Virgin Ready For Sex, But Tired Of Waiting for Mr. Right

I'm a 19 year old virgin and definitely ready for sex, and my friends keep telling me to wait for the "right" guy and how the guy should come after me, not the other way around. What should I do?! I'm so ready for sex.
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I ended up having sex with my then boyfriend who turned out to be a douche bag who was cheating on me behind my back. I don't regret it at all though because it made me more comfortable with being with a guy.
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It'll be a year at the end of this month with my current boyfriend and things are great, esp with the sex :D
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  • You should know before I go on, I'm 16. ok, Here's my advice, you don't have to wait for marriage because not everyone gets married, don't spend your whole life waiting for "Mr, Right" because sometimes you could find him and you don't even notice. My next and most important piece of advice is to never just throw away your virginity even if it doesn't seem that important to you on just any guy. you might regret it later. and if you do. there's no taking that back. Wait until you meet someone who at least cares about you a little before having sex so that the first time isn't with some pig who never talks to you again after that one time.

    Also, Anyone can give you advice but in the end its your choice, your decision to make, not ours.

  • I am 23 years old. I had two sexual experiences, however I am still a virgin. My reasons are not because I haven't found Mr. Right, it is also because I need someone who can teach me appropriately how to reach the complete ecstasy without feeling uncomfortable.

    If you want to finish with your virgin days, tell it to a friend whom you can trust and you must be really sure that you are carefree and you won't get tied into a relationship.

    Also, if you are not going to have sex because of love, check his medical history and that he doesn't have STDs.

  • I'm 18 and a virgin and I am ready for sex, and I also don't want to wait for the Mr. Right, because that could take forever. It isn't wrong to want to have sex without waiting.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Just focus on getting the right guy as your boyfriend. Then take your time to build a high level of trust and closeness. Sooner or later he'll come after you for sex, trust me. But if he is a nice guy, expect him to be rather polite about it instead of demanding. This is a good thing, regardless of what romance novels have miseducated you about "passion" with their lustful desperados and bandits and pirates. A real (nice) guy is probably going to be a little more reserved than a jerk. Because he really likes you and isn't just using you for sex, which is the best kind of guy for you to choose to boff. Because he won't move on when done with you; he'll likely be into you more than ever after the sex. Meanwhile, masturbate a lot.

    • This is a good answer

  • At least wait till your in a relation ship or with a close male friend. Only saying this because there's a shitload of dangerous STD's around now days and youd probably wanna trust the person who you do it with. How lucky would you feel if you got climidia the first time you did it?

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  • You should know before I go on, I'm 16. ok, Here's my advice, you don't have to wait for marriage because not everyone gets married, don't spend your whole life waiting for "Mr, Right" because sometimes you could find him and you don't even notice. My next and most important piece of advice is to never just throw away your virginity even if it doesn't seem that important to you on just any guy. you might regret it later. and if you do. there's no taking that back. Wait until you meet someone who at least cares about you a little before having sex so that the first time isn't with some pig who never talks to you again after that one time.

    Also, Anyone can give you advice but in the end its your choice, your decision to make, not ours.

  • If you are POSITIVE WITHOUT ANY DOUBTS that you're ready and you WANT TO HAVE SEX and you understand the consequences that could happen when you start having sex and the pain then go ahead, it's your decision not your friends...IF YOU THINK YOU'RE READY BUT HAVING SOME NEGATIVE THOUGHTS AND YOU WANT TOO WAIT FOR THE RIGHT PERSON then you should wait. Your virginity is something special that you have and you want to lose it to that special person that you love or in a relationship with for a long time.

  • It's all about the right guy if you want it to be special for you. If you don't and just want to have sex for the hell of it go for it, but then think about the kind of person you have become.

    • Lol this coming from a guy is pretty hilarious!

  • I say that if your positive you want to have sex go for it. If you want it to be romantic wait for someone to sweep you off your feet and really love you. but if you can't wait that long talk to one of your really close guy friends. one that understands and you trust. he will take care of you and be gentle your first time.

  • Well, if you are not looking for love, just be aggressive. I'm sure there are a lot of guys ready and willing to de-flower you.

  • It's easy for your friends to say that, because it's not their problem.

    If you can't wait to fall in love, maybe just do it with a guy friend, and make sure he is discreet and doesn't tell anyone.

  • i know what you mean :-/

  • I say wait a lil longer...virginity is a special thing 2 a guy...and if he gets 2 pop your cherry..he will feel even way closer 2 u...and possibly way more romantic....my g/f is 19...and she's waiting 4 me...and that means so much to me.

  • Wait till you get married that's the right guy

    • Pff

  • Wait! Don't go looking for someone to lose it to, just for the sake of losing it. It'll happen when it's time to happen. I was feeling the same way. I'm 20 and just VERY recently lost it to a guy I met recently and it felt right, I was never expecting for it to happen and then it did, and I don't think It could've been any better. It was meant to happen. So just wait, it'll happen for you and you'll be glad you didn't pick a random guy.

  • honestly, you won't regret waiting even though you may be ready to lose your virginity.

    there's nothing wrong with developing a healthy relationship with yourself while you wait for an opportunity to come along. *hint*hint* besides, I think sex is better when both people know what they like and are comfortable with themselves.

  • I advise you not to tie yourself to a particular guy if you make sex you will broke something inside you and that guy might not continue to marry you and then you will be broken, any husband loves to be the first one to do sex with his wife.

    Save yourself, your love and your emotions to your knight to give him everything and your life will be full of love till death so don't finish the love you got to a temporary relationship.

    • I don't understand y girls have to b the one to wait but its totally ok for the guy not to be a virgin wen he has sex with her..all because he wants to feel "special"

  • I'm interested to know what you eventually did. Probably you followed your desires and had sex. I would like to point out, though, that sex for its own sake is lovely and all, but that once you get into a relationship you're probably going to look back on your casual sex experiences and think how pathetic they are in comparison to what you have with someone you care about who cares about you.

  • How old is this question? It has great answers!

  • just do it

  • wait

  • I think you should wait. For example I have found MR. RIGHT but only when I was 28, so I proud I waited. And my junior sister didn't wait so now she's lonely mother and its hard to find a husband for her.

  • Well I think that you should really listen to your friends...that is the exact problem I had. my firends would just keep telling me to wait, but I didn't listened to them and I had sex... after that... I felt REALLY emberrased and I wish I would've listened to my friends... its just that when you wait for MR.RIGHT, then everything just seems to work out good. and you won't be embarresed at the end.