Is it supposed to be flabby or just barely fit? (mine is the latter) - The end of my uncovered penis is extremely sensitive and I imagine that trying to thrust it inside of a woman won´t be too comfortable. Will wearing a condom help desensitize the head somewhat? Or will my first time be a painful experience considering the above?

[Ratty1975]

1) Yes, your foreskin needs to be fully retracted before you put on a condom.

2) As long as your foreskin feels reasonably comfortable when it is fully retracted then it shouldn't be a problem. If it still feels uncomfortable you should consult a doctor - he/she will be able to offer a range of treatments such as steroid creams and some foreskin stretching excercises to do. Another option is a minor surgical procedure called a dorsal slit - it's basically cutting a small slit into the opening of the foreskin in order to widen it and make it more comfortable to retract. The last option is a full or partial circumcision, but this should only be considered in the most serious cases.

3) The head of the penis is meant to be very sensitive - it's one of the most sensitive parts of your whole body. Some say that intact penises are more sensitive than circumcised penises which I tend to agree with. Wearing a condom will always desensitise the penis a little, and you can get condoms with a mild anaesthetic cream in the teated end in order to desensitise the head of the penis even more in order to make you last longer before you ejaculate. Your first time will be fantastic - true there may be some discomfort the first time you do it but trust me, once you get into it you'll soon forget about it!

[Ratty1975]

Yes, when putting on a condom you must always retract your foreskin. It is mentioned in the instruction leaflet in every pack of condoms.

When it is retracted, you should not really be able to feel the foreskin around the head. It should not be too loose but simply feel comfortable.

It is good that the head of your penis is sensitive - that's what the foreskin is for, to protect the head of the penis and the sensitive nerve endings it contains. Wearing a condom always results in a small degree of desensitisation, but some condoms contain a mild anaesthetic to desensitise the head of the penis in order to delay orgasm to make you last longer.

From what you describe, ie the tightness of your foreskin, it looks like a classic sign of Phimosis. Stretching helps obviously, but it can be treated by using steroid creams or if that fails you could consider a dorsal slit (cutting a small slit in the foreskin in order to open out the opening) or if all alse fails, circumcision. Treatment for Phimosis is the only occasion for which performing circumcision can be justified IMO.

In all likelihood, a course of steroid cream coupled with some stretching excercises would probably sort out your problem without ever resorting to anything surgical.

[Asker]

Bought some condoms for practice and was able to retract the foreskin just fine and put on the condom, things felt alright. The skin was a little tight but not uncomfortably so.

[Funkster76]

Your foreskin is suppose to move freely over and behind the glan (penis head) Stretching it (while using lotions like vasoline) help if it is tight. Some, find a hot bath helps loosen it more during stretching. You should do it just for health purposes (easier to pull back and clean under while showering). Because your penis head has seldom been exposed, it will be very sensitive at first, but the more you expose it, masturbate or have sex, the less sensitive it will become. Condoms do desensitize the penis to a degree and you will find it will help during sex not just to protect you from STD's, but also to help you last longer.

If you have any other comments you might feel embarrassed to mention openly, message me

[kheserthorpe]

Yes re condom.

Most guys during puberty learn to masturbate by sliding the foreskin up and down. At first its quite tight, but after years ... it slides easily.

Regarding the head of your penis, I'd guess you'll find it very very sensitive indeed. Painful? I don't know. I'd guess a mix of 'good' and 'too much'

[blackkid2]

1. You are to put on condoms when fully erect so however that naturally lands; it usually automatically assumes the position you're describing.

2. It is not a stringent standard. If it doesn't hurt you're good.

3. Actually the mechanisms behind the foreskin will take care of this itself. It's something I recommend you leave to experience rather than try to configure and adapt to the experience rather than pre-emptively solve. Also, it is likely, but not guaranteed, as condoms can agitate the skin worse than the vagina sometimes, well most times if certain conditions are not met.

[pates]

My (uncovered) tip can be "no, don't touch it!" sensitive, but once it slides inside - woo hoo! No pain or sensitivity at all.

[Anonymous]

Do not be ashamed of your virginity. I was over 35 when I lost mine.

To be American and ignorant of the foreskin is quite normal, and entirely the fault of American culture.

Keep on stretching your foreskin, but never to the point of pain. If problems persist, a urologist can prescribe a steroid ointment to be applied 2x/day. This ointment will encourage the tip of the foreskin to relax permanently.

If your foreskin is stuck retracted, immediately immerse your penis in tepid water. That should shrink your banana and allow the foreskin to move forward again. If this fails, you will have to drive to the nearest emergency room, sorry.

When using a condom (always a good idea!), first pull the foreskin back and completely expose the head. Leave a bit of room at the tip of the condom for what you will ejaculate. This reduces the chances that the condom will break. There are ways of using a condom that do not require exposing the glans, but I have no experience doing this. I have been easily retractable since age 15 or so.

As you age, your foreskin will grow more flabby, and your glans will become less sensitive. This is completely normal. I am over 60 and intact.

Don't be embarrassed about using store bought lube, especially with condoms. 15-30 minutes of foreplay is essential to get the woman moist. Many American women do not know how to take advantage of a man's being intact to get his precum flowing via foreplay.

A condom definitely reduces the sensitivity of the tender male bits. I speak from experience.

If your foreskin retracts easily, and if you know how to put on a condom, your first time should not hurt.

It is trickier to put a condom on an intact penis. But a condom is less likely to break or slip off if a man is intact. Intact men also have a greater potential for enjoying intercourse with a condom. Circumcised men are more likely to complain that intercourse with a condom is boring.

[Anonymous]

Yes you have to pull the skin back before you put the condom on and you need to keep stretching your foreskin. Keep your foreskin pulled back so your head becomes more desensitized.

[Ratty1975]

No! The foreskin should remain covering the head of the penis - its function is to protect the head of the penis and keep it sensitive after all, the more sensitive it is the better sex you'll have.

[Anonymous]

I used to have the same problem. You have a tight foreskin which some guys just have genetically. You need to keep stretching it until it's effortless to pull back (yes it's supposed to be pulled back when erect).

The reason why your tip is so extremely sensitive is because the foreskin has been on it for so long. It'll get a little less sensitive after a while and sex/masturbation will be pleasurable.